a-miss-inside:Yes, there are going to be people who don’t approve, even abuse you for your cho

Yes, there are going to be people who don’t approve, even abuse you for your choices. But this is your time in the world. Shouldn’t you enjoy it?

Embracing and Showing the World…
Who You Are Inside…

I know what I feel when I wear what some call women’s clothes. It’s not a feeling of wanting humiliation, being called a sissy or being an attention seeker. It’s not because I want to attract anyone for sex. It’s wanting to feel my inner femininity, to feel it on my skin and see the clothes women wear on my body. When I can do this that’s when I smile.

For myself… If it were possible to just push a button to change the sex of my body, according to my DNA, and have a female body, with female genitals and everything else a female body has, I would push it without hesitation. I just want to live my life as the person I am. But it’s not that easy.

Some feel quite comfortable keeping their penis. Medical intervention should not be assumed or pushed because your uncomfortable seeing someone different. Some don’t because of costs, medical issues, etc…

I was taught by society, 1950′s - 60′s, that I am this male body I inhabit because of that penis between my legs I was born with. And because I was born male and look male I must project masculinity as a male. There is no other box. Anything else is an abomination, going against the natural order because I dare to wear and project femininity outside my box of being male. You’re either a man or a woman. There is nothing in between.

Women have for a very long time been treated as only a helper, the weaker sex. They were considered property and possessions of men. An example is a father giving away his daughter to a man who asked the father for her hand in marriage. That women showing emotions was a sign of weakness, not a strength. So for a man to emulate a woman was a travesty.

They, I, should be laughed at and ridiculed, be called a sissy and humiliated, not considered a man or a woman but shunned from society for daring to be different, step outside my role. It was assumed I was gay, homosexual, to crossdress, to attract a man. So many of us stayed in the closet, wore a mask of masculinity as we crossdressed in secret, not understanding who we are with a suicide rate at around 40%. We wore that mask, if we could, to survive and blend in. But it comes with a cost.

These lies many of us have grown up with should called out for the hurtful misinformation they are. Society has covered over our history for centuries. We have existed and do exist today. Repeating these lies, even after the proven research has been done to show the truth of our existence in nature, is insanity by a society.

We are here and have always been here. This binary theory of just two choices of gender is simply wrong. Gender is a spectrum like a rainbow of hues and shades. Your gender is not your sex. Being male does not automatically mean I’ll be attracted to the opposite, as if sex is only about procreation. Let people choose whom they love, want to live with and dress as.

So bottom line is just be yourself. Science has evolved to show our existence and end this binary lie of gender. Your sex, your genitals, is not your gender and you should feel free to dress as your inner self, your true self. Go ahead and smile when you feel those clothes on your skin and wear them proudly out in society.

Let’s empower every transgender person the right to dress as their true selves without ridicule. Don’t be a child’s first bully to push a binary lie because of what you think, perhaps uncomfortable how they might dress. Maybe you might think it will be easier for them because of their genitals to wear certain clothes. That’s the lie. Let them be their brave creative self with their clothing choices.

Your infectious smile may brighten someone’s day.