allow yourself to be important to your f/o. allow yourself to have had a profound impact on your f/o’s life. even if it’s a deviation from canon, even if it’s hard to believe. they love you, and that makes you a part of their story. allow yourself to be as much a part of their life as they are yours
wow, just… imagining the pure extent to which your f/o loves you is so touching… guys really, they love you so much that it might be hard to comprehend sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t believe it
i don’t know if this will make sense or if anyone actually needs this but!
it’s okay to think about characters you don’t want to add to your f/o list! it’s okay to fantasize about characters you don’t ship with! it’s okay to crush on characters and explore your feelings for them and it’s okay if it never ends up as more than that! it’s okay if it takes you awhile to figure out how you feel for a character! it’s okay if you don’t ever put a label on things!
it can be fun to introduce new ships on our blog and it can be nice to be able to define our connection to certain characters but it’s okay if you can’t do that or if you just don’t want to. you don’t have to talk about every crush you have if you don’t want to and it’s okay to create content, to write, to draw, to make moodboards and playlists and whatever your heart desires for characters that you don’t consider an f/o and it’s okay if you don’t ever share it!
i hope you never forget that the way you consume media is specifically for your enjoyment and things can be fluid and unspecified and messy and that’s all okay! create when you’re inspired to do so, create for those you feel motivated to create for, and share it only when you really want to! find what feels good!
This is a reminder that your self shipping/self insert blog is YOUR blog, you don’t have to draw or write to have your brand of fun with it! Make a million different Pokémon teams for yourself, make a billion posts about your self inserts lore, go OFF about how much you love a character, make as many AUS as you feel like even if you dont go back to expand on them much, have F/Os that you don’t even know your relationship with!! It’s your blog and it’s FOR you, so don’t restrain yourself to just one thing, create whatever you want, or reblog whatever you fancy!! Your blog your canons!!!
You know that thing in movies where one character runs and hugs the other, and the other character catches them in the hug and spins them around, both smiling and laughing?
It’s very cute to receive compliments from your F/O(s) and as stoic or cold as they might be, I am sure they never stop showing you in their own special way how much they love you.
But imagine, just for a second, that you give your F/O a compliment. They will short circuit instantly, as their chest feels like it’s going to burst anytime along with the millions of butterflies they have when they look into your lovely eyes and realize that what you said.. Was genuine.
Imagine that they get so flustered they cannot process everything in that moment so they come to you, minutes later, gently brushing their fingers against yours in a shy attempt to hold your hand.
Imagine that you might even hear a soft, timid “Thank you” as their fingers relentlessly play with yours.
Your F/Os won’t be upset if you forget their birthday or your anniversary or anything
They can’t exactly remind you themselves after all! X3 It’s hard to keep track of stuff like dates, and your F/Os understand!!
You don’t even need to celebrate on the day! If you realize you missed it, you can set some time apart on your own to celebrate with them! They just appreciate having your attention, whenever it happens! Any reason to spend a lot of time with you is a good one ^^
hey! i know your feelings for that F/O aren’t what they used to be, and i know that you’re harboring guilt and sadness over it. but i talked to that F/O, and they wanted me to pass a message along to you! all they have ever wanted is what’s best for you. and for a while, that was them! and they are forever grateful for the time that you shared. but they want you to know that it’s okay to move on if you need to. they want you to know that they don’t and never will have any negative feelings towards you for drifting away or falling out of love. they know that it doesn’t mean your relationship is a failure. it was exactly what it was supposed to be. they want you to know that they will always love you, and they will always be here for you if and when you need them, whether that means you get back together in the future when the timing is better, you continue your life as friends and nothing more, or you reunite every once in a while just for a stroll down memory lane. you haven’t done anything wrong.
Do you ever think about moving in to a new place with your f/o?
Doesn’t have to be fancy, just a little place in a far-off city or town where you can start a new life. Living in a way where no one can judge you, hanging your pride flags on the wall in broad daylight, learning how to cook and ordering takeout when it all goes wrong, sleeping soundly knowing you’re loved for and safe without anyone else to bother you.
It doesn’t have to be a grand three-story mansion overlooking the sea. It just has to be yours, and you’re free.
I would just like to point out that you don’t have to consider yourself a writer or “write well” to write things for yourself. I’m definitely not one but I sure as heck write to connect with my f/o!
Don’t worry about sharing it or what other people would think. As long as it makes you smile and feel closer to your f/o, that’s all that matters
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