Jonathan Entwistle, the show-runner behind I’m Not Ok With This and The End Of The F***ing World is developing a new Power Rangers movie AND TV series that will be interconnected!
There are so many hot picture captions/memes on Tumblr about hotwifing, cuckolding, the stag and vixen lifestyles, and all the other forms of alternative relationship arrangements we get out perverted and kinky selves into.
But you know what bothers me sometimes?
How our perceptions and expectations about these arrangements can get skewed without us even recognizing it.
Expectations for what it’s all like, what it should be like, how it happens, how often it happens, why it happens…all those expectations get influenced by the things we immerse ourselves in.
This is especially the case for people who are new to the lifestyles or who are looking to get into the lifestyles.
Simply put, the eroticism and sexiness of hotwifing images/memes we see on Tumblr notwithstanding, they leave out some of the realities to it all.
Sometimes though, it’s good to be reminded of the realities, and that’s what this post is all about.
For example, you’ll never come across a picture like this…
…with a caption on it that says something like, “ “Honey I just got back from my date with another man, and he was a TERRIBLE kisser. I didn’t enjoy it at all.”
Or perhaps one like this…
Or how about one that conveys just how common it is to get all ready and excited for your first in-person meet, only to have the guy be a faker or flake…
We don’t see things like this because it’s not sexy to see or think about. We only reblog things that stoke our desires. And that’s normal for the most part. After all, sex isn’t the only thing that “sells”…SEXY does too.
Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not saying the hotwifing lifestyle can’t be enjoyable or sexy or pleasurable beyond your wildest imagination, because it can. It can one of the most fulfilling journeys a couple can take together in their entire life.
It just sometimes helps to be reminded every now and again that if it all doesn’t go down or happen like you read about in most online hotwifing stories or see in the hotwife pictures/memes,…DON’T WORRY…IT’S ALL NORMAL!
Nothing is wrong with you, or your partner, or your relationship, or your experience. You’re most likely not doing anything wrong. Navigating the lifestyle can be difficult and frustrating at times, and it comes with tons of challenges.
So if at any point, you run into a challenge or a setback or have a negative experience along the way, remember that it comes with the territory and you shouldn’t fret too much about it. But most importantly…
Don’t be afraid to share your “negative” experiences with the online community! It can help you and it can help others to know that living out this lifestyle in reality is a bit different than living it out in fantasy. That’s why…
Share the realities you faced in your hotwifing, cuckolding, stag & vixen-ing journeys by replying to this post. Or simply like/reblog because after all, reality checks can be positive every now and again.
I absolutely agree. I know the majority of people out there only know/expect the “stroke story” version of cuckolding. But the reality is so very different. People agree, argue, surprise, disappoint, are horny, are “not in the mood,” are happy, sad, joyous, depressed.
The reality of being a cuckold was so far removed from the fantasy.
But I am here to say the reality is, in so many way, BETTER than the fantasy. My wife experienced a level of fulfillment and satisfaction neither of us could have anticipated. But that came with a lot of hard work, a lot of tears, and a lot of anxiety, too. Ultimately, the relationship she had with her lover was immensely fulfilling.
And, ultimately, she did leave me for him. But I’ve reconciled that. We still talk–all three of us–but she is with him now. We divorced because she simply ended up needing to be with him more than me. Did it hurt? Damn right it did. I questioned my worth as a person. I questioned all our marriage ever stood for. But once I was able to wrap my head around the fact that Kimberly was HAPPY with Jim, my attitude changed.
For us, cuckolding was about finding happiness and fulfillment. For her, it was having two men who loved her deeply. For me, it was being able to share in her happiness. When we finally realized divorce was the only option (and believe me, we talked about all the options), I had a choice to make: be miserable or be happy knowing SHE found happiness and was able to express that to me.
Unlike the stories we all read, not every moment she shared with Jim included “amazing, all night fuck sessions.” The majority of the time they spent together was just like the time ANY couple spends together: doing mundane things, deciding what was for dinner, arguing, making up, just spending time together. Sure, they had sex and the sex was great. But it wasn’t all about sex. If it was, there would be no way they could maintain their relationship at the level they did (and still do).
it took me months but i finally completed painting my ceramic plate set. i’m so so so proud of them. just in time for the huge sequel news too! go go power rangers!
