#lolita aesthetic

late bday celebration

a bit close up

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throwback to last summer when my hair was long

Angelic

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lifestyles and aesthetics are different things. lifestyles are toxic, aesthetics are not. 

examples:

lolita aesthetic: pink plaid skirts, cherry cola, dewy grass, picnics under the bright blue sky.

lolita lifestyle: taken advantage of by an old man, being manipulated, pedophiles, daddy issues, lifelong trust issues.

dark academia aesthetic: tweed blazers with elbow patches, winding forest paths, gothic architecture at your university, books scattered and random loose leaf pages.

dark academia lifestyle: drugs of all sorts, always sleep deprived and not in the fun way, obsession and destruction, mistrust, toxic relationships, living in fear.

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it is okay to like the lolita aesthetic, the pink skirts and holding a plastic red cherry under the baby blue sky; it is not okay to think the only way to live up to it is to be with a man old enough to be your father.

it is okay to like the aesthetic of “the secret history”, the studying in the library with piles of books around you and plush divans; it is not okay to think you achieve this by murdering a classmate, doing drugs, smoking cigarettes, being obsessed with your studies so that they ruin your life.

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so many aesthetics, like the lolita aesthetic or dark academia aesthetic, get a bad reputation because people associate them with the toxic lifestyle, but liking the aesthetic is simply finding what is visually pleasing to you. act as pretentious as you please, but don’t put others down in the process. like schoolgirl fashion, but don’t do it to attract kinky old men.

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this is what you find visually pleasing vs. toxicity.

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