To keep wisdom and instructions of the Lord is to be humble, to learn to be guided by the Holy Spirit for He’s the Teacher. If you isolate your understanding on your own standards your are blind and you will fail in the end but to ask instruction and knowledge of the Creator of all things, is this not more logical ?
So the other night I reblogged this post that basically alluded (not at all subtly) to my giant kink for being put in my place. Specifically, the post asked that if I ever got out of line or forgot my place that my Dom remind me of who’s in charge with a slap and a sharp reprimand. I was surprised by the response. Both the overwhelmingly positive response and how many people felt a need to either receive or administer that sort of treatment - but, more so, the number of people who were fixated on the reference to a slap to the face.
So I wanted to dig into this waffle a lil’ bit!
First, I want to say that I am so completely in support of limits. You guys know that! I’m a big advocate of knowing your limits and sharing your limits and sticking to your limits and making sure your partner is aware of your limits and not feeling like you have to back down on your limits or doubt your limits and all of that good stuff. Yay limits! So if face slapping is a limit for you then I think it’s good that you know that and good that you share that and good that you feel comfortable standing firm on that. You go!
However, the location of the slap wasn’t really the point of the post. And I think if that’s the fixation then you may be missing the larger magic of the moment when the Dom reminds the sub of their place.
To be clear, I love face slapping. Love it. I love being slapped in the face. It makes me wet. It makes me moan. It makes my eyes light up. It makes me all melty and happy and squirmy and basically turns me into a giant puddle of liquid sub writhing happily at your feet.
But you know what I love more? The dynamic. Being dominated. Having a Dom who makes the decisions. Having someone I trust enough that I can defer to Him and trust him to make the call as to what I need or what’s best for me. Having someone who is in control. Having structure.
Seriously, I crave structure. I crave someone to give me that structure. I crave being able to hand myself over into his hands and trust that he’ll stick to the limits and rules and protocols and dynamic that we agree upon and put into effect.
And you know what, for me, is a huge part of that? Casual and immediate reminders of who is in charge.
Why? For two reasons. First, because it makes me feel safe and loved and at peace. And second, because to be perfectly fucking honest - it makes me wet as a girl can be.
But it’s not the arousal that makes me crave it. Not really. It’s the first part. It’s that feeling of being safe and loved and at peace. It’s feeling calm. It’s the reassurance that the structure will be there - is there - always. The reassurance that the structure isn’t going to disappear just because we’re around other people or because we’re busy or because we’re not at home or whatever.
And to that end - it doesn’t have to be a slap. A firm grip on a handful of my hair. A firm grip on the back of my neck. A casual, soft hand around my throat - you don’t even have to apply pressure. Just the reminder that I’ve given you the okay to decide whether or not I get to breathe…
It’s not about the pain. True, I love the pain, I crave the pain, I need the pain to balance me - but I love and crave and need the structure and the dominance even more.
So putting me in my place? I need it. I don’t really care how you do it - I just care that you do. I need to feel safe. I need the reminder that you’re in charge. I wantthe reminder that you’re in charge. I want the calm, comforting embrace of your dominance. And I want it as a constant. And I want it on the big things and the small.
So please - please- even if it’s not with a slap, don’t ever stop reminding me that you’re in charge. I love the slap, but I needthe casual display of dominance. It’s not about the physical tool used to give me structure - it’s about making sure I have the structure at all.
Other ways of this that don’t involve face slapping:
Wrap my ponytail around your hand and give it a quick tug.
Lean over and whisper in my ear that “you don’t give the orders here”.
Place your hand on the back of my neck and give it a firm squeeze.
If we’re at a table where no one can see what’s going on underneath it then cup my cunt with your hand and give IT a firm squeeze.
Give me The Look.
Say “Excuse me?” in That Tone Of Voice (you know exactly the one I’m talking about).
If you’re holding my hand then give it a firm squeeze.
Grab a handful of my hair and tug my head back so I’m forced to look up at you. Don’t let go until I apologize.
Place your hand over my mouth and tell me that little girls who don’t mind their manners are better off keeping their mouth shut.
Stick your fingers in my mouth and tell me that if I can’t speak to you appropriately then you’ll find something else to do with my mouth.
There are so many options. It is NOT about the face slapping. It’s about the casual display of dominance and the reminder that we’re going to maintain the structure to which we agreed. THAT’s what I need. THAT’s what I’m looking for.
This like a million times. Like many things, casual dominance looks casual only if you work at it. To me, it is so rewarding that someone allows me to be that way. Because I have doubts, too, but that we can live and work and play within that structure? It helps everyone.
So, you’ve decided to edge. That’s great! It’s the first step to turning all those pesky brains into pretty pink mush. But, just rubbing without cumming isn’t good enough. Here are some easy tips to take your edging to the next level ❤️
Stick your tongue out like a cute little puppy. This is a great way of just feeling dumber when you rub. It’s pathetic and desperate and best of all adorable. Don’t be afraid to drool too. Let all that spit dribble over those big fake tits. Good girls look best covered in their own mess.
Don’t break eye contact Stare into the screen and never break away. Become obsessed, transfixed. Lock your eyes onto your porn. Even when your giving your pussy a break, keep filling that mushy brain with cocks and tits. Forget where you are, who you are, what you’re even doing. All you care about is how good it feels to rub and how jiggly her tits look when she bounces on that yummy cock.
Use headphones just like you don’t want to see anything but tits, pussy and cock, you don’t want to hear anything but moaning and begging. Noise cancelling headphones are perfect for this. Not only will the moans fill your head, sounding like you’re actually there, it blocks out all those pesky distractions. Don’t worry about being walked in on. They’ll probably just start jacking off to what a pathetic little bimbo you are.
Mumble whatever your thinking You don’t want to just rub, encourage that silly little imagination. Say whatever thoughts come into your head. Listen as they devolve slowly from thoughts to words. Thinking to repeating. “I wanna play with her big tits” will become “Bouncy. Bouncy. Bouncy” In no time. This can be made even better with headphones because you can’t hear yourself speak, so you think about it less. This is one of the hardest changes but also the most effective. Don’t force it, just keep speaking and let it happen. Best of all you’re showing your daddy just how stupid you’ve become ❤️ he’ll be so proud.
Suck on something A dildo is best but anything work, lollipop, icy-pole, even your fingers. Even better if you can make it taste yummy. You want to teach your brain to love sucking. Connect the pleasure in your pussy to the joy of sucking. Soon you won’t be able to rub without something in your mouth. It’ll feel odd and you’ll miss it. You’ll be forced to fill your mouth every time you touch your pussy. Soon after that, the feeling won’t go away. It’s not just when edging now. It’s always. Your mouth feels empty without something in it, you need to suck to be happy. Daddy always lets you suck doesn’t he?
Taste yourself fall in love with the taste of your own pussy. Don’t just do it to be cute, do it because you like it. You want to taste your pussy. You want to be wetter so there’s more pussy juice to shovel into that dumb little mouth. It makes you happy. You need to be wet to taste but tasting makes you wet. Keep going. Taste and taste until your pussy is soaking wet and your cheeks are smeared with your own wetness. Train your pussy. It wants to be wet. It needs to be wet.
Add chance Don’t just rub as long as you want, let change decide for you. There are a ton of edging games out there but you can make your own. It’s a fun way of submitting. You lose so much power, flipping a coin or rolling a dice, praying to finally be free. It’s an adrenaline rush that adds so much more to the experience. But along with that, it will push you and your pussy further than you ever could. Sure you might thinking edging 20 times is impressive but when you roll snake eyes and have to face a 50 edge punishment, you’ll reach a whole new meaning of cum crazy. Let your daddy make the rules if he wants, he can even enforce them as he wishes.
You can pick and chose any of these options, find whichever ones you enjoy the most. But the best piece of advice I can give is always perform. Don’t just rub, pretend like you’re on camera. Revel in the feeling, moan, whine, beg. Don’t just rub passively, allow yourself to be consumed by it. Give in. Don’t think. But most of all, have fun ❤️
I hope your balls are as big as melons and your wiener looks smaller than last time after you release that poor little locked cock. Before you unlock your cock, you’ll take on one more dare.
You will place your chastity keys in the toilet for 24 hours. Please set a timer on your phone. You are not allowed to flush.
When the 24 hours are up, you will retreave your keys. Now run yourself a bath. You can cum as many times as you can while the bath is running. Each time you cum you will spread the cum all over your arms and in your hair.
As soon as the water is finished running you will get out and put your chastity cage back on.
Do not wash off the cum. You will sleep with it on.
Unbutton enough buttons to be able to pull your breasts out throughout your shirt…then pull your breasts up out of your bra just until your nipples are exposed, sitting at the top edge of your bra…then remove your panties…look in the top drawer of your desk, and retrieve the glass anal plug Sir left there…put it in your mouth and make it very wet…Bend over the desk and push it slowly up into your sexy bottom…
I’ve been trying to find you on Omegle tonight. Have you been looking for me? If so, the idea to use the same keyword isn’t working. I hope that you’ve been a good girl and have stayed in denial. Remember that good girls never cum without permission! If you read this Wednesday night you have my permission to edge once and to do 80 worship circles before you go to bed. Don’t over do it though. Remember: You have one more day to go!
On Thursday you can do light touching. Again, take it easy. No edging or cumming until we chat again!!!
Also, please set up an account that you’re willing to share on Yahoo or Google! I would prefer not to use my blog to send you instructions.
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Im laying on our bed waiting for sir to come home from town. Im naked with only one accessory, my red jeweled butt plug in my ass in perfect view from the door. Ive covered my pussy in lube and the temptation to play is so very strong. I must resist this temptation. I must be patient.
