Loving men is fun and good actually. Men can be soft and wonderful and caring and kind. My boyfriend has actually improved my life and I don’t get why I would feel bad for that. If I see any fellow bisexuals pull the whole “too bad I have my (yuck) boyfriend when I could have a good woman :((“ bs one more time I will scream.
Men are hot, they’re handsome, they’re pretty, they’re wonderful. They’re spectacular, they’re soft, they’re caring, they’re silly, their laughs are like music. Men give some of the warmest hugs, and the best snuggles. This goes for ALL men - yes, even the “fat” man you saw, even the punk guy with the tattoos and piercings, and men of color. Men are WONDERFUL. Men aren’t inherently violent, dangerous, angry animals. Can we please stop vilifying men and men who love men please?
And by the grace of Goddess I will keep villifying men until they all commit 70%
this is so fucking funny because imagine if someone did this for any other privileged/oppressor class. white people, straight people, able-bodied people etc. it’d look ridiculous and everyone would realize immediately that it’s stupid. but because misogyny is so normalized, women aren’t allowed to name their oppressors, and we certainly aren’t allowed to be mean to them
Okay, but Able-bodied, Cis, Straight, etc. people aren’t disbelieved or put down for being abused, raped, etc. by other people. They aren’t being genuinely harmed, nor is anyone trying to genuinely hurt them, for being those things. I haven’t heard a single person legitimately say “love those able-bodied suicide rates”.
Meanwhile, you hear radfems saying this shit, supporting abusers, raping/sexually assaulting trans kids (to turn them female again, speaking from experience here), being apologists for women who have raped/abused/etc. men (or even other women) or have said they would rape their own fucking child if it turned out they were a trans man. Having a whole internet culture go “I legitimately hope you die <33 you should feel ashamed to love men <<3” to the point it’s homophobic and I’ve heard gay men feel ashamed for being gay…like.
These things aren’t comparable because the same damage ain’t happening.
Anyways, I see you using “tra” so I’m also going to assume you’re one of those people who excuse (and secretly support) the rape of transmen (to turn them back!!), abuse of men (know you support that one oof), etc. And it’s gross and also reductive. Believing all men are inherently evil isn’t just harmful to men, it’s harmful to woman dumbass. “Men are inherently evil” is just another “boys will be boys” and men who are gross will use that as an excuse. Congratulations, instead of holding men up to a higher standard and bad men accountable for their actions you’ve played literally every woman! So smart, so wow. /S
radfems don’t support rape. at all. you literally cannot be a radfem if you support rape or any other form of sexual assault. that isn’t a “no true scotsman” moment either, before you say that, because radical feminism is a set of political beliefs that is (among many other things) explicitly anti-SA. that being said, if you have evidence of self-proclaimed radical feminists sexually assaulting or raping anyone, especially minors, PLEASE make a post about it so that those people can be held accountable and kept out of our circles. that’s absolutely disgusting and it won’t be tolerated.
acknowledging that men are an oppressor class and being cautious around them isn’t on par with saying “boys will be boys”. women are not “playing” each other, making excuses, or enabling men by pointing out how shitty they’ve been towards us. you’re drawing on the first rule of misogyny here.
i don’t believe men are born evil. i believe the way they are socialized in a misogynistic society severely impacts the way they see and treat women, that all men benefit from patriarchy, and that women have every right to be wary of them and talk shit about them online. i’ve also never advocated for anyone to go out out their way and abuse men, but if you want to lie about what myself and others like me believe in order to demonize us, i guess i can’t stop you.
I’ve seen jokes against those people, never seen the genuine hate or the vitriol I’ve seen for men. I’m curious about the homophobia that the trans community does, genuinely, how exactly are we homophobic?
As for the rape-apologist and actual sexual assault stuff - you can say that it’s not ideologically supported, but boy is it common. Through this post I’ve gotten rape-threats by radfem anons (when more radfems were responding) and I think that shows you how okay it is to do as long as it’s against one of the “bad ones”. The last thing about raping trans sons came from Lily Cade herself, in one of her rants about lynching trans women.
But, no seriously, how do you want me to prove that these personal experiences happened? I was sexually assaulted 4 years ago, by a radfem who was 30 and wanted to turn me female again. It did not happen over tumblr or Twitter. How do I prove it happened? How do I prove any of the abuse or sexual assault, or rape apologisism, that radfems have thrown towards me or friends personally happened if it didn’t happen over Twitter, or tumblr, or (worse) if it happened irl. Would Twitter screenshots even count, because I have screenshots from radfems who absolutely used demolish me before I got off Twitter for being trans. Would old discord screenshots count, or is there like a date-limit on this stuff?
I mean, just scrolling through the notes you can see radfems 100% support a rise in male suicide rates, is that not enough? What will be enough for you, because in my experience radfems don’t believe what they don’t want to. That is in my personal experience. I’m really glad you’ve never had to personally experience a radfem going up to a trans guy and letting them know that all they’ll need to be normal again is the feeling of another vagina, but sadly that’s a normal experience for trans men.
And yes, saying all men are evil (a common radfem phrase) does act like a “boys will be boys”. Just think about it. “Oh, I’m a man so I’m evil, so of course I abused my wife”. Like. That’s what is going to happen.
These are things that the radfem community is known for, if you haven’t encountered them I’m glad! Genuinely. Because in my experience the radfem community is one of the most disgusting, infantilizing, abuse-apologizing communities I have had the misfortune to encounter. And I’ve had run ins with MRAs (gross).
Lastly; I do not believe women are responsible for what men do. There are some real shitty men out there, I get that. I get that in some parts of the world, weariness against men is needed. I get that there’s nuance here. Feel free to call out shitty men for the things they do; I like knowing who to avoid, and I think all shitty people deserve consequences. But men aren’t responsible for what women do either.
I don’t want to have anymore messages in my inbox telling me that if I were a real man I’d kill myself like one, so I’m going to disengage now. Have a nice day!
