i also struggle with the reverse of this. I will make (what I think is) a simple observation or mild complaint and various listeners will think I’m asking them to do something about it
^^^^^^ I’m just saying my thoughts out loud!
I honestly think this is part of the reason why people (especially people socialized as women) with ADHD also tend to have high rates of anxiety. You’re expected to be able to anticipate what people need and interpret their feelings, and when it’s not something that you’re naturally good at you have to develop coping mechanisms (like hyper awareness, the fear of forgetting to do something, and running possible future scenarios over and over in your head) to deal with the social punishment of not being able to understand subtext or conceptualize future needs the same way as neurotypical people.
Direct byproduct of being neurodivergent and growing up isolated from your peergroup is having no idea when it’s appropriate to define someone as your friend
Is this person I met yesterday my friend? What about this person I’ve been talking to every day for three months? What about this person I’ve known since middle school? Is friend a title I have to earn? What are the limits of friendship? Is it a static state, make-or-break, or is it some endless dance-dance-revolution style cavalcade of prompts and challenges and social cues I have to hit perfectly to keep it up? Does it bend? Does it break? I don’t fucking know man I just work here.
