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I was just thinking about how my thoughts on spooning and the way ppl react to them feel like the most heavy-handed metaphor for how people respond to a-spec people

I don’t like spooning. I get that others like it, but it’s all sorts of no for me. And for years, it felt like I couldn’t escape people asking me “oh, are you the big spoon or the little spoon?”

“neither - I don’t really like spooning” I’d respond, and never get to expand before the individual would immediately launch into how “oh, but it’s so great! what position did you try? you must not like that position. you’ve tried both? maybe it was just the person you were with! oh you’ve tried with multiple people? that’s terrible! but spooning is the best thing! I can’t imagine not liking it, I’m a small spoon and it’s so great!”

and, if that weren’t enough - it didn’t matter that I like other forms of contact. I simply must like spooning in another context, somehow, because anything else made the other person feel sad.

it would have been funny if it weren’t so upsetting that the broad a-spec community on tumblr at the time felt exactly as obsessed with spooning.