#difference between subs and slaves

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This is a difficult question to answer and you will likely find as many answers as there are sexual fetishes. You will find that many separate the two as a matter of the intensity of the submission. However, this gets confusing as the way one views and calls themselves is vastly different from how another sub/slave does the same, although they might use the same term. You find “slaves” setting incredibly soft limits, and then you can find “subs” who essentially will do practically anything with no limits at all, yet call themselves subs. Where then do we draw the line?

As with sexual preferences we all exist on a vast spectrum and these distinctions are arbitrary and personal. In apparent disregard to their actual level of activity, people identify a certain way as opposed to others based on a purely subjective appraisal of themselves. It just doesn’t help when communicating with another as it may be hard to tell apart those who are simply fantasizing about a lifestyle from those who are actually living it. It becomes harder when those practicing this lifestyle use the same terms to mean vastly different things.

I am no different and to be frank I use these terms inconsistently myself in my posts, which is more about marketing my blog and posts. The term slave just gives a sense of so much more clarity. Nevertheless, this is my personal method of distinguishing the two terms of subs and slaves.

1.subs: Those who willingly surrender to the will of their master(s). They may set no limits or have some of their own limits. However, their defining feature is their ability to take personal initiative in the pleasure of their master. They have brains and they use their brains to think about ways to please their master. For example, a sub may be a high-flyer in her job and at the end of the day, she may return and strip naked and cook for her master. She might spend her money on him for his pleasure. She may be actively looking for other women to join their harem and working on seducing them. (Naturally, I am gravitating to my personal fantasy, which I am sure many of you share) 

2.slaves: Those who are taken and used at will without any care as to their will. They have no limits to set as they have no control of their destiny. They do not think or are not allowed to think. They have no possessions of their own. They are not allowed to have lives or dreams of their own except what is allowed by their master. Their motivations and initiative comes from their master. For example, a slave might be staying at home completely naked, chained with a long lead to allow her to use the toilet and get food to eat. When the master comes home, the slave is told to do various things like perform oral sex and so on and then left back in whatever position or condition the master wishes.

There is a third category (the vast majority), which is basically for those who ‘wannabe’ these things but are really limited by their various degrees of conformity to larger society. Let’s just call them “wannabe slaves” and “wannabe subs” and leave it at that.

So, as you can see, these distinctions are more about your role in the relationship. If you are an active participant taking your own initiative thinking of ways to satisfy your master, you are a sub, whether you have limitations or not. Conversely, if you are a passive tool completely following your masters initiative and motivations, you are a slave. What do I prefer? Given the above definitions, I much prefer a sub with no limitations. I like the idea of women achieving their intellectual and other personal goals, and using their talents to please me and working actively to find out more about what satisfies me. But hey that’s just me and look, I have contradicted the title of the blog. :) What about you? Who are you deep inside your core? What is it that you truly desire in your heart of hearts?

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