“Orbiting,” “signaling,” and “accenting” sound like the names of charms taught in Professor Flitwick’s class at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry, but Emma Watson — the actress who brought the wizarding world’s most beloved feminist icon, Hermione Granger, to the silver screen — can tell you they are not.
They are, in fact, masturbation techniques showcased on the sexual education platform, OMGYes, which the actress publicly endorsed during her recent interview with feminist leader Gloria Steinem.
Read the rest of my musings on Emma Watson’s masturbation habits (and how they could be improved) in this week’s Whore Next Door column!
Seriously men, finger your girls right. There’s a difference between stuffing a chicken and summoning a genie. You have no idea the orgasm you can unleash in her if you hit that spot just right.
- Your Friendly Courtesan
Well said! A Wednesday morning PSA!
8 Fingering Techniques To Pleasure Your Woman
Here are 8 great fingering techniques for you to master because the kind of pleasure you can give your woman with your fingers differs greatly from other kind of sexual stimulation.
It is unique!
And that’s why women love it!
Fingering is one of the many ways to spice up your sex routine and bring a bunch of wonderful sensations to your woman. So, let’s check some fingering-techniques because fingering is far from being only sticking your finger in her vagina!
Fingering Techniques:
1. Circles over the clit hood
The Clitoris is the orgasm spot! It is located on the outer side of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The head of the clitoris is extremely sensitive, packed with 8.000 nerve endings, it’s only function is to give sexual pleasure to the woman. The clit head is protected by the clitoral hood. Because of its sensitivity, direct stimulation can be uncomfortable to your woman, especially with your fingers; therefore, your first clitoral stimulation should be around the clit over the clitoral hood to get the clitoris warmed up and ready for more direct stimulation. Start by making circles with your middle finger or your thumb over the hood around the clit. Remember to make sure she’s really wet; if she’s not use some water-based lubricant.
2. The clit slide
Once you have spent some time rubbing the clitoral hood and warming up the clit you can apply a little more of direct stimulation with the clit slide. Separate her lips a bit to increase the sensation and tap your middle finger or thumb over her clitoris, then slowly slide the entire length of your finger keeping constant contact with the clit. Slide your finger up and down, then side to sides and pay attention what direction she prefers the most. This is one of the movements that will help you build the clitoral orgasm. Start sliding your finger gently and slowly and experiment with different directions, once you find the one that’s taking her off, stick with that sliding direction and increase the speed and intensity of the rub until she orgasms. The clitoris loves strokes that are rhythmic yet gentle, but as the woman is getting close to climax, it needs a single firmer and faster movement. Remember, when you find the movement that is getting her to climax, don’t change it, or you could ruin the orgasm.
3. Circles over the clit head
This is another fingering technique that can make her cum soo good!… But, you have to make sure that her clit is already warmed up to handle direct stimulation, and also that she’s comfortable with your finger directly rubbing her clit head. Many women like it many others don’t. Remember the clitoris is very sensitive, so you will need to find out if your woman can handle this direct stimulation. Once she’s very wet, warmed up and aroused, tap your middle finger or your thumb over her clit and create small circles with your finger. Apply light pressure and start slowly, then increase the speed and intensity as she’s getting close to climax. Don’t stop the movement until she orgasms.
4. “Jilling off” the clit!
Yeah! You heard me right! Jilling off the clit it’s an advance clitoral stimulation technique that would definitely take clitoral stimulation to the next level. Here, you will stimulate the clitoris by pumping it up through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a protective foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head.
After she’s really wet and you have warmed up her clit enough that it can handle direct contact, separate her lips pushing up gently on the mons pubis to expose the clit.
Use your thumb and the index finger to gently grasp the clitoral shaft and massage it up and down in steady rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull back too far the clitoral hood. Pay close attention to her reactions to see if she likes that kind of stimulation. This move may take some practice for you to master due to the small size of the clit.
If using your index finger and your thumb is not working, trying using your index and middle finger to hold the clitoral shaft in between and apply just enough pressure to massage it up and down.
5. Turning on the clit
This is an alternative to jilling the clit. If grasping the clitoral shaft with your fingers is not being easy for you to do, you can use your fingertips or knuckles and instead of pumping the shaft you can turn it side to side like a key in a lock. Keep a rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast. If she’s able to handle the direct stimulation, this movement will definitely give her an awesome clitoral orgasm!
Try different moves and pay close attention to what she likes. Give her variety to help build up the orgasm, but once she’s ready to take off, stick with the movement that is working and increase the speed and intensity until she orgasm!… Make sure you don’t change the movement, or she will lose the orgasm.
Also keep in mind that after she has a clitoral orgasm, her clitoris will be very sensitive making it hard to have another orgasm here, so is time for you to move to the G-Spot!
6. Exploring fingers
This is probably the most common fingering technique. You can use your index and/or your middle finger to enter her vagina. Make sure your fingers are wet. Star with one finger and later add another one if she wants. Many women love 2 or even 3 fingers inside but the big majority prefers only one.
Don’t insert your fingers all the way in right away, work your way inside of her. Start by inserting only ½ inch of your finger and stimulate the outer ring of her vagina canal by going in and out, in circles and twisting. This area is packed of sensitive nerves and she’s going to enjoy this so much.
Then, go further inside keeping your finger straight and touch the upper wall of her vagina canal. Go in and out and twist your finger.
7. Going for the G-Spot!
Leave only about 2 inches of your finger(s) inside of her and look for a dime-size bean shaped kind of rough protuberant tissue.
This is her G-Spot!
Now bend your finger and make a “come here” movement pressing the top of her vagina to stimulate the G-Spot.
The G-Spot is responsible for giving her some of the deepest orgasms, and the fingers are the easiest way to directly stimulate it. So, become familiar and master the G-spot movement to make your woman very happy! ;)
8. Simultaneous stimulation
Simultaneous stimulation feels wonderful! While having your middle finger stimulating her G-Spot, stimulate her clit with your thumb at the same time. This will drive her crazy!…
Now, wanna take it to the next level?
While stimulating her G-Spot with your middle finger and her clit with your thumb, do some anal play with your index finger and blow her mind with this combo of greatly pleasurable sensations!
Her outer part of the anus is also packed with pleasurable nerve endings, so just even touching, lightly pressing, or gently going in and out about an inch or so, will give her so much pleasure.
If you are up for this tri-combo, make sure she’s open about it and that you are using lots of lube on the anal area. Also, be careful of not inserting the finger that went to her anus inside her vagina because this can bring bacteria.
With simultaneous stimulation all you need is lots of practice to coordinate the movements to be able to give her a simultaneous mind blowing orgasm!
It’s not easy, but is well worth it! So, keep practicing because in the meantime she will feel lots of different simultaneous pleasure even if she doesn’t experience a simultaneous orgasm.
As an alternative to do everything with one hand, you can use both hands as well, or even your tongue! Licking her clit with your tongue while stimulating her G-Spot can make her orgasm even easier, and it is electrifying!
Remember: Mix and match all the fingering techniques. And, try every possible combination because everything brings different pleasurable sensations.
hookup culture has men enjoying 100% orgasms while women only manage to orgasm 7% of the time
Relevant quotes from the full study:
“Research suggests that women may set the bar for satisfactory sex quite low - specifically, the absence of pain and degradation rather than the presence of pleasure and orgasm.”
[Regarding men being more likely to engage in manual clitoral stimulation and oral sex when in a relationship, while fellatio was prevalent among hook-ups and relationships] “According to the authors, these findings suggest the orgasm gap is larger in casual sex because women are less likely to feel entitled to seek their own sexual pleasure and men are less motivated to provide their partners with pleasure…”
so what do women gain from sexual liberation and hookup culture? they get no orgasms, no emotional support and still get judged and slutshamed by society.
it seems to me that sexual liberation is a misnomer and hookup culture which is marketed to women as a way of expressing their sexual freedom and overcoming the unfair patriarchal standards women were supposed to live up to is actually a way to get women to accept less commitment and emotional investment.
Aimee Gibbs. She’s a Scabby Queen who loves ham. She doesn’t really know where anything is because she just sort of arrives places. Most importantly, by the end of Sex Education, she’s a young woman who knows what she wants. And Aimee Lou Wood, the young actor who portrays the hilarious, gregarious teen on the breakout Netflix series, is just so pleased to have brought the character to life.
Raised in the Northwest of England, Wood was a self-described “strange child” while growing up. While she’s been in a number of stage productions,Sex Education was her first on-screen role. Her character, Aimee, starts the series off with a bang, quite literally, which helps set the tone for the extremely realistic yet uproarious dramedy. In fact, Aimee is the one to credit for the genesis of the entire Moordale sex clinic — if it weren’t for her wondering “where’s the spunk, Adam,” BFF Maeve would never have concocted the genius plan to turn Otis’s “sex wizard” knowledge into a business.
Wood recently spoke with Teen Vogue about the Netflix series that has everyone talking (and laughing, and perhaps some cringing). She opened up about improvising a few of her most meme’d lines, becoming a symbol for female self-pleasure, getting tagged on Instagram by her favorite drag queens, and more.
Plainly speaking, that shouldn’t be a point of contention for anyone. An 18-year-old woman, Arya has been on her own since she was 11 years old, survived countless kidnappings, escaped death more than once, and even learned to become absolutely No One.She is deadly, proving time and time again she’s not one to be messed with, eliminating her enemies and those that threaten her family without thinking twice. And, yet, a young woman wanting to consensually experience coitus has “Game of Thrones” fans up in arms.
Since the second episode of the final season of Game of Thrones aired, the internet has been ablaze with critics of the sultry scene. Some have blasted showrunners for sexualizing Arya, while others have lamented the use of sex as a way to prove the youngest living Stark is no longer a child. While it’s true that character development can be written in a number of ways that doesn’t include “losing virginity” as proof of adulthood, Arya’s decision to have sex is one that should be respected, not chastised — especially when it’s one of few examples of consensual sex on the show.
In the same episode that Arya has sex, Ser Brienne of Tarth reveals she was once captured and nearly raped. Arya’s own sister Sansa was repeatedly abused by her husband Ramsay Bolton for a majority of the fifth season. Iron Throne contender and dragon mother Daenerys Targaryen was also raped by her husband Khal Drogo early on in her story arc.
