A bimbo is the sweetest thing in the world. She means no harm, only joy. She never fights, always forgives, is forbearing by nature, wired to beautify, harmonize, sensualize the world around her. With your bimbo, the streets are more colorful, people smile, eyes shine. In the most innocent ways of all, she is life itself, nurtures lust, heightens desirability of everything around her. She overcomes hardness with softness, stubbornness with openness, aggression with unfocused happiness. She is tight, curvaceous, voluptuous, receptive, benign in being, sex in existence. Bimbos are better, for bimbos are fun and unclouded bliss.
This is not what “bimbo“ means to everyone, but this is exactly what ”bimbo” means to me and why I love them so such. Some people see such beautiful creatures, so focused on happiness and they see them as dumb and shallow. While it makes me sad that anyone could look on a bimbo and not see all the goodness that I see, but in a way that makes me love them all the more. That a bimbo can face so much negativity simply for being happy, so much pressure to hide her beauty, and still refuse to give up what she is. How could I do anything but love them?
I discovered Tumblr about a year ago. It turned from a guilty pleasure to an addiction to a conduit for my own brainwashing. I don’t know if it was the hypnosis files or just the constant bombardment of images as I scrolled and scrolled and scrolled. Either way, I cannot deny now that my whole way of thinking, my entire sense of self, has been rewritten.
The difficult part: I am married with kids. And he is not interested in any of this. Even subtle suggestions have been rebuffed. He’s a nice man, but he is interested only in the woman I used to be and pretend to still be.
I’m not sure where to go from here. I’ve tried giving this up and going back to who I used to be. And it works sometimes, for a while, at least. I’ll be away for a few days, maybe even a few weeks. But then I come back. I cannot help myself. And each time it just gets stronger…
If you know my blog, you know that I love bimbos. I don’t think that every girl should be a bimbo but I do think the world would be a much better and happier place if it had more bimbos in it and if it was friendlier and more welcoming for bimbos.
Having said that this next part might sound strange, but I have some hard truths for you. Your first priority MUST be your kids! Most of the time I believe that a Husband’s and wife’s first priorities must be to each other, children being a close second, but if you leave your Husband even though He might be devastated, He is an adult and would be able to take care of Himself. He might even find a new wife some day. But you are the only mom your kids will ever have. They depend on you. I do believe that it is possible to be a good mom and to be a bimbo. It’s a tricky balance to find but it is doable. It is a lot easier of course if you have a supportive partner, but even as a single bimbo I think that you could make it work. You might not be able to be as bimboey as you would like all the time but you could do it. But your first and last priority HAS to be your kids. Whatever decision you make, you need to make it in such a way that the kids are cared for and feel safe and loved.
But let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Let’s not dump your Husband just yet. It sounds like you have only given Him hints of what you want and how you want to be. Is that right? Have you told Him explicitly what you want and the type of life that you want to live? I have noticed that most people never tell their partner exactly what they want, they drop a few hints, without explaining how important it is to them, the partner responds less than enthusiastically and then they get depressed and give up.
If that sounds like a difficult conversation to have then get some help. I suggest finding a kink friendly marriage counselor.
(Disclaimer: Not all kink friendly therapists are created equal. some may be comfortable counseling you on kinky scenes in the bedroom but may not have experience with 24/7 power exchanges, or you may find one that has dozens of Master/slave clients but is totally weirded out by this whole bimbo thing. So you may need to shop around to find someone who is the right fit.)
Have a few sessions solo with your therapist and discuss developing a plan for talking to your Husband.
Side note: A lot of times in situations like this I see people offer advice along the lines of trying to secretly get their partner hooked on the same stuff that they are into. I’m not a big fan of that approach. Having more sex is almost always good. And it will be helpful when you have your talk with your Husband if He has a per-existing frame of reference to what you are talking about, and even better if He has a positive association with them. BUT you really can’t change the way that people feel about things at their core. Even with hypnosis it always works best with their enthusiastic consent and participation. Don’t try to sneak your kinks on your partner.
Also don’t kid yourself, as alluring as the bimbo life might seem it’s not a sucking on Cocks and lollypops. the bimbo kink, really any kink, can be very isolating if you don’t have someone to share it with, and finding that someone can be very hard.
For example, let’s say that there are 10,000 eligible bachelors in your city, and maybe 1,000 of those that you would actually want to date, when you add a kink on top of that the number might drop to 50-20, and if it is a niche kink like bimboisim and hypnosis then you might be lucky to find two or three in your entire city who shared that kink.
And while some bimbos love the single girl bimbo life, a lot find it super challenging to be a bimbo without a Man to depend on, to please, to focus their sexual energy on, and who can do the big thinking for them. I suspect it is why you see so many bimbo blogs fade out. Without an active and supportive partner it is really hard to keep it going.
I don’t want to completely scare you off from what you enjoy. My whole mission here in Tumblr is to help and support bimbos. If this is truly the only way that you can be happy you should go into it with your eyes open.
Which brings up one last point, is this really the only way that you could be happy? If despite your best efforts you just can’t get your Husband on board, if you decide that you don’t want to leave Him, can you see any other kind of life where you are happy? If that’s the case then I would be happy to offer you some advice and suggestions on how you might pursue that too.
Those are my thoughts, but if any of my followers have thoughts or advice for @trophytoy I know that she would appreciate the help, or even just words of support.
(This post has been compiled from a DM conversation with @trophytoy with her full knowledge and consent to re-post.)
@namelessdoll-vbimbo reminded me of something really recently, that a girl’s best asset is her behaviour.
*** No matter how pretty you are, if you are a bitch, men will ignore you. ***
*** No matter how sexy you dress, if you are selfish, men will dislike you. ***
*** No matter how slutty you are, if you are stuck up, men will leave you. ***
So, work hard on being nice, work hard on being kind, work hard on making your man hard.
Well done, V, you are a little star.
I must be soft, sweet, docile, non-threatening, open, submissive, simple. I am not special. I am pretty and pleasing. I make others feel special. I am less.
A bimbo’s best asset is her behavior. Yes, be kind. Yes, be warm and welcoming. Yes, be soft. Yes be happy to the point that people find you ditzy, do not be afraid to be the most cheerful, peppy person in the room. Yes, be fierce in your devotion to your Man. Yes, be pleasing.
But that makes you more not less. Those things make you special. A girl… a bimbo.. who can be all of those things is a very valuable commodity indeed, something to be treasured. Even if you are identical to every girl in my harem, you are still beri beri special.
A month ago I was at my moms house for a visit and I was sitting with my mom and my brother chatting about things in general.
And my mom was asking my brother if he is working on finding someone special, and also saying to him that it is time for him to find someone and start dating and plan to spend the life with someone special.
And he made a statement that made my life beautiful and meaningful. He was explaining to my mom that it’s hard to find a girl who is obedient and respectful like I am to my BF. For a moment I just paused and stared at him and asked him really? And asked him again that he wants someone with my attitude. He just replied “Yes”
And immediately I started to cry from joy and happiness. I didn’t want to cry because of my makeup but I couldn’t stop my self.
He continued that he wants someone who is obedient, respectful and takes care of her self and her looks. I was like asking him are you saying that I’m the role model for your next GF??? And he was like why are you crying. And I was like I’m crying that I’m happy that you see me as a role model for your future wife?
This just made my life complete. There is no other better feeling.
Now my mom is pressuring me to be even more respectful so my brother would learn how to find his GF. LOL
Sorry for my english but its hard to concentrate while edging LOL
This is such a beautiful story!
It makes me think about my life and my family. My sister is a throughly unhappy person. she is over weight, but due to many heartbreaking experiences over the years trying and failing to loose weight she has embraced the Fat Acceptance Movement (FAM). this hasn’t helped her to be happier it has only given her license to feel righteously angry at the rest of the world. she cares deeply about social issues, which is great, but in such a way that it only causes her to see phantoms everywhere.
I love my sister, and I only want the best for her. I also do not think that EVERY girl needs to be a bimbo. I think there is plenty of space in the world for every girl to be whatever she wants to be, only girls who deeply want to be bimbos should pursue that lifestyle. But every time I read an erotic bimbo story where some girl gets bimboified by a magic potion, or a diabolical salon or boutique, and ends up so much happier, part of me wishes that for my sister. Sadly that is just fantasy. (At this point, I should probably state for the sake of clarity that I have no erotic feelings whatsoever for my sister, even if she was totally bimboified I would have no erotic feelings for her. I would simply be very happy for her.)
But reading bimbophilosophy’s story of her visit with her Brother gives me the slightest glimmer of hope. Maybe, just maybe if I can find my bimbo-wife, and bring her home to introduce to the family, she could model the sort oh happiness that comes from worrying less, making herself as pretty as possible, and being pleasing for a good Man, perhaps a little of that could rub off on my sister. I don’t think that she could ever go full bimbo, but if she could find just a little bit of that happiness then that would be a good thing
One of the weirdest things about coming out of months of denial is that my relationship with orgasms is now confusing. I no longer know if they are a good thing or a bad thing, if I’m supposed to want them or not, if I *do* want them or not. I know what my master thinks, but my head is still full of programming from my last dom, a hypno person, with whom I did all this brainwashing…
This week, master told me not to worry about denial cos I’m sick, to cum as much as I like. And I’ve had, like, 2 orgasms. Partly because of non-sexy tooth pain, but also because when I’m not edging I’m not sure what to do. What’s it *for*? what’s the correct way to enjoy this? What am I supposed to want?
My last master wanted me never to cum, and I wasn’t sure about that, but I wanted it because he wanted me to. I can’t make sense of this new thing. Or does my not being able to understand it, mean I just don’t *like* it? I’m pretty sure if you asked me before I would say I *wanted* to cum sometimes. But now I *can* and I actually avoided rubbing all of yesterday because I couldn’t work out what to do.
Just listened to half an hours worth of an hour long hypno file and came, ironically, to a section all about not wanting to cum.
I am CONFUSED.
This touches on a big issue that I have with the whole “bimbos, dolls, dollies, subs, good girls, etc. (use your favorite term or title here), never cum” dogma that I see getting repeated in my beloved bimbo and hypno-kink communities. If you enjoy the power dynamic of never cumming or making your sub edge and never allowing her to cum, and it’s all consensual, the great! Have at it, play ball, more power to you. But it’s not my thing and I have three reasons why.
#1: If you do just a little bit of research into behavior modification, you will discover that forever withholding the reward is NOT the most effective method for conditioning the required behavior. Then again neither is always giving the reward when the desired behavior is performed.
Imagine a lab rat. You want to train this rat to do something, say push a button. At first you want to give the rat a reward every time it pushes the button. This establishes a direct connection in the rat’s mind between pushing the button and something good. But as time goes on if the rat knows that all it has to do to get fed is to push the button, it will get complacent, and it will only push the button when it feels like it, because it knows that it can push the button whenever it gets hungry and food will appear. So instead, after a while, you start to cut back on the food. Maybe it pushes the button and gets a full helping, maybe it pushes the button and it doesn’t get anything that time. If you do that too much then eventually the rat will learn that it’s not worth it’s time to push the button, and it will give up all together. What you have to do is to strike a careful balance between behavior and reward. Enough to provide an incentive, and not so much that the subject becomes lazy or entitled. Science also tells us that this conditioning works best when it is somewhat random so that the subject cannot figure out how to game the system.
Now imagine a bimbo. You want to train her to wear what you want her to wear, do her makeup to your specifications, and to obey you and service you selflessly in bed (or what ever else you want to train her to do). So at first when she does what you want you reward her. You make sure that her sexual experiences when she’s been a good bimbo are far more satisfying than any that she ever had as a plain jane. Maybe you start to stack the deck in your favor by having her edge before a date so that she is desperate for release, and you only allow her to cum with your permission. Eventually you don’t allow her to cum. You tell her that she’s been a beri good girl but that you want her to wait. This makes her more desperate to cum, and she starts doing more of the bimboey things that you have been training her to do, all on her own, in the hopes that she will get to cum next time. And sure enough next time, she’s been even more of a bimbo and you allow her to cum. But now you make her wait 2 dates for her next orgasm. Then three. But just like the rat if you stop giving her the reward then eventually the conditioning becomes far less effective. You want to let her cum enough that it is still an effective reward, but not so much that she becomes lazy.
#2: My second reason for letting my bimbo(s) cum is that even if it was possible to train and condition her to be completely bimboey and 100% obedient without ever cumming I still want her to cum because I want her addicted to the sexual pleasure and release. I want her to look at me and mixed up with all of the love, devotion, obedience, and everything else that she feels when she looks at me, I want her to see me as the fix to her addiction. The one thing that can truly satisfy the burning need that she feels in the background as she goes about her daily life.
#3: Last but not least… I want my bimbo(s) to cum because I enjoy it. You might say that I’m a softy or overly indulgent, but I genuinely enjoy giving pleasure to the women I’m with. Seeing you feel good makes me feel good.
I don’t know if this helps @nameless-doll with her confusion or not by that’s my take on the whole edging/denial/release issue. I hope that it helps
