#domestic abuse tw
at the end of the day that man’s defenders have gone full qanon like it doesn’t matter what she says or how many photos of her bruises or the insane amount of property damage she has. it doesn’t matter that there are audio recordings of him screaming at her “you don’t exist” and telling her nobody will believe her or or admitting to head butting her or threatening to hurt himself while she begs him to stop. everyone jumped at the first chance to take their foot off this man’s neck so they wouldn’t have to face the reality that he’s a piece of shit and now they won’t see anything else. even the dumbass “mutual abuse” crowd refuses to acknowledge the way only one of them is being smeared and mocked relentlessly across the internet (and now on snl, apparently.) it doesn’t matter to them that her allegations against him were made in 2016, well before there was a mainstream metoo movement to “take advantage of”. it doesn’t matter! does anyone else feel like dying
actually the worst part is how many young people pride themselves on being “too smart” to fall for propaganda are the ones leading the online charge against this woman because they watched a tiktok “debunking” her claims
Randomly sharing my tipping jar here, apropos of fascists winning the philippine elections and my relatives abusing me for all of 4 days more than ever because of Asian extended family dynamics and my opinions on being anti fascist lol. I would like a possible exit in case things go south with my family or the philippine government.. for any kind soul with excess / disposable income who would want to help in any way
Here it is.. please stay safe out there you guys.. thank you for any help I receive..
An organization I like to donate to is the National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women, the only org in the US that works to defend victims of domestic violence who have been charged with crimes, usually for harming their abusers in self-defense, “failing to protect” their children in dv situations or “kidnapping” their children while fleeing violence. Thinking about them as we’re thinking about legal retaliation against domestic violence victims!
I cannot overstate how much harm this case and the jury’s decision will cause. This case has now set a dangerous precedent that will not easily be undone and it will prevent survivors from coming forward to share their stories and pursue justice. If you live in the US and you want to help you can contribute to dv shelters’ wishlists and to legal aid agencies.
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this only makes it harder for survivors to report their abuse/abusers or even write about their experiences
why is it so difficult for women to understand that the public and legal treatment of amber heard has direct, palpable, and dangerous consequences for women EVERYWHERE. like what is so hard to get about that!!! “i don’t care about a rich white woman’s problems.” okay. okay but just one question. just a really quick one. what, pray tell, do you think that means for YOU
Whether or not you care abt the heard/depp trial, the fact that the jurors weren’t isolated and so saw the thousands of memes and tiktoks abt the trial and then found in favor of depp will lead directly to abusers threatening their victims with legal action should they speak up. Death to celebrity culture.
Anyway here’s the National Network to End Domestic Violence’s page about the Violence Against Woman Act , their Action Center, and their Donation page.
brad pitt is already suing angelina jolie for defamation for calling him abusive so now seems like a good time to say:
- angelina has maintained this entire time that all she cares about is the safety of her children
- their oldest child maddox literally refuses to speak to brad
- angelina has also said that she was deeply uncomfortable with brad because he chose to continue working with harvey weinstein after weinstein assaulted angelina. brad knew this but still worked with him anyway
- when they divorced, the court ruled that angelina was allowed to sell her share of the vineyard she and brad co-own, and she offered to sell her share TO BRAD but he declined, so she sold to a company called stoli. stoli is now suing brad for mismanaging funds, so he’s suing angelina as a big distraction and because he thinks this will get her shares back to him, if he can prove she “lied” to destroy his reputation
- brad is also lying and saying stoli is pro-russia, but the owner is a huge putin critic and has been for over 20 years. the owner is even banned from entering russia because of all their criticism of putin, but brad is lying to destroy this person’s reputation too
ps: brad’s also specifically asking for a trial by jury. wonder who he learned that from?
This is a series! Masterlist here!
This chapter is another Flashback so if you want to read only the “current” storyline you can skip this, it just adds context.
Content: Box Boy Whump, BBU, dehumanization, domestic abuse, victim blaming, conditioned behavior, shock collar, alcohol mention
Riley had spent a busy night fielding drunks at the Diamond nightclub away from Mr. James. Usually he did this by getting in their way and steering them along to one side, but sometimes, like tonight, someone actually tried to start trouble. Mr. James was the kind of man who occasionally made enemies, or found himself resented by lesser businessmen and their cronies.
The sight of a huge Guard Dog pet in his studded collar and black leather motorcycle jacket, looking like a particularly young and restless Hell’s Angel, was enough to make people think twice about trying to take a swing at Curtis James. Well, most people. Every so often, someone was angry, and drunk enough to be stupid.
VIOLENCE/ABUSE:
- Heard has proven 12 out of 14 incidents of abuse by Depp “to the civil standard.
- Texts from Depp’s assistant shows his assistant saying Depp kicked Heard; “He was appalled. When I told him he kicked you, he cried…It was disgusting. And he knows it.”
- Depp is on audio telling Amber Heard to cut him. He continues to tell her to cut him while wielding a knife, and she is heard begging him to put the knife down.
- Texts from Depp to Paul Bettany joke about murdering Amber and raping her dead body.
- Texts about him talking about smacking Amber Heard around.
- Audio reveals Depp shouting and calling Heard a “fat ass” a “cunt” andHeard telling him to put his cigarettes out on someone else.
- “‘Her lip was swollen and busted up a bit, and she also had these horrible cuts on her arms – like gashes … The she told me that the cuts on her arms were from the broken glass that was from him throwing bottles and smashing glasses all over the place.’” (Heard’s sister, Whitney).
- “Ms Pennington said that she could see gashes on Ms Heard’s arms from her wrists to her elbows. In cross-examination Ms Pennington said that one arm was cut worse than the other. Ms Heard told Ms Pennington that the soles of her feet were also cut. Ms Heard said that Mr Depp had thrown a bottle at her; there had been broken glass all over the ground which was how she had cut her feet.“
- Johnny destroying Heard’s closet: “Good morning sir … So …. um Johnny destroyed Amber’s closet”. (page 82)
- “As Ms Lloyd said, ‘We had to restrain both of them.’” Depp supposedly instigated the violence, Heard retaliated. (page 81/82)
- Diary entry by Heard talks about Depp strangling her and hitting her in the head: “Our fight was terrible. J [Mr Depp] finally at one point found himself with his shirt wrapped around my neck… He hit me several times. I don’t even know how I wound up with this huge rather annoying knot on the back of my head?” (page 84)
- Depp refers to the fight on the train as getting “physical”: ‘..other than the fact that we had a fight on the train, which was physical…’ (page 83)
- Text message from Heard to her publicist; “ I’m really bruised and might have a black eye or two tmrw – same with my nose. Nurse on the way to make sure I don’t have concussion.” There are also texts to her psychotherapist saying it’s an ‘emergency’ and a text to a friend in which she says “J beat me up pretty good”. (page 87)
- Photos of Heard bruised “which the metadata shows were taken on the morning and afternoon of 16th December 2015”.(page 88)
- Makeup artist recalls having to cover up bruising on Heard’s nose, eyes, and her lip injury with red lipstick. (page 89)
- Although Depp claims Heard hit him at a party in 2016, the photos of injury Depp claims happened in 2016, where found to be from 2015: “This version of the picture has a date stamp of 23rd March 2015. It could not have been taken after the birthday party on 21st April 2016.” The photo instead was from a previous occasion in which Ms Heard already admitted that she punched Mr Depp. (page 99)
- Despite police claims, photos of Heard injuries with meta data show she did sustain injuries by Depp: “There are the photographs. The metadata is not disputed and shows that one of the photographs of Ms Heard’s face was taken before the first pair of police officers arrived.” They also show damage to the apartment. (page 107)
- Depp texted Bettany that he “pounded and displayed ugly colors to Amber on a recent journey”.
HEARD’s CLAIMS:
- Heard has previously admitted to hitting Johnny and throwing things at him to defend herself in her original 7hr deposition.(2016)
- “She admitted that in the course of this argument, she struck Mr Depp in order, she said, to protect Whitney.” (page 80)
- In regards to the donations: “Amber has already been responsible for seven figures in donations to charitable causes and intends to continue to contribute and eventually fulfill her pledge. However, Amber has been delayed in that goal because Mr. Depp filed a lawsuit against her, and consequently, she has been forced to spend millions of dollars defending Mr. Depp’s false accusations against her.”
- “Please tell people it was a fair fightandsee what the jury and judge think. Tell the world, Johnny. Tell them, Johnny Depp. I, Johnny Depp, …. man*, I’m-I’m a victim too of domestic violence and I, y’know, it’s a fair fight and see how many people believe or side with you”.
- [*NOTE: Heard is using “man” as in “oh, man”, not in reference to Depp’s gender.]
- “Full audio shows Heard talking about how their relationship is not “fair fight”, he scoffs and replies “it doesn’t matter”and “fair fight, my ass”, Heard responds “exactly” and that Depp is “bigger and stronger”. Heard goes on to talk about why she felt the need to call 911 after he threw the phone at her face and laid his hands on her.
THE FINGER CLAIM:
- Deuters (Depp’s friend) admitting that the story of Depp’s injury was a public relations disaster and saying: ‘Just make sure you say you aren’t sure how he hurt his hand. (page 75)
- Depp’s texts to his doctor states he cut his own finger off. Another text is found of Depp again saying he cut his own finger off.Doctor’s notes show the injury is more suggestive of a crushing mechanism.In fact, Depp told three separate people that he cut his own finger off.
- Depp heard on tape stating, “I’m talking about Australia. The day I chopped my finger off”.
- “Nor did Mr Depp say that Ms Heard had been responsible for the injury to his finger in either of his two texts to sister Christi on 8th March 2015.” (page 78)
FECES PRANK/CLAIM:
- Heard did not defecate in Depp’s bed and the previous judge ruled it unlikely. The judge in the previous case ruled it likely it were the dogs, as there was evidence it“had an incomplete mastery of her bowels.”
- “Ms. Heard gave evidence that Boo had in the past defecated on the bed and that she herself had cleaned it up rather than leave that task to Ms Vargas.”(page 100)
- Furthermore, Depp is on text’s with his assistant’s suggesting to him to defecate and tell Amber it was the dogs as a prank
DRUGS/ALCOHOL:
- Texts from Depp’s daughter (Lily-Rose Depp) and Depp himself show that Amber helped him stay sober.Depp talking to his mother-in-law, Paige Heard about Amber helping him.
- Texts from Heard and Lily-Rose Depp show the two had an amicable relationship.
- Texts show Depp’s constant use of alcohol and drugs, mentioning his “blackouts”. More textshere,andhere.Texts show Depp referring to his addiction as the “Monster”, even to Elton John who was helping him with his sobriety.
- An audio shows Depp telling Heard he will never get clean or sober. Amber can be heard crying. Another audio shows Heard crying and saying, “All the coke you’ve done today, and all the booze you’ve drunk today, has it helped us?”
PREVIOUS LIBEL CASE:
- As stated, theprevious judge ruled Heard has proven 12 out of 14 incidents of abuse.
- “For all of these reasons I accept that the Defendants have shown that the words they published were substantially true in the meanings I have held them to bear. The Claimant has not succeeded in his action for libel.”(2020)
- Depp’s previous lawyer, Adam Waldman was accused of dishonesty, and was thrown off the case for leaking confidential information to the press and social media which was protected via court order.
- Depp’s team was accused of using bots to influence opinion of social media. Bot Sentinel, a group that uses artificial intelligence to detect and track troll bots & suspect Twitter accounts, found the actress “had been a victim of an ongoing targeted harassment and smear campaign”.
- (Waldman is a long-time US lobbyist for Russian oligarchs.)
OTHER OPINIONS/LINKS:
- Depp in texts talking about wanting to cause “global humiliation” for Heard.
- Depp defending Roman Polanski: “Roman is not a predator. He’s 75 or 76 years old. He has got two beautiful kids, he has got a wife that he has been with for a long, long time. He is not out on the street.”
- Depp is close friends with Marilyn Manson, who has his own abuse allegations against him, and who is also suing his victims for defamation.
PREV. LEGAL ISSUES & CAREER:
- Depp was arrested in 1989 for assaulting a security guard after the police were called to end a loud party at his hotel room.
- He was also arrested in New York City in 1994 after damaging a hotel room he was staying in with Kate Moss.
- Depp brawling with the paparazzi.
- In 2018, Depp assaulting crew member on the set of City of Lies.
- In 2018, two of Depp’s former bodyguardssued him for unpaid fees andunsafe working conditions. The suit was settled in 2019.
- Depp was constantly late and drunkon the set of Pirates of the Caribbean.
- Depp will also supposedly receivehis full salary for the third Fantastic Beasts movie, despite filming only one scene for itand being asked to leave the project.
- Texts show that Depp told Heard she was not to take roles, stating “No goddamn meetings. No movies”.
- Depp admits to getting, “irrational”, “crazy”, and “jealous” when Heard is filming.
- Charges against Heard for bringing her dogs to Australia were dropped;it was a supposed mix-up with her staff being dismissed who were to do the paperwork. Heard apologised, and admitted to her wrongdoing, pleading guilty.
- Heard sought a restraining order from Depp in 2016. She also sought an order requiring Depp to attend 52 weeks of anger management courses. (page 19)
PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS:
- Depp started dating Winona Ryder when she was a minor, and 17 years old to his 25 years. (Depp is 23 years older than Heard.)
- Depp called his ex-wife a “French extortionist ex-cunt” and a “withering whore”.
- Heard was granted a restraining order against Depp.
- Depp was the one to originally ask Amber to settle outside of court, and the couple issued a statement that, “Neither party has made false accusations for financial gain.”
- Heard’s previous girlfriend has come to Heard’s defence, saying that Heard never abused her and that the police officers who claimed it had misogynistic and homophobic attitudes once they realised Heard and her were partners.
- Ellen Barkin, Depp’s ex,testified Depp threw a wine bottle at herduring an argument between Depp and his assistant. (page 43)
DEPP’S JEALOUSY:
- Depp has used abusive language towards Heard for her sexuality and her past relationship with women, calling her a“lesbian camp counsellor”.He was also jealous of Amber’s female ex, Tasya van Ree, calling her “Van Pee”, he also “tried to set fire to another of Ms van Ree’s paintings”.
- In fact, Depp’s homophobia and jealousy didn’t stop there, he then attacked Heard’s friend, iO Tillet Wright, by misgendering him and mocking his transition, calling him a “dike bitch” and “wanting to be a man now”.
- Depp also makes unfavourable comments about Heard’s relationship with Elon Musk: “But she sucked Mollusk’s [I assume a reference to Elon Musk] crooked dick”.(page 126)
- He alsoaccused her of having an affair with Billy Bob Thornton, writing about it in graffiti. (page 76)
THE CURRENT TRIAL:
- The trial is a not a criminal trial, but a defamation trial. Depp is suggesting Heard ruined his reputation in her article about domestic violence, despite not naming him in it. In fact, Depp was requested to leave the project after he lost his libel case.
- Depp is suing Heard for $50 million, over 7x the amount they originally settled together. Heard originally attempted to get the suit moved to California and dismissed, and only filed a counterclaim when it was refused.
- Virginia has less strict anti-SLAPP laws and as a result has drawn questionable legal cases in recent years. SLAPP lawsuits are also known as intimidation lawsuits and often used to censor, intimidate and silence critics by burdening victims with the cost of legal defence until they abandon their criticism.
- Depp fans are heavily affecting the way social media is reacting to the trial,by indulging in edits on social media, fabrications of events, pseudoscience.
- Heard has had to hire more security. Some Depp fans have attempted to chase vehicles with Heard and her team inside as they return home from the courthouse.
- One of Depp’s witnesses (Gina Deuters) was dismissed from the stand after admitting to watching the trial online.
- Depp fans were barred from the court for violent threats against Heard. Most attendees are Depp-fans and have had to have been told, “Order in the court of I will have you removed”.
CONCLUSION:
The suit is not to determine whether Heard was violent, or whether their relationship was mutually toxic, but as to whether Heard lied in her op-ed, and there is plenty of evidence of Depp physically harming Heard multiple times; regardless of Heard’s retaliation, he has been proven to be a domestic abuser.
[DISCLAIMER: This post is purely in relevance to the Heard vs. Depp case, to fact-check claims made by Depp, his team, as well as opinions on social media. They are not meant to be a remission on Heard’s part of any potential wrongdoing.]
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Again, I do want to reiterate that this does not necessarily mean to absolve Heard of any wrongdoings, nor does it try to speak to her character. Heard may be a white, privileged, rich actress, I fully acknowledge that I don’t know her as a person, and that she may be horrible; I do however believe she has proven she has been abused. We should not erase thatjust because Depp is now, falsely claiming to have “never struck a woman”.
Furthermore, it’s equally concerning that it’s given rise to the concept of victims not being able to fight back, to hit their abuser, or call their names, without being termed “mutually abusive”. Perhaps their relationship was toxic, perhaps Heard, yes, didn’t act nicely or rationally, and perhaps, yes, there was mental health issues that exacerbated their relationship problems!
But the thing is, even if (and it’s a big IF) their relationship is a mutually toxic garbage love-fest, then Depp is still not innocent. At the very least, Depp and Heard are both in need of therapy and their relationship was bad for both of them. More likely is that this is an abuser who is using the legal system against his victim and who is on purposely having a televised, public defamation trial that will last six weeks (six weeks!) to humiliate and destroy his victim.
And the worst thing? It worked. No matter how many lies he says in court, how many false accusations he makes of Heard, no matter his own record, he has destroyed her reputation. Everywhere you go people, people will use this case to justify their misogyny. Depp pivoting this entire trial as a case of a woman making up her accusations will become a HUGE point in favour for men who are looking to discredit the #MeToo movement and accusations towards men as a whole.
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Edit: The amount of t*rfs getting mad because I told them not to interact. Your transphobia is not welcome here, end of.
2. Strangling - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
3. Manhandling - Martha (tumblr/ao3)
4. Hostage - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
5. Betrayal - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
6. Bruises - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
7. Sensory Deprivation - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
8. Severe Illness - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
9. Impact - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
10. Surgery - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
11. Drowning - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
12. Rescue - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
13. Burns - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
16. Half-Blind - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
17. Infection - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
18. Sprained Ribs - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
19. Stabbed - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
20. Kidnapped - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
21. Bleeding - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
22. Self-Harm - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
23. Screaming - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
24. Broken Bones - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
25. Comfort - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
26. Adrift - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
27. Poisoned - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
28. Bloody Hands - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
29. Insomnia - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
2. Strangling - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
3. Manhandling - Martha (tumblr/ao3)
4. Hostage - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
5. Betrayal - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
6. Bruises - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
7. Sensory Deprivation - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
8. Severe Illness - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
9. Impact - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
10. Surgery - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
11. Drowning - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
12. Rescue - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
13. Burns - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
16. Half-Blind - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
17. Infection - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
18. Sprained Ribs - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
19. Stabbed - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
20. Kidnapped - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
21. Bleeding - Mister Wilson (tumblr/ao3)
22. Self-Harm - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
23. Screaming - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
24. Broken Bones - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
25. Comfort - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
26. Adrift - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
27. Poisoned - Darcie (tumblr/ao3)
28. Bloody Hands - Clark (tumblr/ao3)
29. Insomnia - Lois (tumblr/ao3)
