#women in tech
A Day for Women
So they created a day for women, which I think is refreshing.
But after this day is done;
Will you go back to silencing their accusations?
Will you go back to making them secondary to leadership?
Will you go back to silencing their ideas at work?
Will you go back to not acknowledging them in a room full of men?
Will you go back to assuming they are the assistant or secretary?
Will you go back to shaming them for choosing the ideology of Womanism? When Womanism chose them?
Will you go back to assuming she asked for it?
Will you go back to questioning their choice?
Will you go back to drooling over the slim-thicc, but gagging over true plus sizes?
Will you go back to questioning their ideologies when they love to cook for their partner, but shaming them for not wanting to cook at all?
Will you go back to high expectations of women, but low emotional support?
Will you go back to calling them queens, but not letting them sit at the throne?
Asking for me.
Wise words on a day FUBU. #HappyInternationalWomensDay
- Arienne
My Galentine’s Day Adventures.
On Feb. 15 I went out with my boyfriend and I decided to go out with my best friends from highschool on Feb. 14 instead (we are all grown now). I feel that as I get older the less I need to prove to other people, so I decided to just treat myself and chill with my friends on Valentine’s Day. We got to dress up, went to the movies and then went to a well-known dessert place in Toronto. And because it’s all us girls, we had a photoshoot every turn we went with no complaints .
I had a lot of fun and the sweets really hit the spot! Did you ever celebrate Galentine’s Day with your girls or go out with friends on a v-day? Let me know what you did!
-Arienne
Late nights and self-love ❤️
Do you ever catch yourself giving negative affirmations in your mind during hard times? Try this exercise the next time it happens!
Rewrite your internal thoughts:
When you catch calling yourself a bad name, you are minimizing yourself to a single bad element that you don’t like about yourself. You need to realize that that one bad element or mistake is not your whole life or being.
First acknowledge WHY you say something negative in your mind, and give reasoning to why you thought this. When you are done with that, give yourself a positive affirmation.
EXAMPLE
“Ugh I made a grammar mistake to an email to a job recruiter, I am so stupid no one will hire me now!”
Rewritten.
“No, I am not stupid, I just made a simple human error. I said that because I’ve heard someone call me stupid in the past and believed it. No one is perfect and there are plenty of jobs for everyone. 9/10 times I am flawless at writing!”
Next time you make a mistake and catch yourself saying something negative or using negative language to yourself, try this tip. :)
- ARIENNE
Happy Black History Month!
This month let’s continue to support one another and lift up our voices! Let’s tell OUR story by sharing OUR truth. Don’t let anyone make you feel that your blackness could possibly make them feel uncomfortable, and that your magic is too strong. Loving yourself means being aware that your race, ethnicity and identity is not and should not be your weakness but is your strength. This is a great month to identify how being black has positively impacted your life, or knowing someone black (or the influence of black culture) has been positive to you.
And for my black women out there, do not let your guard down for any man who doesn’t understand your rights or your gender struggle (psst. even a black man). The excuse of “we gotta stick together” just to support their hypermasculine narrative that gender-based violence is okay (once we’re helping the black man) is getting old sis. Sticking together means holding people accountable and being better as a race. Don’t ever forget that queen .
-Arienne
(Graphic art by Alicia Robinson)
Post-Grad Life. (Very extrovert of me)