#know your partner
Listen, safe words are critically important. They’re non-negotiable, they have to exist in healthy BDSM.
But, we should talk a little about the fact that a good dominant / top shouldn’t be letting it get to a safe word situation. There is a whole lot more to all this than just going as far as you can and waiting for them to tap out. The dominant/top needs to be aware of when they’re pushing the envelope, we need to be watching for signs in the submissive / bottom of things going too far, we need to be checking in as things go on. When you’re taking the reins, you’re taking on a responsibility that is so much more than just agreeing to a safe word.
Yeah, safe word means stop. But lack of safe word does not necessarilymean go.
