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this pride, I’d like to remind everyone how thoroughly the aspec community was obliterated on here. I don’t think I’ll ever get over the whiplash of going from literally creating a tumblr to learn more about aspec identities and being so excited to finally have a place where I wasn’t broken—to watching the lgbt community and surrounding ‘allies’ utterly destroy what we had, watching blogs delete or quietly re-closet themselves, and being afraid to put anything regarding asexuality or aromanticism in my bio. I started blocking people once I started having nightmares
it’s still so hard to get people to take aphobia seriously, and ‘aphobe’ is constantly treated like a joke. I get anxious about mentioning my qpp in anything, I’ve seen how far people will go to tell someone their relationship is fake or ‘cringe’. sometimes it seems like noone remembers what it was like before, when we weren’t afraid. that we came looking for acceptance, and were thrown out on our asses
for being largely neurodivergent.I’m so glad we’re rebuilding, but I’ll never forget what that felt like. what it feels like
People who didn’t see the worst of it or haven’t had their orienation targeted similarly look at posts like this and me saying that the discourse pushed me into an extremely severe depressive episode and think we’re being dramatic.
Imagine coming online everyday, and not being able to talk about your orientation… putting periods or abbreviations or slashes or whatever if you talk about it in an effort to keep it out of any and all tags because if it reaches a tag associated with your orientation there WILL be someone commenting on it (or in your ask box) harassing you and telling you you don’t belong.
Imagine coming online everyday and seeing posts about how shitty and cringe your orientation is with thirty thousand plus notes and very few disagreements among them.
Imagine coming on every day and reading about how people of your orientation (anything from as extreme as ‘should be shot/thrown in concentration camps to as 'mild’ as are just mentally ill and cringy not LGBT+)
Imagine watching as mutuals you had for years start one by one talking about how obnoxious your orientation is and how you don’t belong in the same community as them.
And it’s become so pervasive, you cannot escape it so long as you are online on social media. And online is where you go to socialize.
It’s very hard, after all of that, not to start thinking, “So many people hate people like me. God there’s so many of them… Maybe they’re all right. Maybe I really am trash.”
This addition
I had people I considered friends turn on me. Someone I messaged nearly every day suddenly came out puplicly with a stance on “the d*scourse” and it was against me and people like me. I messaged them saying how betrayed I felt, and they said it was just their opinion. Just their opinion that I don’t belong in their spaces. Just their opinion that my identity probably doesn’t even exist.
Correct me if I’m wrong but this seems like an all too common aspec experience from the peak d*scourse era (2015-17)
If your partner feels threatened when you want alone time: RUN.
welp
thats creepy
This applies to you boys too- if your girlfriend won’t let you hang out with your friends, RUN
No matter what gender you or your partner are, if they refuse to let you spend any time with your friends that’s a big sign of danger.
GUESS WHAT MY EX BELIEVED
Last time I reblogged this I lost ten followers, someone I liked blocked me, and I got hate mail in my inbox for several days. Let’s see what happens this time.
Abuse begins with insecurity
My ex wouldn’t even accept a ride from my friend who offered to drive us home in the pouring Orlando rain and instead forced us to walk 12 minutes in the rain, soaking my only pair of work shoes and giving me a cold. FUCKING RED FLAGS
Me: doot doot doot doot *reblogs this* doot doot doot *reblogs this again* doot-
If you gotta worry about a girl’s night then either your S/O isn’t trustworthy and you know it, or you’re paranoid and controlling, and in either case then you shouldn’t be in that relationship.
Also, this still applies with platonic friends, too. Possessiveness and emotional abuse don’t have to include a romantic or sexual component.
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Am I wearing panties or not?
I think it’s better if you don’t know, that way you will be horny thinking about what might or might not be under my skirt!
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Which is your mask of preference? #happy #sexy #serious #sad #inlove #siren our new trunk #Masai the #confidence mask! @mariafromparis @marcopietracupa @meg_mt.fuji (presso Paris, France)
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Feel refreshed. Like water babyyyyy! #smile #serious #will2befit #workflow
https://www.instagram.com/p/Bt0qaehlGU-/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=187stwo9ty3dt
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Whether my arts has Water Mark or not, if you use-or-post it without my permission, I will beat you without mercy . If you want to use it, then ask me. I am a generous pepper. Hell yeah and Remember kids, Get my permission or I’ll kill you.
Main character for my bachelor project! This is Bri! She’s loud and quirky and sometimes a bit too serious.
Still gotta fix the hair thingies in the expressions but ah well
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Update on that NSFW blog purge thing: Well, some people are saying they’ve gotten their accounts back, some say they’re being ignored, apparently NSFW tags don’t work in search anymore…. I dunno what the hell is going on. But point is, if I do lose my Tumblr, there’s other places to find me.
http://www.furaffinity.net/user/skeppio/ (All of the art I post on Tumblr is cross-posted here)
https://www.pixiv.net/member.php?id=13522706 (haven’t posted any works here, but I might start doing so if I lose this Tumblr account)
Apparently Tumblr is coming down hard on NSFW blogs. Just in case I get hit too, here’s other places where you can find me:
http://www.furaffinity.net/user/skeppio/
https://www.pixiv.net/member.php?id=13522706 (haven’t posted any works here, but I might start doing so if I lose this Tumblr account)
Update: I’ve heard users are having success with contacting Tumblr staff and getting their accounts restored, so if mine is hit, I’ll do what I can and hope for the best.
Update 2: Apparently it wasn’t a deliberate purge. The blogs getting hit were a result of Tumblr rushing out a program to purge porn spam bot accounts, due to them getting them in some sort of trouble with Google and Apple’s app stores. So thankfully it wasn’t a deliberate NSFW blog purge. Still, better safe than sorry I suppose, gave me a reason to inform you folks of other sites I’m on/post on.
