#in this twilight our choices seal our fate
daddy issues this and that but I think Celegorm has mommy issues actually.
look hear me out, he is ride or die for his father, it’s pretty obvious. and I am absolutely certain that pre-darkening and everything, the one in the family who enforced things like “apologising” and “following norms of good behaviour” and “making amends, and grounding you if you fail to do so” just… was not Feanor. I know it’s a common take to make him strict with discipline but I just do notsee it. what I see is actually a father who backs his sons up even if they’re wrong, depending on the reason of a dispute, out of sheer personal affection. and if they’re right? then whatever else they did is not their or his problem, because they are right. and that comes first. but, on the other hand, I see a Nerdanel who, even if they’re right, still pushes for a mediating behaviour — yes, you are right, but you shouldn’t have done what you did even so; I see a Nerdanel who, when they’re wrong, will say so, and will insist for acknowledgement of that as a first step to fix the situation.
and look, I think Celegorm gets a lot of that from her. far from the only one, but I feel he especiallygets it, because anything and everything we’ve seen from him shows a tendency to double down, no matter what. this man does not feel sorry, and does not saysorry. he used to, but the more in late days he grows estranged from his mother, and the more he attaches himself to his father (and oh boy does he attach himself to his father), the more her approach to educating and disciplining cements in a sense of rejection. from her side but also, crucially, from his perspective of her — and eventually as rejection from him too. it isn’t even anger towards her, but a radical refusal; and telling someone “you are wrong actually” is sometimes a very strong form of love (the ability to call a wrongdoing out even as you love someone), but I don’t feel he would perceive it as such.
Trans Celegorm who everyone saw as like, Míriel reborn (not literally but close enough), rebelling by being wild and angry and masculine and unlike his grandmother in every way
Only later does he discover she too was a hunter, she too would not be silenced, she too was proudly masculine in a way that made people whisper when Finwë looked upon her with love
For Tyelko, his gender was a proud refusal of who he was “supposed” to be. For Míriel, her gender was a proud embrace of who she was in spite of what people thought of her.
Trans Tyelko and gnc Míriel, grandson and grandmother who only met in death, who are mirror reflections of each other, who both clung to their pride and their family despite the doom those paths led down to.
and not to be a Hobbit movie fan on main, but; “I am not my grand[mother]” says local prince desperately trying to escape and to cling to his family legacy both at once