I absolutely despise this sort of reaction.  When someone rejects you, they’ve rejected you.  Trying to change their minds, especially with a stranger in an online interaction like this, is just obnoxious.  

I don’t think I’ve ever had a good interaction with someone when they’ve asked me to explain further why I’m not interested.  What they want is a chance to try to talk me out of my decision, or convince me my reasons aren’t good enough.  I was willing to give him some examples, until he did the whole “Oh, you didn’t really reject me. I can totally change your mind, even though you’ve been very clear.”  Also, calling me “dear?”  I hate when strangers call me by pet names like that, especially people on dating sites.  I’m not your fucking “baby” or “dear” or “doll” or anything.  It’s creepy to call me those things.

And that last message?  Making it seem like I’m being unreasonable by not giving him all my reasons for rejecting him, after basically admitting he was trying to “negotiate” with me to get me to change my mind?  Definitely seems like he was trying to manipulate me into a response.

It’s reactions to rejection like this that cause women not to respond to people when they aren’t interested. It’s not worth the argument.  And this wasn’t even the most unpleasant of reactions I’ve gotten to a polite and kind rejection.

For the record, some of the questions I was talking about were big red flags, even for friendship, like thinking women are obligated to shave their legs, not accepting my answer of “Yes, and I enjoyed myself.” to the question about having had a same-sex sexual experience, and saying he wouldn’t ever change a diaper.

Go follow me on twitter @DemiDating for more content. I might be moving to Twitter for good, I dunno yet

Me seeing someone I’ve been talking to for a while reveal their true fuckboi selves:

“Welp we can cross that one off the list of “nice guys” that are interested in me”

I made a post on whisper asking for some makeup advice and this is the shit I got in return….. Also, i have a Twitter! Go follow me @DemiDating on Twitter!

I started a Twitter!

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@DemiDating on Twitter, go follow me y’all!

So I left out the actual dick pic but apparently sending dick pics are “Spontaneous” and not creepy or gross. Oh and he deleted/unfriended me on snap after that, what a loss for me!

He sent me a dick pic so I sent him a better dick pic back…..he blocked me, oh no whatEVER will I do?

“But I didn’t force/hurt/make her…..

But I treated her right….

But I was respectful…..

So why didn’t she say yes?”

Because you don’t get a date or sex or a cookie or ANYTHING for respecting someone, you don’t get praise for treating someone with decency, that’s just called treating them like a basic human being.

You’re right, did screenshot this convo on purpose. And I’m not fucking you over by screenshotting this, you did that just fine on your own. And for the record, I’ve had people screenshot much worse things that I’ve sent them in confidence….so apparently it’s “no big deal” for a guy to screenshot a sexy pic, but it’s a big deal for me to screenshot you being a “dickweed”.

If ya girls’ pussy is dry…..then you ain’t doing good enough

When fuckboys bother me I like to just waste all their time ‍♀️

Please put that thing back where it came from