A flag for one’s aroace/aceace orientation that is influenced (partially or fully) by one’s neurodivergency.
Based on this post by@neopronouns for aroallovague and alloacevague. I just saw the post and thought it was epic and that I should make another version based on the aroace/acearo flag.
(Flag ID: A flag with 5 horizontal stripes. The stripes are orange, yellow, gray, blue, and dark blue. The gray middle stripe is much thicker than the others.)
back during the original run of this blog, at someone’s request, i designed flags for malagender, malasexual, and malaromantic. i’m not sure how i feel about them now but i thought i would repost them for proper documentation, since i noticed the flags on a couple of wikis lacking information that i could very easily provide! if i were to design them now i’d probably do it differently but it’s still worth recording. (if you see them credited to 1nklash, that’s my old deviantart!)
malagender:
a gender that is influenced by one’s maladaptive daydreaming or another similar condition. mala- can be used as a prefix to further specify the user’s gender experience.
the blue and pink are just because those are frequently used on gender-related flags, but the colors are in a gradient to represent the mental transition between reality and daydreaming. the large grey stripe in the center symbolizes the gap between those two states and the gender one feels in those states. the grey stripe can also be replaced with other gender pride flags.
i made malatransgender as an example:
malasexual and malaromantic:
the malasexual flag is purple because that is a color frequently used in flags to denote sexuality. the malaromantic flag is green for the same reason, but with romanticism. i know that purple and green usually specifically represent asexuality and aromanticism but i wasn’t really thinking about that at the time, i just wanted to distinguish the flags :P these flags have the gradients and the large stripe in the middle for the same reasons as the malagender flag.
i made malapansexual and malalesbian (with the old lesbian flag, this was before emily gwen designed the sunset lesbian flag) as examples
fraysexual (also known as ignotasexual): only experiencing sexual attraction to those one is not deeply connected/familiar with. the attraction is lost when they get to know the person.
term coined by: edensmachine via mogai-archive (both now deactivated) in or before july 2014
ignotasexual was coined by aroacesafespace (deactivated) in or before december 2014
“Oculorusexual is an orientation for those who cannot tell apart whether they feel sexual or romantic attraction. It is under the Quoisexual umbrella. The orientation falls under the Ace Spectrum, and more broadly, the A-Spectrum.” - Mogai.Mriaheze
Autoflexible describes someone who is primarily autosexual and/or autoromantic, but experiences occasional tendencies to be attracted to others.
Someone who identifies as autoflexible could occasionally experience attraction to any gender and any form of attraction. For example, one autoflexible individual could occasionally experience attraction to women (this could be called woman-autoflexible or similar), and another autoflexible individual could occasionally experience what they label as neptunic attraction (this could be called neptunic-autoflexible or similar).
The term was coined by Discord user thenelsonsystem#0156, on July 26th, 2021. It was coined by Yuri specifically, from their system.
Theautoflexible flag was made on the same day by the same user. Its design, colours, and meanings were based on existing autosexual flags.
Blue represents self compassion and self care
Black represents heterosexual/heteroromantic or otherwise queern’t attraction,
Pink represents homosexual/homoromantic or otherwise queer attraction,
Gray represents being on the asexual spectrum and/or aromantic spectrum.
Cheating is not the same as polyamory. Cheating is not the same as polyamory. Cheating is not the same as polyamory. Cheating is not the same as polyamory. ＣＨＥＡＴＩＮＧ ＩＳ ＮＯＴ ＴＨＥ ＳＡＭＥ ＡＳ ＰＯＬＹＡＭＯＵＲＹ
I have gotten questions on this blog in the past about how cheating and polyamory differ, so here is a brief explanation:
Healthy relationships, regardless of whether or not they are polyamorous or monogamous, involve trust, consent, and respect of boundaries.
Polyamorous relationships are not cheating because the people everyone involved is consenting to a polyamorous relationship, boundaries are set up regarding the relationship(s) and how the polyamory will be explored, and the partners in the relationship trust each other.
Cheating, contrary to that, involves a lack of consent, a breaking of relationship boundaries, and a lack of trust.
So, for example,
Polyamory: Jamie has a primary romantic partner (Harper), a primary queer platonic partner (Jordan). He also enjoys casually dating other people. Harper and Jordan know about each other and are consenting and happy to both be primary partners of Jamie. When Jamie became partners with both of them, he made sure they were okay with him casually dating other people. Jamie also discusses his polyamory with his dating partners before they go out to make sure they are consenting to the situation as well. Jamie checks in frequently with Harper and Jordan to make sure they are all happy, and secure in their relationships, and they frequently have discussion about what they are comfortable with and what they want boundaries to look like in their relationships.
Cheating: Jamie has two primary partners, Harper and Jordan. Jordan is monogamous and does not feel comfortable being with a polyamorous partner. Harper is open to a polyamorous relationship, but would like to have boundaries regarding sex because they feel that it is a very intimate act that should be reserved for primary partners. Jordan does not know about Harper, and Jamie lied to Harper and told them that he was not having sex with Jordan.
OK, so, quite a few people have been reblogging/liking my response to a post in the ‘bisexuality’ tag about the definitions of bisexuality and pansexuality and if/why/how they’re different, so I thought it might be useful to post it on its own, so that hopefully more people can see it.
This is a question I see a lot of people confused about, and sometimes that annoys me because I see it so often, but that’s not any of your faults - it happens because a) I spend a lot of time in the bisexuality tag and b) It is pretty confusing! So here’s my take on it - obviously this is opinion, but I’ve tried to be as inclusive as possible, so hopefully some people find it useful! Feel free to reblog/comment on this and bear in mind that I don’t identify as pansexual so in particular if you’re pan and you want to add/question anything I’ve said about pansexuality, please feel free. (Obviously I’m also open to hearing/adding bi people’s opinions/thoughts as well, since my knowledge/experiences can’t possibly cover every bi person’s). I’m probably gonna be using this post a lot to answer more posts like this, so the more accurate/inclusive I can make it/edit it to be, the better. Anyway, here ya go!
I was thinking and came to the realization that there’s no real distinction between orientations such as homoromantic and demiromantic, even though those describe totally different ways of attraction. Lumping them together has its flaws, so I created my own labels to distinguish them from each other when coining orientations.
Affinitive orientations: Orientations describing what genders you’re attracted to, such as bisexual, pansexual, asexual, lesbian, gay, etc. Named for having an affinity for a given gender. Amative orientations: Orientations describing how you’re attracted to a person. Examples include demi-, weort- ,mellow-, and fray-.
