I hate how white people invented the we don’t owe each other anything mindset
its a leftover from the mindset we got after food scarcity got so big in 1945 we had to eat plant bulbs and 30k people starved to death in one winter. expecting someone else to feed your kid is seen as pretty rude & especially if you leave the other parent with extra food that the kid wont eat now because thats wasted food. it might seem weird, but thats where its from
If you’re invited over for dinner then yeah ofc you’re being fed but dutch people tend to buy and cook exactly how much they need and no extra. we usually dont make extra dinner and eat that as leftovers the next day because we only eat warm food once a day
so if youre coming over unexpectedly and expect to stay over for dinner either you get told no or everyone goes hungry because youre getting a plate of scraps from other people’s plates which is awkward af and then no one gets enough food. youre usually expected to leave before dinner anyway if youre not invited
don’t know how to tell you this but plenty of peoples’ ancestors suffered famines without becoming multi generational assholes
