I’ve been meeting a lot of different characters so I decide to make a little posty post. A lot of y'all…
but it’s ok though. I got a question and I want y'all to reblog this because I’m real curious to know and possibly get it on. If I threw a nasty, swirl, masquerade like event in Cleveland Pittsburgh or an undetermined city in Michigan June 2022 how many people would attend?? Honest answers and depending on the traction this post gets I’ll make make another one more specific.
So Many Ask Us, How to Convince My Wife. Our Response is…..
So I guess I stumbled through asking my Wife, but you don’t have too. First and foremost, if you honestly think this lifestyle is all about sex and about your gratification then seriously stop and get your life in the proper direction before you attempt to drag your Wife into a ton of your issues. There are kink minded Therapist that can help you out, be brave and figure out yourself! With that somewhat disclaimer said I can move on.
The way we see it now, and looking back at everything we have gone through to get to this point. You, as a submissive person need to realize that you and only you know your Wife best. So what my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder needs compared with your Wife is completely different. Mistress M has and frankly always will be the bossy take charge Woman. It is ingrained in Her DNA . The year now we have gone through this journey, I have realized just stepping back, and also promoting Her natural personality was the first step in this lifestyle and relationship. Empowering Her with little notes, Coffee mugs that I set out when I prepare Her coffee when She wakes up. Tee Shirts that I have bought for Her to wear that also are Women Empowering are just a few subtle ways that I keep Her in that constant reminder that She is the leader of our Pack and Head of Household. So to just embrace, cherish and love Her and putting Her first as much as I possibly can works for Us.
But your Wife might not be like mine, and that’s ok , I hit the lottery with my Wife, but subconsciously knowing from a young age I was always attracted to Alpha Females definitely helped! The answer to How to convince your Wife regardless of Her personality is this…. “ Drumroll Please “ Take the sex out of the equation completely. If you want it bad enough, then put the work into it. Nothing worth having is built in a short time. Even my Wife , who is a natural at being in charge, you must put the time and effort into this relationship completely. Read up on figuring out Her love language, figure out how to make Her life easier. Get off the couch or away from your phone, computer or TV. Start doing things for Her without asking Her “ what can I do “ Obviously said that, take a interest in understanding how to clean, wash, or do these tasks the way She wants, NOT your way . If She wants the towels folded this certain type of way, then as She is folding the towels get your ass in there and help out to learn. She will probably be shocked at first, but just take interest and ask why She folds the towels that way. You are definitely not helping if She has to go back and redo everything you attempted half assed or not the right way. Remember She knows the right way, respect and embrace that. But you for example folding the clothes, automatically puts Her in a better place mentally. It’s no longer Her against everyone, You just helped Her and also helped yourself out. Your a team!!!
So let’s just say you took an interest in helping out with cooking and She picks Her mouth off the floor because She is in shock that your in the kitchen not to grab junk food or beer, but to help make Her life easier and cook dinner, well She isn’t probably going to walk away and say here make it alone. She will take interest and quite honestly not trust you enough to let you do it yourself. She will help you along. At that point She is in a GREAT place to start talking in a normal conversation about how much you appreciate Her, listen to Her, Let Her lead the conversation. This will be a date night possibility and you only took interest in helping lift some of the daily chores that must be done. She will notice over time that you are different then your normal self. She might even ask what’s gotten into you. This isn’t the time to blurt out “ hey I want you yep tie me up and whip my bare ass and peg me”. ( even though you are secretly wanting that) don’t do that. Remember it takes time to build something wonderful and worth having. Just respond with how selfish you have been and want to just help out with making life better for Her. In my personal opinion you are not misleading Her or whatever. You are simply picking the right time and place.
Learn to groom Her! Yes you are reading this correctly, We found a next level type of connection when I took an interest in washing Her hair , putting conditioner in Her hair, washing Her body as She instructs you, Shaving Her ( not just her pubic hair) but learning to shave Her armpits, legs and even big toe if She does so! Find out and ask why She uses this or that on Her face to clean Her face. Take interest in this daily task. Again She will be shocked at first, but just politely tell Her you want to learn to do this because it is part of Her life and is part of your world. - Side note , I told Mistress M my reason for doing this was because you never know when something could happen, as dark as this might sound, but if God forbid something was to happen and She no longer could care for Herself, I would want to daily wash and care for Her as close as I could to how She liked it , so She could at least feel as close to normal as possible- But also for your benefit you begin touching your Wife without being a pervert about it. It is a reward for everyone. And don’t forget to dry Her off and put the right lotion amount on Her skin. She will absolutely love this! And at this point you should also be very supportive and encouraging to Her about how beautiful She is , what your favorite part of Her body is. And please please please don’t automatically just say something about that ass or tiddy’s. Pick something that isn’t looked at as sexual. Yes I admit I am a foot guy , I am also a ass and tiddy guy too, But I might omit the obvious and say wow I never noticed how amazing your legs are until I was able to shave them. Hun you have sexy legs, and remind Her throughout the following days how amazing Her legs are. And be sincere about it.
After a few weeks,months of this consistent journey into making Her life easier, then you can approach how you feel and what you are trying to accomplish. Yes making Her life easier, but also explain that putting Her first is what you crave, having Her take charge is something that you need . At this point you two have had plenty of conversations about who you are and who She is. What you two do in your own house and life is your business. But it doesn’t need to start out super kinky or 100 miles an hour. You set the foundation for the kinky to come out over time, naturally. But don’t force the issue. I highly doubt that She will be close minded about all of this since you have over the months made Her life easier!
But in the end of the day you all know your Wives better than I do, and if you don’t know Her , get to know Her before approaching Her with this . If you are having problems in your marriage, in my opinion this is not a fix it type of lifestyle. FIX YOUR problems and yourself before this. But if you set yourself up for success and put in the time the right way, the end result of FLR will become a minor step for you two. It has started without you just going up to your Wife with a boner and saying something stupid.
I could seriously keep going on about this , but I have clothes to wash, and chores to do. I will end this post with a little more advice. Read , listen and do your own research. Not on a porn site or what is written by some dude with his penis in his hand trying to make it sound as sexy as possible so you will get turned on. There are wonderful podcasts and books about this lifestyle, We don’t look at FLR as a kink, yes I love getting flogged, yes I am hoping one day to be pegged, yes I am learning more about Hotwife and cuckolding. Not just for my personal gratification, but because it is all the ultimate Empowering actions that I believe my Mistress and I can do together to create a closer bond with each other. But for now it is learning and educating myself so when the right time comes and Mistress M is ready, I can be prepared to make the right points to why I want this . But back to my point, We don’t think putting your Wife on a pedestal or putting Her in charge is a kink. It is loving your Wife and showing Her that She is your world.
Happy Holidays to everyone and please stay safe this is our own personal writing and please keep this message intact if you are sharing this.
