Felicity Montague from The Lady’s Guide to Petticoats and Piracy is going to eeby deeby for reasons incomprehensible to mortals, on a research mission!
Yasuhiro Hagakure from Danganronpa 1: Trigger Happy Havoc is going to eeby deeby for reasons incomprehensible to mortals, but also probably because he pressed the wrong button on the elevator!
Hubert von Vestra from Fire Emblem: Three Houses is going to eeby deeby for reasons incomprehensible to mortals and also war crimes and political assassinations!
Things I learned about being Female-to-male transgender
(That I wish I had known before that first shot..for good measure).
1. It is a possibility that the testosterone will affect your eyesight. I had absolutely no fuckin clue & about 6 months in I went to Walmart and couldn’t find the person I went with or read the signs in the aisles and I had always had perfect vision. Now I’ve had two prescription changes and have to yet again get a new pair of glasses.
2. Your clit will get large. It will look like a small penis. Not all ftm dicks look the same so don’t assume yours will be as big or as small as what you’re googling or searching on tumblr. Mine was a lot bigger than I expected or really wanted and now here we are. Me and the random trans boner that reminds me no time or place is safe from it
3. Sex drive. Sometimes it’ll be SO BAD you cannot even sit still you wanna have sex. When I first started hormones my ex girlfriend and I did it in pretty much every room imaginable in a house in one day lol. Other days you won’t have one at all. Don’t be surprised if at some points you can’t get off or get sensation down there either. It happens, I have absolutely no idea why… but it’ll come back eventually.
4. Things will happen on your body’s terms. Not yours. Not always as fast or slow as other trans men. Don’t get discouraged, don’t make assumptions either. As long as your testosterone levels are in healthy range you just have to learn the patience and understanding that things will happen and to be appreciative to be on the journey at all. Your beard will grow in patchy and frustrate you for instance, but it will fill in. Once things start happening, it’s so worth it. It’s normal to have that “jealousy” of other trans men who are where you wanna be in your transition. Really try to be happy for them instead, and know they waited too.
5. There will be days of insecurity. Where you don’t feel tall enough, muscular enough, your voice isn’t deep enough, just man enough. Stop comparing yourself to other men. We aren’t made to all look the same. I’m a short skinny trans guy and it took a long time to accept it. We have a harder time accepting our “flaws” than others do, that’s a promise.
6. Love is possible. Don’t weigh yourself down thinking “No one will love me because I’m trans.” My ex had only been with cis men and would rub my scars until I fell asleep and bitch at my doctors who didn’t understand the transition I was going through. Even now as single, straight females don’t have a problem with what I do or don’t have for the most part. Because your MIND and your HEART outweigh your body. Always.
7. It’s not always fun. Blood clots are a heightened risk on testosterone. So are UTIs, vaginal infections, reproductive issues where you end up needing a hysterectomy… it can also affect your heart. So you need to have an educated doctor who monitors you well.
8. Testosterone can affect your mental health. And it inevitably will. You’ll have ups, downs and all overs. It is your responsibility to adjust hormones for comfort ability with your doctor but also to control yourself. “I’m on testosterone and can’t help it” is no excuse for violent or aggressive behavior. Ever.
9. Top surgery isn’t always “perfect.” The scars can be big, the recovery sucks (it did for me and many others, some have an easier time). I woke up screaming for pain meds and had just gotten fentanyl lol so needless to say it wasn’t enjoyable. Sometimes the nipple grafts fail and fall off, or they don’t turn out looking as we’d expect. My left one I lost the center of during healing. But luckily the scarring makes it look completely normal from afar. I mean at first I really hated that it didn’t all come out “perfect” but you come to love what you got and appreciate you even had it at all. So don’t have unrealistic expectations or you may be let down. Just remember not having tits was the ultimate goal.
10. Befriend.other.trans.men. It can get very lonely being in an experience that only you understand or know personally… and the people around you don’t. The best support you will get is from other trans men who can give advice, support, and know exactly what you’re going through physically and mentally. Even if it’s just here on tumblr. I’m telling you, you need them in your life. We are a family and sometimes all someone really has.
1) For those who can’t afford or don’t want surgery: in many states the passport is the best (and sometimes only) way to have ID that accurately reflects their gender.
2) Passports count as two forms of identification: they are weighted more heavily than a license. You can use a passport as ID in place of a birth certificate in many cases, which in many states can be very difficult to change your gender on. They are good for 10 years from the date of issue.
3) Currently you need only a doctor’s note to change your gender on a passport. Not even a name change is necessary. You absolutely don’t need surgery: this is a rule established by the outgoing administration’s state department and can be changed easily by the new appointee. No voting, just gone.
4) You can get a passport with your current legal name and get it changed (within a year) for free: once your name change is official, you can apply to have your passport corrected. The state department has a form that you can use to get the replacement fee waived as long as you’re within that one year window.
This is why I did this step first. There is the possibility to have the cheaper option, a passport card. When the doctor writes the note, make sure they put “has completed treatment” for the 10 year, if they put “is being treated” you can only get the limited one.
You’re gonna have a hormone crash, and it’s gonna be weird, and for the first couple days you’re gonna feel weird and bad emotionally and maybe feel like you made a mistake.
Yeah, that’s actually normal. Your breasts produce hormones and trigger hormone production elsewhere, and removing them induces something like a mild form of postpartum depression.
IT WILL PASS.
For the first few days I couldn’t even glance at my chest without feeling horrible, like I’d done something egregious. A few days later and I’m fine and thrilled, just as I thought I would be. The hormone crash is real, it’s okay, and don’t freak out about it too much. It will pass. You’ve done the right thing and you know it.
Just want to check in on all of you. See how you’re doing.
I’ve had a rough couple weeks but I’ve been hanging with some guys and now I’m a work-boot wearing, car-fixing, Mountain Dew-drinking, grizzly wintergreen-chewing MAN. It feels like such a big stereotype but I swear to god it also feels manly as fuck. Oh, and I’m fostering a coonhound named Truck.
I think all I need now is a Carhartt jacket and a signature baseball hat. Just saying.
How are you exploring and expressing yourself? Any luck with the ladies?
if you’re a baby gay and this is your first pride, watch your drinks! men are trash across all sexualities
I know boys don’t get these talks so let me clarify:
This doesn’t just mean alcohol
Don’t accept any open drinks
After you get your unopened drink, you keep it in your site
You have to go to the bathroom so you leave your drink on a table? That drink is now dead to you.
You’ve been holding your drink way low out of your eyesight and people are crowding? That drink is now suspect.
Stay safe, babies
Also: Rohypnol (a date rape drug) tastes VERY SALTY. If your drink is suddenly salty, STOP DRINKING IMMEDIATELY.
Buddy system, y'all. If your friend is acting *way* drunker than they should, take them to an Urgent Care or ER. Date rape drugs can kill you.
always rb
rb for the advice
And not just the boys, but girls too.
Just because you’re in a bar or club with only other women does not mean you are inherently safe.
My best friend got drugged by a girl in an all female bar and was almost raped in the bathroom.
Always remember to be careful.
Alllll of this. I’ve seen some shit at pride man… Be safe
Not just pride either. I was roofied on NYE a couple years back at the gay club. I have a heart issue, I actually could have died. The only reason I didn’t was because a drag queen who saw me there alone checked on me right before I lost consciousness and carried me out with the assistance of another transguy so the paramedics could get to me. I wish it wasn’t phrased the way it is, but y’all have to remember to watch out for yourself and the people around you.
