#taking care
I wanna hear some new healthy meal ideas! What’s one of your favorite healthy recipes !? I’ll repost the one that sounds the best !
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image id: white text on a black background with no credit that reads “If you are hiking in a group and waiting for slower people to catch up, don’t start walking again when they’d catch up, because then you got a rest and they didn’t.
“I think about this tip a lot, in many different contexts.”
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fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says “actually works” does actually work.
hate exercising and realizing i’ve let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i’ve overturned my fight-or-flight response.
hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i’m less anxious and i have more energy
hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i’ve actually started healing about something once i’m able to externalize it
hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently
hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love
horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i’m gonna do it tho
I think this relates to when advice is given in bad faith. It feels like losing against an attack on your intelligence because it risks validating someone who lacked the familiarity with the problem to give any other input than clichés we’ve all heard before, or, validating someone who acted like they understood your problems better than you do, who only gave that advice in the first place to invalidate the difficulties you were having.
Just exercise, just eat better, just be more consistent with taking showers. We’ve heard this all our lives, but mostly from people who’ve never been in a position to relate to how unhelpful/patronizing it sounds or how hard it can be to try. They couldn’t elaborate upon how those activities are relevant to mental health, or how to break them down into bite-size steps and make them habits, so “just do it” was all they had to say any further, they couldn’t understand how struggling to “just do it” was the problem we were having in the first place. It all circles back to how we’re affected by ignorance toward neurodivergence, mental illness or otherwise.
However reliable some advice may be, if it’s told in the context of dismissing the problem’s legitimacy or seriousness, it becomes an insult first and advice second.
But, and this is important, you’re now the one with the perspective to actually understand all that cliché self-care advice, whereas whoever you heard it from was probably just quoting what they in turn have heard before. Which advice actually works, the reasoning behind it (such as the correlation between exercise and fight-or-flight), and which advice is just a saying put into circulation by too many people not knowing how to help (just smile!).
