part of what annoys me about “all men are trash - but like not trans men you guys are special!!” is the idea that trans men wouldn’t feel solidarity with our fellow men. that we would want to be divided from them, as if we don’t see them as our friends, brothers, fathers, partners, comrades etc. as if we wouldn’t want all of our fellow men to be freed from gender roles and cissexism.
yeah like what bothers me about that shit is, as a gay dude, I see what men are like when phones are away, cameras turned off, behind bedroom doors, how many of them immediately become so much softer and emotionally open & complicated. I like cis dudes as well as trans, not because I see them as some valorization of my Real Manhood, but because so many need to be held and cry into someone’s arms so badly & i mean SO fucking badly
hell yeah.
patriarchy hurts all of us. all of us.
I have said it before and I will say it again, male privilege is not actually good, or nice. It’s a conditional protection from marginalization but the conditions are set to make you absolutely miserable. It’s the same kind of privilege as an older sibling in an abusive family who can protect themself by making their younger sibling the main target. They’re still being abused.
