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#Book 15 in the #22booksin2022 #challenge #TheKissQuotient by #HelenHoang is a modern take on the classic film #PrettyWoman featuring an #autisticwoman written by an author who got her #autismspectrumdisorder diagnosis as an adult. This was one of two books from the #BookOfTheMonth club box I got, the other one I picked mostly because the synopsis said “baby goat in pajamas” I started that one already but I didn’t blow through it in one sitting like this one. The Kiss Quotient was a quick and fun read as most #romancenovels are. I had to laugh because of course Michael is half-Swedish ( #MichaelLarsen ) and is described as someone who’s hotter than a K-drama actor LOL at having economics as a special interest. The references to #KarateBear towards the end left me wanting to buy the Cobra Kai stuffies from Build-a-Bear but I successfully resisted. I’ll have to check out Helen’s other books and hope they’re similar enough to this one because I really enjoyed The Kiss Quotient. Good weekend book to read. The author actually lives in #SanDiego too. #neurodivergent #autism #aspergers #aspie #aspiegirl #asd #autismspectrum #reading #22booksin2022challenge #novel
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A bit unrelated from my usual posting, but I found this cool dude at the park today!
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I think we should talk more about how adhd affects artistic hobbies. Some adhd artists, writers, and musicians might be able to hyperfocus on their art, but I also bet there are many adhd people who can’t engage with their hobbies at all, even when they want to. Who tell themselves over and over “just create something, god damn it” but can’t.
Those who feel like imposters, who think “I should want this, I need to want this, I need to do this, or else maybe I don’t actually want to be an artist like I thought.” Even without imposter syndrome, it’s soul-crushing to be unable to start, sustain, or enjoy the hobbies that once fulfilled you.
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hi yes! here are my two cents-
I am 13 years old and autistic. I have many hobbies, such as playing guitar, drawing, writing poetry, making jewelry, etc. And while I don’t have ADHD myself, I do share a lot in common with my ADHD peers!
I often find that it is hard for me to divide my energy and time on all of my hobbies, which really frustrates me. Some days I may be able to draw all sorts of wonderful things, and yet when I sit down to practice some guitar, I’m just not feeling in the mood. Or sometimes I’ll make lots and lots of bracelets, earrings, and necklaces in the span of an hour, but when I try to put my creativity at work with poetry, I don’t get anywhere! (This pretty much explains why I have a very irregular pattern of activity on here.)
Personally, when I’m struggling with this stuff, I feel like I’m not working hard enough to pursue my goals with guitar, or that I won’t become more skillful or successful if I’m not giving my full effort to practicing guitar 24/7.. but why should I feel like that? You don’t need to push yourself to your absolute limits to feel good about your skills and hobbies!
And while this can be upsetting, It’s important to understand that everybody functions differently when it comes to tasks or hobbies. And that’s okay! It’s taken me a while to realize this, but you don’t haveto be 100% productive in all of your hobbies/activities- that’s not how the human brain works! And I know how frustrating it may be to not be able to do certain things at certain times. I know sometimes you may feel like a failure, or you may feel stupid, or inattentive. Or maybe you feel like you’re not doing things right. But it’s perfectly normal to not be able to put 100% of your focus on everything! Remember to take a break from your hobbies if you need to! you don’t have to overwork yourself to be successful with your favorite activities. <3
