Embracing Your True SelfWhat’s important here is being true to who you are inside.  And C

Embracing Your True Self

What’s important here is being true to who you are inside.  And Candie is right.  You should not try to resist girly, your gender identity.  But I know you have heard those who look at you and say…

“Look at yourself.  You’re a male.  You look like a male.  So be that male, be a man.  Wear the clothes of a man.”

What’s exasperating by what is being said is this is so biased in our patriarchal dominate society.  I appreciate all my sisters and what they contribute to our society.  But that’s another discussion.

I can tell you with personal experience and decades of trying that I couldn’t change.  And I honestly did try.  I believed I could if I just tried and embraced being more masculine, be more of a man, and wear more masculine clothes.  But like the Borg in Star Trek TNG said… “Resistance is futile.”

It’s called “Reparative” or “conversion” therapy, most often used to attempt to change a person’s sexual orientation.  But it also been used to attempt to change a person’s gender identity.  This is a banned therapy in many states.

Conversion therapy was found to be more harmful, the suicide rate and other issues, than helping anyone.  You might be able to build up your mask further for a time, on the surface convince yourself, but your just harming yourself in the long run.  Your just denying an important part of yourself you need to embrace.

The why is that your gender and your sex are different.  For most persons your gender identity lines up closer to your sex, the body you inhabit.  But your gender identity is not your sex organ.  It’s between your ears in your mind.  Gender is also not just the feminine or the masculine.  It’s a spectrum, a rainbow of hues.  I’m a mix of both leaning more feminine than masculine.

That’s why so called “Gender Reveal” parties should be called “Sex Reveal” parties instead.  The doctor at your birth looks between your legs to see your sex organ, male, femaleorhermaphrodite.  They can’t see your gender.  They see your sex organ.  You reveal your gender yourself.  And it is said by the age of two years you’ll be able to.

Bottom line is being true to who you are inside is what’s important.  And most men are most likely more manly than girly.  And that’s fine.  That’s being true to who you are.  I’m not temping you to be girly.  Embrace your manhood and be proud.

But for those of us who feel more girly than manly, and wish to wear those feminine clothes to reveal your girly side, don’t resist your true nature.  Embrace it and enjoy your feminine side.