#for the not nice feels
no seriously, my life became so much better once i swapped all the self-deprecating jokes for “i love myself” jokes
i think it’s so easy to get caught up in hating yourself, even if it’s as a joke. at some point, you start to internalize what you’re saying because the self-deprecating jokes are just coming out so naturally and easily. at some point, you have to realize that you don’t want to – and you can’t – grow in an environment where you’re constantly making comments that belittle yourself. you have weaknesses, but you also have strengths. and i don’t know about you, but i’d much rather convince myself that i’m person worth love and attention than one not
As soon as I started responding to compliments with over-dramatic self-love I genuinely disliked myself less.
“Hey, really good job on that project this week.”
*hair flip as I speak like a fancy Victorian woman* Well, finally someone notices my talents and skill.
“I like your outfit.”
Yes I look fantastic as fuck thank you for noticing.
“You look nice today”
*faking coyness* WHO????? MEEEEE????? *places my hand over my heart and kicks my foot up in the air* Yes I know, thank you so much.
Even when you mess up, it’s still funny and a little motivating to make jokes about how great you are doing. Every time I horribly mess up something at work I do a little chef’s kiss and imitate Gordon Ramsey giving compliments. “Well, that’s just fantastic, quite like that, really wonderful.” Everyone around you is much more likely to have a laugh than if you start saying stuff like “wow, I suck at everything I attempt, I’m the worst.”
