a pervasive and frankly borderline toxic issue in fandom these days is how popular headcanons are elevated to the status of being irrefutable canon and so insanely clung to and that when they are challenged, majority of fandom lose their damn minds and forget they was the ones to make the shit up in the first place
it’s crazy that people think “women can be bad/evil too” is like a revolutionary new take that now needs to be said because feminism (which in their minds is “women are good”) has successfully run its course and and we need to swing back in the other direction to restore balance or something. as if the idea that women are evil wicked slutty resentful conniving gold-digging liars who take advantage of society’s sympathy towards them to manipulate situations to their advantage and fuck men over hasn’t been like a core tenant of misogyny since the dawn of civilization
Relationships are so fucking scary to me. No matter how great things are going or how in love you are, your significant other could always just lose feelings for you and be gone. And none of that is in any of your control.
I really do wonder if homicidal urges are considered abnormal in psychological context. They can’t be that rare.
Actually this has a very logical background BC your brain has a tendency to want to do the most extreme of a situation, tho, to be quiet fair sometimes I also question if wanting to be fucked dead or seriously considering is normal or not.
We are surrounding ourselves with like minded people through the milky glass of our own filter for the world.
In short:
Yes and no. It’s normal to have Homicidal urges in the form of Intrusive thoughts, Like those “What if i kicked that lady off the bridge?” or “If i drop this baby it’ll die”, thoughts outside of that can be fairly harmless so long they aren’t a constant day to day thing. I’d seek help if i experienced the urge to kill or harm someone frequently and for a longer period of time.
Urges to GET hurt are another thing though and often stem from something else. Issues that haven’t been consciously dealt with and have to be projected or shifted ectr. But Masochism shouldn’t be pathologised . Sometimes it’s just a thing that people enjoy - like eating popcorn.
The problem with just saying those with day to day homicidal urges should “get help” is it assumes that mental health professional knowhow to treat these. Spoiler alert: they really don’t. You have 2 possibilities if you bring up homicidal thoughts to a trusted professional.
1 (worst case scenario): they think you’re a danger to society and you get locked up
2 (the more likely scenario): they shift nervously as you attempt to explain that such thoughts and urges are persistent but you have a ton of self control and are fairly certain you won’t hurt anyone, however you’re concerned about the thoughts (since obviously being homicidal and thinking murder seems fun is bad). They’ll furiously write in their notes while eyeing you, trying to see if you’re going to do something dangerous. To deescalate the situation, you’ve got to insist that you’re not gonna do anything, and they’ll conclude that you’re really just dealing with intrusive thoughts. You can either disagree and risk reverting to scenario 1, or you can agree, in which case the tension built up in their body will release, and you’ll get the usual spiel of “oh, well that’s normal, and you definitely don’t seem dangerous to me.” And then you’ll smile and nod, allowing the specialist to fully relax and return the smile while you sweat and think “frick I scared another one.”
