#shitposting with becca

So I found a meme format, and I have a proposal for all of you to consider

Because Marvel refuses to allow any of its’ twists to have longterm consequences within the MCU, it’s pretty obvious they’re going to find a way to cover-up/explain away Mysterio revealing Peter’s true identity with some dumb plot device. And I’ve seen some great fan theories and concepts (like Matt Murdock being hired to represent Peter in court) but I’d like to present something much more ridiculous and dare I say realistic.

Spider-Man is proved to not be Peter Parker through the meticulous data collection and evidence provided by an incredibly popular Spider-Man fan blog, that is anonymously run by someone who proves they’re a classmate of Peter Parker and proves that Peter was in places that Spider-Man was at the same time. Class pictures with timestamps, opera tickets, school event dates, all of which Peter was accounted as present for. Along with the evidence, the blog makes some damningly good arguments about how Peter Parker was only chosen out of convenience. The blog scrounges up documentation of Quentin Beck working for Tony Stark and being fired and then argues how Peter Parker is an intern of Stark Industries and Quentin Beck only used Peter as a last-ditch attempt to hurt the late Tony Stark, by accusing an intern who happened to be in the same areas of Spider-Man sightings.

The evidence and arguments are so meticulously complied, that everyone sees it as concrete proof and the name of Peter Parker fades back into obscurity. Peter is relieved to have his regular double life back, and everything goes back to normal.

The blog, of course, belongs to fucking Flash Thompson who absolutely REFUSES to believe Peter could be his idol, so in his denial, he went apeshit trying to prove it wrong and documented all of his findings on his blog. However, he’s never able to fully convince himself that Peter isn’t Spider-Man, and continues to creep on Peter 24/7 trying to figure out the truth. 

As a disclaimer, this entire post obviously comes from an allosexual queer and these experiences are only second-hand from my view of all of this. This blog is usually a fandom blog, but I felt like talking about this because it’s personal to me, and I think that with the exclusionism of aros and aces rampant in the LGBTQ+ community, I could shed some light on some things with this personal story.

So, I have three sisters. My oldest sister is as hetero as they come (but, a huge ally ofc) but my other older sister is bisexual and I am queer/sapphic. My little sister, well, I’ve personally had theories of her being AroAce for awhile, but I didn’t want to push labels onto her or tell her how to feel. In the end, no matter her sexuality, it’s no one’s place to make assumptions. It doesn’t affect me, as long as she’s happy. 

Recently though, my little sister kept asking me more and more questions about asexuality and aromanticism. She asked about the definitions, the flag colours, all of it. And more recently, she admitted to me that she thought she was AroAce.  I gave her my full support and I was proud of her and all that. I’m a protective big sister, what can I say. (and as an aside, I am aware of the statistical unlikelihood that 3 out of the 4 of my sisters are LGBTQ+ and we all find it hilarious tbh)

Now, here’s the thing. My entire family, though this story will particularly be about my mom, knows I’m queer. They know my older sister is bi. We’ve received nothing but support and acceptance. We went to Pride this year, they helped me get into an LGBTQ+ support group, all of the things. 

So imagine my surprise when my little sister comes out to my parents and my mom immediately shuts her down. She says my sister is too young and immature to make that decision, -mind you, I was 14 when I came out, she’s 16- she said my sister hasn’t found the right person and just doesn’t socialise with people enough to know, and best of all, my mother said that my little sister will get married someday and give her grandchildren.

Now, children having to give their parents grandchildren is a rant on its’ own, but we don’t need to get into it because it’s ridiculous to think that my mother, with four children, the oldest of whom is ENGAGED and has picked out names with her fiance for kids, won’t get grandchildren. But all that aside. 

But aphobia isn’t real, right? To reiterate, my mother supports me to death. But when my little sister comes out as AroAce, suddenly it’s an entirely different matter. I even pointed out the hypocrisy of it to my mother, because it would’ve been horrible of her to say to me I’ll get married to a man someday so she shouldn’t say it to my sister. Do you know what my mom’s response was?

“I just want her to be happy.”

Because that’s the thing with aphobia. We exist in a society where happiness is derived from being in a relationship. We talk about soulmates and other halves and the people that complete us. It’s a different brand of homophobia but derived from the same ideas. Rather than it being that marriage can only be between a man and a woman, it’s that marriage between two people is required for happiness. Sex is required for love, and romantic love is required for a happy life.

To be clear, I don’t hate my mom for this, and I do think she’ll come around. I understand it’s a lot to process, but that’s because we refuse to normalise it. There are LGBTQ+ people who won’t even accept Aros and Aces into the community and act like aphobia isn’t real or that it doesn’t hurt people. They act like I didn’t have to go from comforting my baby sister to screaming at my mother for making my sister come to me, devastated. And trust me when I say my sister was lucky. I know there are Aces and Aros who’ve had it so much worse.

I took my sister to my LGBTQ+ support group. It was nice and we both enjoyed ourselves. When we got back home the first thing she said to me was “You know, it was really nice to tell people I was AroAce and not have to explain what it means.”

My point in all of this to point out that aphobia is very real, and that Aros and Aces need to be accepted into the community. It’s the same thing, the same struggle. People like my sister deserve to feel at home somewhere, and they deserve to have the rest of the community rallying behind them and giving them the platform to help explain to cishets their sexuality so that my sister and others can be left the fuck alone. She doesn’t need sex or an “other half” to be a normal, happy person. No one does. 

So TLDR: if you say Aros and Aces aren’t a part of this community, you will die by my queer sword.  And obviously, my views and opinions on all of this are very limited, as I’m not Aro/Ace. So if any Aros and/or Aces want to add on with their personal experience/opinions. I’d love to hear them and I’ll read them all.