#virginity

Okay so i have to talk about this. It’s going to be a little rant-y and a little long, so if it’s not your thing, move along.

An Introduction

I’m 27, almost 28, with no prior sexual experience. In fact, I’ve never even kissed the opposite gender (that’s what I’m attracted to), I’ve never even held them in my hands. As someone with an extremely high libido (I can only presume it’s higher than the average person’s at the very least), the lack of sexual fulfillment is more than just a little frustrating. If you look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Sex is down there with the basic needs along with food and water. I’m not even talking about sexual intimacy, which is btw 2 levels above. Like just pure, raw sex, is a basic need. We are biologically wired to have sex. That’s what all life does. Yet as someone who’s about to pass their sexual prime without having one physical interaction with the opposite gender (or the same if you roll that way), this becomes more than frustration. Imagine this: starve yourself of food and water for a week; what’s the outcome? What, I can’t compare sex to eating and drinking, because one means life depends on it? In a biological sense, sex is the same. Without it, life can’t continue (in a reproductive sense). You’d go cannibals if we didn’t have anything else to eat. And that’s where the sense of a sexual craze and deprivation comes in. Being without that physical interaction, you’d slowly go mad. Frustration turns to anger turns to madness. And before you say “just have sex then,” it’s not that easy for some of us. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be in a place in their lives where that’s easily accessible.

What it’s like

So what’s it like being an adult without any sexual experience? It’s hell at best. With the openness of the internet and public opinion of sex, it becomes harder and harder to live within a society that expects you to have a degree of sexual understanding. Listening to people’s stories and experiences, only makes us envious of what we could also be having. And I know this is the case for even people who are sexually active, but literally everything is a turn on. You find the smallest thing that turns you on, and you make yourself believe now that’s your fetish. He/she raises her hand for one second, you get a glimpse of skin that you don’t readily see as often as other parts that are normally exposed, and then you’ve got yourself a boner/you’re wet. You go home, you masturbate to let out some of that sexual tension. Doesn’t help. You masturbate intensely, no relief. You masturbate violently, only to fuel your frustrations more at the end of it; that how can you stoop so low to masturbate to what you just masturbated to, just because you can’t even have 1 second of sexual action. You do this every day, multiple times a day. I’ll have you know on average I masturbate 5 times every day, with my records hitting around 8 times in a single day. And unfortunately, I know I’d be doing it a lot more if “life matters” didn’t get in the way of it. Yes, life will start getting in the way of fulfilling your sexual needs. That’s what it feels like. You see couple holding hands, making out, you watch porn and how they fuck in every way you wish you were fucking and you start to loathe everyone just because you can’t be with a single person, to even do the basic shit with. Even a kiss is porn to me. I don’t go swimming, because women in bikinis is porn to me. When all I’ve seen of the other gender is their face, that’s what starts turning me on. 90% of the time you’ll find me cumming to a pic of someone’s face rather than their body. Because that’s the only thing I see outside of my screen. So naturally that’s what I’ll gravitate towards.

Some other Thoughts

Not every person is fortunate enough to have sex. Whether it’s past experiences, current circumstances or other life matters, virgins have their reasons for being virgins. At the same time, those virgins such as I, with extremely high libidos and high levels of perversion, we have our reasons for being into what we’re into. We all get grouped under terms like “beta” or “incel” or “simp,” but that only does more harm than good. Do you think we like being mocked? No one does, unless that’s your kink I guess. You have to remember, even though we’re in our 20’s, 30’s, or even more, our sexual age is that of a teenager. That’s when our sexual needs became a thing, and they haven’t once been fulfilled. And yes we will hump anything that remotely looks like can somehow provide sexual gratification. We’re horny, and we do some stupid shit to get some sexual relief. It’s sad, it’s depressing, it’s frustrating, it’s maddening. But at the end of each day, we masturbate ourselves to sleep, just as we started the day with masturbation. We have our dreams, we watch our porn, we obsess over a few people sexual whether they’re fictitious or not, we fantasize about them, we want to fuck the shit out of them for all of eternity. But in reality, we’d be happy to fuck anything that moves at this point.

If you read all of this, thank you for taking your time. If you have opinions on this, please share them. If this is how you feel too, please share. Doesn’t matter what gender you are or who you’re attracted to, we all have sexual desires, and it’s a fucking basic human need. Don’t shame us for being “thirsty.”