If I’m reading this correctly, I think the message is that if any of you men feel the urge to hold a door for a feminist, check your bigoted courtesy and call her a slut instead. She will likely find it less offensive.
I hate how white people invented the we don’t owe each other anything mindset
Someone from the Uk Here!
Maybe it was just how I was raised, but I was taught to clear off when dinner was being cooked like it was rude to hang around and expect to be fed by another person’s family unless you’ve been invited round specifically for dinner/lunch
Hi person with common sense that isn’t from the uk here i think the english are demonic
Someoneelse from the UK here - you might note the tweets all seem to be from continental Europe @knifefightscene. Britain absolutely has it’s problems (so many problems), but we’re also the country of “Do you want a cup of tea?” as soon as you walk through the door. I’m afraid I don’t know what the hell @returntohetalia is on about.
To explain the rules of guest/host courtesy as I* was taught them:
1. Yes, you stay out of the way when people are cooking dinner lest you get in the way. However, if you’re eating you should offer to help with the washing up afterwards. This goes double if you’re visiting parents, siblings, cousins, or other known relatives.
2. If you are invited over to someone’s place for a span of time that covers a meal and you don’t get fed, that’s pretty fucking weird. If your visit does not include a mealtime, you will still usually be asked if you want something to drink - for kids, that’s usually water, juice or squash, for adults that’s usually tea or coffee.
3. It’s polite if you’re invited over for a meal and are an adult to bring something to contribute to the meal (wine, dessert). It is also polite to invite the host family over or out for a meal in turn.
4. If you are a child, usually you are there to play and spend time with another child - that is the gift, in a way, your time and companionship. Also, you don’t let a kid go hungry, what the fuck. Kids are growing and need solid meals; you don’t let them go hungry.
This isn’t just about being a good guest - bringing a thank you meal contribution, being polite, not being entitled - this is a question of being a good host as well. As I was taught, it’s rude to not offer a guest anything. Part of being a host is to make people welcome and involves a tacit degree of generosity.
This also includes when you have a plumber/electrician/builder over - you ask if they want a cup of tea/coffee and some biccies. They are doing work for you, and you’re paying them for that, but they’re also away from their own home and food, so you supply at least something.
It is a matter of politeness.
Also, you don’t let kids go hungry! What the fuck!
* I’m from the southeast of England, and from a thoroughly middle class background. Rules vary regionally and on a class basis; I’d be interested to learn what other people consider the rules of guest/host courtesy to be!
