Daily Picture Assignment #97 I wore this little number when Reaction Junkie went out Saturday night.

Daily Picture Assignment #97

I wore this little number when Reaction Junkie went out Saturday night. There were also boots over the rainbow pegasus socks.

When Reaction Junkie wants me to do something, he doesn’t always frame it as an order. Sometimes he’ll say something like, “Would you please get me a glass of water?” or “When we get home, could you star the laundry?” I often find myself being more obedient when things are phrased as orders instead of requests, so I’d prefer he give me orders.

Reaction Junkie doesn’t need to be polite or ask me to do things. When I’ve pointed this out to him in the past, he’s told me that because he owns me, is dominant over me, I should interpret any instruction, no matter how polite it may appear, as an order. He added that if he wants to extend social niceties to me, he can do that. He may decide to be polite to keep up appearances around those who don’t understand that he owns me.

And, of course, he’s right. I need to learn to interpret his polite requests as the orders they are. However, I think that, as I sometimes forget my place, Reaction Junkie sometimes forgets his place. He’s my owner, and I’ve submitted to him, yes, but we’re also in a loving relationship where we are each as important and deserving of respect as the other. That can make it easy to forget the underlying truth of our dynamic.

I’m going to work hard to take even the most polite requests as orders. At the same time, I’m going to start responding to all of those instructions, from the request phrased as a question to the barked order, with “Yes, sir” or “No, sir,” and I’m going to start referring to him with honorifics (sir, dear, or other ones we’ve discussed) more frequently, especially when we’re focusing on our dynamic and when I’m feeling disobedient or moody.

Using honorifics more often, and always when obeying an order, will remind both Reaction Junkie and I of our respective places.