#ableist language tw
Reminder: the vast majority of abusers would not label themselves abusers. They would not label most (or any) of their actions as abusive. Not out loud, not even in their own minds.
The vast majority of abusers would adamantly deny it if you told them their actions are abusive. They’d fire back with a thousand reasons why their behaviour is perfectly normal and justified, why it’s your fault you feel hurt, and why you accusing them of being abusive is selfish or insane.
That doesn’t make their abuse any less real. It doesn’t make you any less of a victim or survivor.
