Reaching out hit me way too hard. I had a fight with my dad before I watched the episode because I had a rainbow bracelet on and he thought it was a gay bracelet. It wasn’t, I’m not gay. But that still pisses me of. So to see Amity having struggles with Alador just kinda hit me like a semi truck. There are times where I wonder if my dad is really present in our family. I know he tries but he’s also always caught up in work. This episode just made me feel nostalgic.
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We already knew from Understanding Willow that they were one, not great people, and two, not great parents- but now we’ve gotten a look at how so, exactly.
Odalia’s about what we expected, manipulative, overly controlling, only interested in what she can use her daughter for as opposed to the kid’s well-being. And then there’s Alador.
I don’t think Alador particularly wanted kids.
Like, I could be wrong, but after watching him and Odalia with Amity, the vibe I got is that Alador has no real interest in the world outside of his abominations, his wife, and the occasional small floating creature that he can follow around. The reason he and his wife seem to work is that she’s good at dealing with the social aspects of business, so she does that and he doesn’t have to. I don’t think Alador particularly gets people or has ever had any desire to learn, and Odalia has ensured it’s never been necessary. If she says they need to do something, he goes with it. He doesn’t understand why, but he doesn’t NEED to. Odalia says this is what they need to do, and she’s the people person. He has no issue with being used as a prop to get whatever they need done.
So when, years prior, Odalia came to him and said ‘I think it’s time we have children’, I’m sure he had no clue what the point of that would be, but if Odalia says they should, well, she’s usually right.
So he has kids, and they’re here now, but he doesn’t really… get them. It’s like he’s dealing with completely different life forms. They live in his house, he sees them a lot, but he doesn’t tend to engage with them. That’s Odalia’s area.
I don’t think he resents them, or anything- they’re fine. They seem nice enough. Intelligent. Good potential.
…but I don’t think he cares about them much.
I get this sense as well, though we can’t really know for sure it doesn’t seem like he tries to spend time with them outside of the abomination presentations. I think he’s probably neutral to people on the whole, with Odalia being an exception because she’s basically running the relationship.
We also see him enforcing the existing rules. He may not understand their ultimate intent, but he dislikes drama in general, likes rules in general, and is willing to step up when he sees his quiet zone being threatened with an angry wife and child.
It’s interesting to me, now that I think about it, that the Blight kids don’t actually refer to Alador much, either. After Luz, Gus, and Willow are expelled, Amity only says she didn’t speak up because of her mom. When Amity, Gus and Willow are sneaking into Blight Industries Edric and Emira ask them to not mention their helping them to Odalia, but they don’t mention Alador. So it seems to me that he isn’t really involved much in parenting. Maybe he only does what Odalia asks of him so he can return to his quiet zone and work.
The way the promo for the new ep, one that would involve the Blights, has the same exact composition as “Reaching Out”. And has the flowers from that ep as well, the ones representing family and understanding
Amity would literally be trying to reach out to her parents, to convince them and to save them.
