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Trans Storytelling: Bravery
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Post surgery musings 3; Our Sad, Broken Healthcare System
Hullo!!!
As you know, I’m 5 months out since my gender affirmation surgery. Healing has been slow and a bit uncomfortable, but wonderful overall.
Regarding some of that uncomfortableness, my surgeon set up a revision procedure to tweak things a bit, and to help with overall comfort and aesthetics. I had that on July 30th.
So now, it’s been 2 weeks since my revision and all is well. I expect to be back living my best life around August the 19th.
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I wanted to share a thing. So, I love my Surgeon. In fact, my wife teases me by referring to him as my “boyfriend.” Between him, his assistant (that is now a good friend of mine), my physical therapist, AND the night nurse from my time in the hospital, I now have QUITE the crew going. These folks have been amazing, and I owe my life to them, literally.
The hospital however. Jeeze. So you’ll recall when they thought I was hiding a pregnancy? Wehhhhlllllll this last time, when I went in for pre-surgery testing, they asked me about the HYSTERECTOMY I had back in March, and how I was doing.
A hysterectomy. Really, though?
I find it TERRIFYING that the hospital – a GOOD highly RESPECTED hospital - people in whose hands I entrust MY LIFE to, can’t seem to agree what a person is there to do, and/or get done. What if I was going in for an appendectomy, and they did a lobotomy? For real, how incompetent are hospitals!? We pay through the nose for quality healthcare, shouldn’t they be better at it?
I considered correcting them, but at this point, I just don’t have the energy. So instead, I said “I’m doing well,” feel “mostly healed” and how I’m looking forward to “getting all this ‘hoo-hah’ business behind me, once and for all.”
The doctor (a lady one) then commented; “I bet you’re excited to not have to deal with menopause, am I right?”
“Sure,” I said.
In a way, this was very validating for me, as they CLEARLY believe me to have been assigned female at birth. Why not roll with it? And ultimately, is it really THAT far off the road from what actually happened?
*facepalm*
And folks wonder why I simply do NOT trust the healthcare system.
These kind of administrative f@#k-ups are PRECISELY how people end up dead on a table and why malpractice is a thing. How is this still an issue in 2019?!
Anyway, that’s my update.