eek so i actually kinda went on a date and it was vv wholesome. we bought a stuffed animal puppy and we shared a crepe under the stars. we held hands and talked and then i held her. it was kinda greatttt. also for anyone who didn’t have a valentine you are still loved and valid and beautiful/handsome,,,,, i’m just kinda excited and gay and wanted to share
“I was a baby butch who had never heard the word and so didn’t know what to call myself until I first heard that word out loud in 1992 in the back stacks of Little Sister’s bookstore. I wore second-hand army boots three sizes too big and cut my own hair with clippers and met what I didn’t know at the time was my first femme lover and bought my first necktie and she called me handsome and that one word handsome made up for two decades of knowing I was never really all that pretty.”
“there’s too much butch representation in media” “straight people need to know that lesbians aren’t all butch” no, there’s too much lesbophobicbutch representation in media. There are butches on tv, and they’re the villains. They’re the Miss Trunchbulls, the meaner cops, the shitty PE teachers. I want a loving butch-femme relationship where the “butch” isn’t just a thin girl with a pixie cut and skinny jeans. I want fat butches and bulldykes. I want disabled butches. I want butches of color. I want butch4butch. I want “making fun of straight people” butch-femme relationships, and I want the femme to actually be using femme lesbian signalling. I want butch heroes who aren’t just women cast in a man’s role. I want butches that straight audiences think are ugly. I want handsome butches. Maybe even some he/him or stone butches, but that’s asking for a lot from queer creators, much less cishet ones. And most of all, I want all of the hundreds of thousands of butches I’m asking for to be loving, kind, and gentle in the ways only a butch can be.
This Valentine’s Day I am sending my love to butches, femmes, and lesbians, the loveliest gifts of all I would not know the true meaning of romance without lesbian love, and especially seeing it in the gorgeous butch + femme, gnc, and t4t relationships around me.
And I’m honoured above all else to be loved by @godhater, my soulmate, my Princess, my heart
flay me and the meat and bone beneath would still be Butch. love me tenderly and receive my softness, every salty teardrop, every wretched sob, every gentle smile, and you’ll feel it there, in the crinkle of my eyes. you can’t buy callouses, can’t condense it into an article of clothing, and you certainly can’t try on a stereotyped costume of masculinity one day, call it “butch”, and then shed it the next. i don’t magically transform into a vision of femininity when you put me in a dress. ever seen a feral cat in a harness and leash?
Dagger: On Butch Women is a collection of writings by and/or about Butch lesbians and surrounding subcultures, edited by Lily Burana and Roxxie Linnea Due. It is available to read for free on archive.org
