Sex Talk: #4 (Boobs)

So we all know boobs are kinda awesome, okay, okay, TOTALLY awesome, but do we say it enough during sex?

I know some of you guys are butt people, I don’t judge, I am too, but boobs are just as important and fun as butts, so even if you’re a buttson, you can continue reading and maybe learn something new.

Yes, boobs are primarily for infants, but until they are, they’re basically an open buffet for foreplay (must be consensual). You probably kissed a person with boobs and squeezed them while kissing them, biting their lip or something along those lines. They’re kind of a stress reliever.

But we usually soon after foreplay, forget they exist. It’s like, once there’s a vagina in play, boobs get boring. But there are so many ways to have fun with boobs, even after she’s undressed.

For example, why not use an eye mask and have some fun with nipple receptors? You can put hot (not too hot, so you don’t burn them) or cold stuff on it and watch your partner tense up and enjoy the different nerves you’re hitting.

You can also use nipple clamps and still have sex while doing it. Try alternating from one nipple to the other.

There’s also your mouth, use it. Lick, bite, blow, do whatever is it that your heart desires.

I promise you, boobs are endless fun. Don’t forget about them next time you’re having sex.

Stay safe and have fun! xx

Sex Talk: #3 (Sex Toys)

If you’ve been on the internet for more than 10 minutes you’ve probably seen many sex toys (or maybe that’s just my horny self? ). But why are there so many? Which one is right for you? Which one to gift to your partner?

I’ve got (some) answers for you!

Okay, so listen up, if you don’t feel like using sex toys, that’s A-okay! But if you wanna spice things up, try new things or just wanna know some more stuff, read on!

Let us start with the basics:

Dildos:okay, so dildos are basically just fake dicks, mostly silicone, plastic or glass (my fav!). Silicone and plastic dildos can be flexible, therefore you can curve them. Some of them have suction cups at the end, so you can stick them on whatever surface you want, and make yourself feel the magic. Glass on the other hand is not flexible, but its heat resistant, so you can put it in the freezer for a cold surprise for your partner, or heat them up (be careful not to burn them, or give them a frost bite, if frozen). Silicone and plastic ones usually come in flesh colors and are closly resembling an actual male organ, where glass dildos are mostly transparent, but decorated with different colored glass inside or on the outside (sometimes ribbed or dotted). You may have or will come across double sided dildos, almost always silicone, because it’s either for vaginal and anal use (at the same time) or two people and their desired holes. If your preffered orgasm is vaginal (or anal) dildos are made for you. Enjoy your big O! ;)

Vibrators: there are many different vibrators, but you can mainly put them in a couple of categories… Bullet vibrators are tiny (like an inch) and therefor can be hidden in a panty or under a skirt, usually for a quick orgasm in public or hidden toilet run at the office. Many come with addition silicone covers, for more pleasure and to target certain areas. Next one is a one hole vibrator, looks like a dildo, but has a vibrating system in it. Nothing else to add here really, so many different colors, patterns, textures to choose from though. Third ones are two hole vibrators; made for vaginal and anal stimulation, hits both G-spots at the same time, for maximum pleasure. Usually the anal part of it is a bit thinner, but can look the same. Next ones are rabbit vibrators. Rabbits are vibrators for vaginal and clitoral stimulation, you put the “rabbit ears” on clitoris and enjoy the pleasure of vibrations. That covers most of them.

Buttplugs: Always start with a small ones and work your way up. Buttplugs are mostly metal or silicone, theyre either a simple kinda teardrop shape or can be “three balls stacked” shaped. Depends on how far you are in the butt streatching department, choose your buttplugs accordingly to size. Again, metal ones can be cooled or warmed up, while silicone ones are not. Always and I mean always use lubricants with buttplugs!

That’s all for today, we’re gonna continue this sex toys talk tomorrow, but until then

Have fun and stay safe!

So yesterday I had a discussion with this guy about the use of safe words and how to decide which word you want as your safe word.

I have a few tips for setting safe words in a new relationship and how to accurately tell how you’re feeling to you partner mid action.

My first tip is that you talk about your fantasies, kinks, wants and needs. When you do that, you can agree to try something new or something you’d never try before and therefore need a safe word. There are two possible systems, that I’ve used before that work well.

First one is the “ordered” words such as numbers(1,2,3), temperature (cold, warm, hot), seasons (spring, summer, fall) and so on. They can accurately portray how you feel and where you stand on the action your partner has taken, for example cold is okay, you’re fine with what’s happening, you’re enjoying yourself, warmmeans you’re not too happy, you want your partner to do something else, but not completely stop with the intercourse, you feel uncomfortable, but not enough to stop, hot means you’re way too uncomfortable and want to completely stop the intercourse.

The second one is just random words, but you have to make sure it’s something you would never use them in the intercourse otherwise, for example, I would definitely use the word “faster” during intercourse, therefore that can not be my safe word, since my partner would get confused, do I want to go faster or do i want him to stop. Your safe words can be anything from unicorns & rainbows, to soup or ketchup, anything really. I recommend still have two words that mean different things to you two (or three, four,…) so if you’re feeling mildly uncomfortable, you don’t stop the whole ordeal, when in reality you just wanted to change positions.

I hope this was useful to some of you people out there. It’s always important to communicate with your partner, before, during and after sex. Safe words are short and effective way to achieve that.

Stay safe and have fun xx