#general ramblings
I was doing a delivery last night at Red Robin. Soon as I parked, I opened my door and immediately saw this on the lamp post next to me…
Juuuuuust gonna go ahead and tag @twistedtummies2 and @dumdumdrawstumtums for absolutely no reason whatsoever. (:
Me: *comes back pissed from working WAY later than he should have* Oh shit, the Oscars were today? AND Will Smith won best actor? Well, damn, good for-(reads the rest of the article)…him… .____o;
…Well, damn, anything to make the Oscars remotely more interesting, right? (:’
Sending anyone anywhere that you don’t know messages that start with “hi” and nothing else is going to result in a blank messenger, and at worst, a block. Repeatedly sending “hi” or asking random questions is also gonna result in the same. Most of us aren’t looking to just chat or indulge direct kink content for people in private. Some of us do that with friends we’re already very familiar with, not strangers and have no interest in doing so with strangers.
Similarly, nobody likes being asked “do u rp?” Unless they actively post requesting RP partners, just assume that the person in question doesn’t RP, and don’t keep pressing it.
We make kink content because we enjoy it and we like that there’s audience of people who enjoy it as well. Interactions don’t have to extend beyond the ask inbox. To put it into context, because I’ve had to explain this multiple times to people who eventually ended up blocked, lemme paint you a scenario:
You’re in the grocery store, minding your own business, listening to music, shopping and carrying on. And then some random person walks up to you and says “hi.” You don’t know them. You don’t know their intent and you have no idea why on gods green earth this person is interacting with you when you just want to listen to Celldweller in peace. Suppose just to be cordial you just wave back and say “hi” in response. Then, they start asking you all of these questions that you would much rather not be answering. Even if they’re harmless enough, you don’t want to be engaging with this person, and you don’t want them suddenly acting all buddy-buddy with you because you have no clue who they are, and are perfectly okay with that.
The internet gives us ambiguity and as such, far too many assume that means they have cart blanche to do away with basic social etiquette. They do not. Whether in real life or online, you always want to treat others how you want to be treated. If you wouldn’t go up random strangers and try and engage with them in person, then you shouldn’t do so with people online either. It may seem harmless, but it creates an awkward situation that no one wants to be in. Trust me, no matter the content creator, nobody likes that, and nobody is going to start striking a full conversation with anyone who does that.
Which also, finally, leads to a last major point…under no circumstances should anyone anywhere, EVER, send nudes or lewds unsolicited. Don’t assume that just because we make kink content and some of it can be steamy that we want to just find that stuff in our inboxes. Whatever we seek out, let us do so on our own. And DAMN sure don’t expose yourselfto us directly.
