#this should absolutely not be a controversial take
Maybe this is a controversial take, but I don’t think we should be telling survivors about the “benefits” of their trauma. I don’t think they should be told that “at least your trauma made you kind,” or that it “built character.”
My trauma didn’t make me kind. My trauma didn’t build my character. I made me kind. I built my character. I made myself who I am today.
I think what we should be telling survivors is that they didn’t deserve what happened to them and it should have never happened. You’d be amazed at what validating someone’s experiences can do for them.
