#polyamoury
I want a day where I can just relax. A day where I can cuddle on the bed with my partners and not have to worry about a thing.
Cheating is not the same as polyamory.
Cheating is not the same as polyamory.
Cheating is not the same as polyamory.
Cheating is not the same as polyamory.
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I have gotten questions on this blog in the past about how cheating and polyamory differ, so here is a brief explanation:
Healthy relationships, regardless of whether or not they are polyamorous or monogamous, involve trust, consent, and respect of boundaries.
Polyamorous relationships are not cheating because the people everyone involved is consenting to a polyamorous relationship, boundaries are set up regarding the relationship(s) and how the polyamory will be explored, and the partners in the relationship trust each other.
Cheating, contrary to that, involves a lack of consent, a breaking of relationship boundaries, and a lack of trust.
So, for example,
Polyamory: Jamie has a primary romantic partner (Harper), a primary queer platonic partner (Jordan). He also enjoys casually dating other people. Harper and Jordan know about each other and are consenting and happy to both be primary partners of Jamie. When Jamie became partners with both of them, he made sure they were okay with him casually dating other people. Jamie also discusses his polyamory with his dating partners before they go out to make sure they are consenting to the situation as well. Jamie checks in frequently with Harper and Jordan to make sure they are all happy, and secure in their relationships, and they frequently have discussion about what they are comfortable with and what they want boundaries to look like in their relationships.
Cheating: Jamie has two primary partners, Harper and Jordan. Jordan is monogamous and does not feel comfortable being with a polyamorous partner. Harper is open to a polyamorous relationship, but would like to have boundaries regarding sex because they feel that it is a very intimate act that should be reserved for primary partners. Jordan does not know about Harper, and Jamie lied to Harper and told them that he was not having sex with Jordan.
can y’all just… like or reblog if y’all are polyam-safe blogs
I am indeed poly and as a result this blog is poly safe.
Eve Naming the Birds by William Blake, 1810.
Open marriage, sexual equality, gratification, free love: these are the Christian virtues that inspired William Blake (1757-1827).
Critics in his own time called him a lunatic, for his non-conformity and his visions, which included appearances by angels. Blake, in turn, thought he lived in a mad world, How else to explain the tendencies toward violence, cruelty, selfishness and repressive morality?
He was an engraver by profession and very accomplished. Someone who knew him as a young man might have assumed his fame would come from his art, not his poems. He was prolific in his writing, but his talent with words wasn’t appreciated by most of his contemporaries. Blake is read today because future generations of scholars rediscovered him. In his own time he was a silly eccentric, mostly harmless, though his radical political and religious views were cause enough for a charge of high treason. (He was acquitted.)
The rehabilitation of Blake is demonstrated in the idiosyncrasy that one of his poems (with music added by Hubert Parry in 1916) has become England’s unofficial national anthem. God Save the Queen is sung to represent the United Kingdom as a whole, but at events where athletes compete under St. George’s Cross (not the Union Jack), And Did Those Feet in Ancient Time plays in the background when England wins a gold medal (for example, at the Commonwealth Games.)
The poem, seen above as Blake originally published it, includes the biblical image of the Chariot of Fire, which was modified to become the name of the 1982 Oscar winner for Best Picture. Its rhyming partner, however, is a more interesting line: “Bring me my Arrows of desire.” For Blake, the liberation of sex from morality and the triumph of the imagination were preconditions for England becoming a new Jerusalem–essentially, heaven on earth.
Parry composed the music during World War I at the behest of a militarist group. Almost immediately, he had misgivings. In 1788, Blake had written a poetic essay with the title, All Religions Are One. On another occasion, he asserted “all men are alike (tho’ infinitely various.“) The poet would have been horrified by the slaughter in the trenches. When the song started to become popular, Parry gifted the rights to the National Union of Women’s Suffrage Societies in early 1918. Blake admired Mary Wollstonecraft, author of A Vindication of the Rights of Women, so he probably would have been pleased with that outcome.
Though he advocated for sexual freedom, Blake was happily married to his wife Catherine for 35 years and by all accounts they were monogamous–though he did ask if she could be persuaded to try a threesome.
(Additional source: English Romantic Writers, ed. David Perkins.)
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