another reason Lan and Moiraine are Like That is that Lan never really got to take Gaidin 101. his training has essentially been whatever Moiraine gleaned from observations of Warders and Aes Sedai in the Tower
Moiraine: the primary task of every Gaidin I’ve ever met has been to help their Aes Sedai make Dramatic Entrances
Ok hear me out you’re a first overall pick who’s entire career trajectory was destroyed by a single tragic injury. traded to a wet pathetic mouse of a team. built a new team around yourself and some weird Swedish 18 year old. underperform be called a draft bust figure out your place and anchor yourself to it. stand back up from nothing build from nothing watch your friends and teammates request trades away because they think they can do better elsewhere watch your friends and teammates get traded away even though they wanted nothing more than to stay. be the rock the foundation the stability for the young fast superstar talent the new players (who you used to be who you could have been who you can never be) but be there so they can anchor themselves on something reliable something strong. be the anchor to a new team coming back time and time again coming back from injury coming back from heartache coming back always always always coming back