#dark academia blogs
mostly shades of beige in the closet, going to modern Asian-themed tea shops in the middle of the city, coats that fall straight, simple two-toned stationery from Japanese shops, short black heeled boots, buns (messy or neat), hosting dimly lit dinner parties with graphic designers and people in high end retail, dark lips and no other makeup, a tenth story flat with at least one brick wall, reading about fashion and its history, pinterest as their only social media, sleek gloves in the winter, linen and canvas totes, very carefully curated bookshelves.
lifestyles and aesthetics are different things. lifestyles are toxic, aesthetics are not.
examples:
lolita aesthetic: pink plaid skirts, cherry cola, dewy grass, picnics under the bright blue sky.
lolita lifestyle: taken advantage of by an old man, being manipulated, pedophiles, daddy issues, lifelong trust issues.
dark academia aesthetic: tweed blazers with elbow patches, winding forest paths, gothic architecture at your university, books scattered and random loose leaf pages.
dark academia lifestyle: drugs of all sorts, always sleep deprived and not in the fun way, obsession and destruction, mistrust, toxic relationships, living in fear.
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it is okay to like the lolita aesthetic, the pink skirts and holding a plastic red cherry under the baby blue sky; it is not okay to think the only way to live up to it is to be with a man old enough to be your father.
it is okay to like the aesthetic of “the secret history”, the studying in the library with piles of books around you and plush divans; it is not okay to think you achieve this by murdering a classmate, doing drugs, smoking cigarettes, being obsessed with your studies so that they ruin your life.
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so many aesthetics, like the lolita aesthetic or dark academia aesthetic, get a bad reputation because people associate them with the toxic lifestyle, but liking the aesthetic is simply finding what is visually pleasing to you. act as pretentious as you please, but don’t put others down in the process. like schoolgirl fashion, but don’t do it to attract kinky old men.
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this is what you find visually pleasing vs. toxicity.
well shit i’ve been gone for a long time. i have a girlfriend now (yes homo) so here are some date ideas.
- museum dates!!
- have a bacchanal together
- a coffeehouse, but not starbucks. you need dimly lit, low-ceilings, stray cat roaming around vibes
- i mean…. museum dates ;)
- trying to break the record for running through the Louvre (source: The Dreamers, 2004)
- bake tiramisu and sip on the rum you put in it while you wait for it to bake until you’re both tipsy and running into each other in the small kitchen
- b a c c h a n a l
- get drunk on a rooftop and stare at the stars
- go to the dark back corner of a library (bonus if it’s the university library) and study on the rigid floor with a mass of papers spread all around the both of you
- bacchanals
