#true bdsm

What people don’t get about saying “It’s not kink if it’s not respectful of boundaries” is that up until the point where your boundaries are violated, “non-kink” looks indistinguishable from “true kink.”

It’s better to say “people do shitty things under the umbrella of kink, and if we’re not careful, we could end up helping them inadvertently.” People abuse the power exchange inherent to kink. Good groups will warn subs about this and shun such people, while bad ones will cover for the abuse, make excuses, etc..