She goes out and has a great night, then brings her full load home for hubby to clean up. It wasn’t a good night if she is dripping with cum when she gets home

You know you want too!!

Get excited for January 14th

Outfit for tonight’s visit to see her boyfriend. I hope he fucks her good and proper leaving her full of his cum waiting to be cleaned up by the cuck husband.

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Consisting of rules, tasks, and rituals she has set in place. Control is an obvious factor in dominance. 

Permanent Rules

Unchanging, these rules are not time-bound. They are constant principles that she has set out. These are good as they repeatedly reinforce her control. It’s important that she reminds him now and again that she is pleased. A simple “good boy” will suffice. If she does not express her satisfaction, it will no longer be seen a task FOR her, and he may lose interest.

Examples:

• He must make her coffee every morning
  
• If she lays out clothes, he must wear them
  
• He must hold all bags while she is shopping
  
• He must ask permission to leave the house
• She always drives, unless she wants to drink, then he drives
• He always opens car doors for her, even when she is the driver

Temporary Rules

Time-bound, these are rules are usually short lived – a month or less. A situation arises in which she determines needs controlling. These aren’t tasks as they change behaviour and can reoccur at any given time. These are good rules to set to remind the sub that she is in charge and he must follow. Remember, every time a sub follows — her dominance grows.

Examples:

• He must stay by her side for the party this weekend
  
• For the next week, he must ask permission when spending more than $50
• In the month of July, when her friends are over, he must host and serve

Rituals

Recurring events that exist solely to remind both who is dominant and who is submissive. These are very good early on to instil in both parties the newly established hierarchy.

Examples:

• Before sleeping, he must kiss her feet and say “thank you”
  
• Whenever she arrives home, he must welcome her, take all bags, and ask if she needs anything
• Every morning before getting dressed, he must kneel before her and say “I’m yours”

By enacting rules and rituals the dominant can dominate without putting in so much time and effort. As long as she comments on good behaviour and corrects bad behaviour, the long lasting rules will make the submissive happy. She can deepen his submission by expanding on rules by making them larger or stricter. For example upgrading the rule “He must ask permission to see his friends” to “He must ask permission to leave the house”.

Significant Power Exchanges

Financial Control

Money has a lot of control power. Without money, freedom is lost. Being dependant on another person to purchase things gives that person ultimate power. She can refuse any request whenever she wants. If he hasn’t been performing to her standards, she can reduce or even remove his access to money altogether.

It can also be used as a reward. For good behaviour, she could for example, allow him an item from his wishlist. She could increase his allowance.

Chastity

By having him wear a chastity cage, he loses access to pleasuring himself. No more masturbation. No more erections.

By controlling his sexual organ, she gets to determine if and when he gets any sexual pleasure.

She should build his sexual energy to help his submission grow. She can reward good behaviour with sexual gratification. Bad behaviour leads to a longer time locked up.

Schedule Control

She takes control of their shared calendar. She sets the agenda for the week. What and when do the couple do things together? When do they spend time apart? Who does the couple see? Who does the couple not see? If he wants to see friends, he has to go through her.

Car Access

By taking control of the car keys, he loses his freedom to travel. She could have him ask her for the key, and explain why he needs it. She could enforce that only she is allowed to drive the car.

Dress

Wearing clothes she put out is a constant reminder of her authority over him. Modifying his identity for her benefit is a significant step.

Her control should grow every week at a comfortable pace for her. It will grow to a point where both partners are happy and balanced.

– R

Authority

Authority is the power or right to give orders, make decisions, and enforce obedience.

A submissive grants authority to the dominant to take full control.

Yet, simply being given authority does not make someone dominant. The dominant ought to expand perpetually the application of power bestowed upon them. This is what the submissive seeks. A reluctant dominant will find it hard to understand and may feel they are passing their sub’s limits. This is why communication is critical.

The key for the new dominant is to personify the belief that their control and dominance is actually providing happiness. They are doing a good thing for their partner. For the submissive, being controlled and limited brings meaning. And meaning provides fulfillment. Which in turn brings happiness. Not laughter, but deep passionate happiness.

The word controlling has a bad reputation due to so many relationships ending due to “the super controlling partner”. The difference between those and this is the authority.

Control

What is control? How does it feel being controlled? Why is control important?

Control is directing or restricting the action of the submissive. This is what subs need to feel and what doms ought to do.

While some people have a natural tendency to be controlling, as with anything it can be learned through study and experience.

Beingtold what to do by a stern confident dominant makes those tasks done for the dominant, and not for the task itself.

A simple example being laundry. It’s a task that must be done. There is already no choice. Whenever the basket fills, at some point it must be washed. Which sounds better:

1. The basket gets overfilled. Both argue over who has been doing the laundry more lately, and who should do it next.
   
2. The dominant sets a rule for her submissive. “You are to always do the laundry before clothes reach the top of the basket. If I see the lid notched open, you will be punished”.
   

It is extremely important for the dominant to keep to their word. If they see the basket overfilled, a punishment mustoccur.Her dominance reduces every time she laxes on set rules and rituals. On the other hand, if the dominant never sees the basket overfilled, she should reward her submissive. Just as you would teach a puppy.

Submissives are driven through successfully pleasing their dominants. They don’t want to fail them. The more control she imposes, the more happily submissive he will become. Through her use of control the dominant will train her submissive in as many areas she deems necessary.

For the submissive, being controlled feels secure — like a warm hug on a cold day. The power given within that authority returns a safety net. Knowing he can’t fall, because she is in charge. It provides the mundane everyday with meaning. Tasks are now dutiful, completed FOR the respectable powerful dominant. The fear of punishment for failing reduces lethargy. Being owned and not having a choice is soothing. Having a rigid structure and rules to abide by lessens pressure and stress.

Dominance

There needs to be a fine balance that fits both the submissive and dominant for the symbiotic relationship to flourish. If she is comfortable and enjoys being the dominant partner, and he is being controlled at an ideal level there lies perfection. Level of dominance here is the key metric.

As of now, I believe the level of dominance in a marriage is determined by the following factors:

• Control
  
• Quantity of controls (how many rules and rituals are in place?)
• Potency of controls (how large and strict are the rules?)
• Infiltration (how much does dominance permeate the marriage?)
• Assertion(her attitude)
  
• Verbal expression (how comfortable is she using a stern voice?)
• Body language (how much does her demeanour show her as the dominant partner?)
• Correction (what is her level of comfort in putting him in his place?)
• Rejection (how often does she let him say no?)
• Retribution (how strict and enforced are her punishments for him?)
• Normalcy (how much has her dominance conditioned to everyday life?)

I’ll go into detail on why I think these are the factors that indicate the level of dominance.

– R

It’s been a couple weeks since we married and she has had me locked since.

A bright yellow CherryKeeper.

The first few days were sore and sleep was disrupted — morning wood attempted to push the cage away. But now… it’s comfortable. I cannot tell it is there most of the time. The cage has become a part of me. And morning wood has subsided.

It’s already become very normal. This is just how we do things now. A part of our lifestyle and routine.

She holds the keys. And only she controls if and when I get to receive sexual pleasure.

She wants it this way.

Her dominance is yet to manifest, but let’s see where this road leads to.

– R

Just a few more days.

Our wife led marriage starts in just a few days. From this day forward we will both recognise her as the dominant spouse. Head of Household. The one in charge.

Once she becomes comfortable, I expect her to set many rules for me to abide by. But we decided to begin slowly with no rules set for now. We will start with simply: What she says, goes… and I must humbly obey her command.

She told me a few weeks ago to get a bright yellow Cherry Keeper — her favourite colour. She will most likely cage me from day one.

We will soon meet with the bank to set up our joint account. She will control our finances. She will provide me with an allowance of her choosing. Probably more for good behaviour and less for bad.

We both expect there to be teething issues. And that’s okay. It’s completely new to both of us. There will be mistakes and hiccups on both sides. We agreed to start slowly with her dominance building over time. We will sit down every Sunday lunch to discuss our progress, make alterations, and raise issues. Her leadership will flourish week by week.

At first I’m sure I will find it difficult to maintain discipline. But I must swallow my pride and remove my ego. She is in charge now. It’s as simple as that. I must learn to derive pleasure from fulfilling her command. I must learn to convert disobedience to acquiescence, and acquiescence to blissful subservience. I expect to be punished for any repeat infractions.

As abiding by her rules and obeying her orders becomes more routine and normative — which may take several months — her dominance will certainly grow. She will learn to reap the benefits of a happily subservient husband. She will gain confidence in asserting her authority. She will no longer feel guilt from dominating. She could never imagine a life without her being in charge. There’s no going back now. That would be a regression. How could she ever contemplate having a partner that doesn’t do as hes told without question? This is just how our marriage is, and will be forever more. She leads… I follow.She commands… I obey. She dominates… I submit.

— R

The ownership of chastity transfers from the submissive male to the becoming dominant woman.

It’s very beautiful. The male submissive introduces the idea to her. She reluctantly agrees, out of love, to allow him to wear it. At first she thinks it’s weird, and doesn’t understand why he would want to do such a thing.

But then, as she begins to experience the benefits of controlling his sexual energy to better his behaviour, the idea of chastity begins to grow in her mind. It grows a lot. To the point where she can no longer go back. She can’t imagine regressing back to how it was before. Losing all the attention and good behaviour.

Once she likes it, there is no going back. She will never want him masturbating while thinking of other women ever again. She will always want his full sexual attention directed solely at her.

Chastity is her idea going forward. And she is the one with the keys. He no longer has a choice. When he handed over the keys, he also transferred ownership of his dick. It’s now her dick.

—-

A couple years ago I introduced the idea of using a chastity cage and orgasm control to my fiancé. I bought one of those Chinese knock-off cages and wore it for a few days. She was bewildered but somewhat intrigued for a day or two. She found the look of the metal cage imprisoning her dick sexually appealing, and the control aspect also caught her curiosity. Unfortunately, the fit wasn’t good and my balls appeared strained after several hours of wearing it. The wrong kind of blue balls. Instantly she was entirely put off the idea. She wants kids someday.

We don’t yet live together, and she didn’t like the risk of not having a key available etc. I wore it a few times after that for a bit of fun. But the idea of giving her the keys permanently was left there back then.

Well, in a couple months we are getting married and she accepted for it to be wife led / matriarchal. To condition her dick for full-time chastity, I’ve been wearing a properly fitted nub cage on and off (mostly on) for the past couple weeks. Yesterday I took it off for the day because I went to play some sport with a friend. After, I went to her place for a couple hours and as I was about to leave, she looked down at my crotch and asked “Are you wearing it now?”. I said “Not at the moment because I was playing sport”. She looked at me sternly and told me “Put it back on the minute you get home”.

I put it back on the minute I got home.

Her attitude yesterday confirms that I will be fully transferring ownership when we get married. She doesn’t have the keys just yet. But when she does in a couple months, I don’t see how she will ever give them back. She really hates the idea of me masturbating to porn — thinking of other women. I don’t think she will let me masturbate ever again. And I’m more than happy for that to be the case.

She has taken ownership of her dick.

– R

Submission defined as:

“The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person”

Submission synonyms:

• Yielding
  
• Agreement
• Acceptance
• Consent
• Accession
• Compliance

Submissive defined as:

“Allowing yourself to be controlled by someone else”

Submissive synonyms:

• Acquiescent
  
• Dutiful
• Obedient
• Deferential
• Accommodating
• Malleable

A submissive submits out of their own will.

Theychoose to submit.

Theywant to feel submissive.

They want to feel owned. 

They want a dominant to take complete control of them.

They want to please.

They want to worship their dominant.

They want to obey their dominant.

The submissive wants to relinquish control.

If you have a submissive partner. Control them. Tell them what to do. Manage their day-to-day activities. Take over in the bedroom. They beg for this in their minds. You’ll be giving them a better life.

If you are new to being the dominant parter, it will feel weird at first. You will feel overbearing and authoritarian. But as your submissive reacts positively to your domination, your feelings towards it will also grow positively. More and more as time goes by. Fake it until you make it.

Take the reins and your submissive will love you forever more for doing so.

– R

The other day I spoke with my beautiful fiancé more about wife led marriage and sent her a few articles on orgasm control, motivation, male submissiveness, and assertive speaking. She understands and agreed to most of it, but doesn’t like the sound of demanding things vs asking politely.

And I understand where she is coming from. She has a loving and caring character. She also is confident public speaker and doesn’t take shit from anyone. She stands up for herself aggressively but is very kind and selfless to the people that love her.

Because she loves me so dearly, she does not like the thought of speaking to me in a demanding manner.

Of course from a submissive perspective, being demanded is a way for us to serve and please — so herdemanding is actually a loving act.

It won’t be an easy concept for her to adopt. I’ve been thinking about how to approach this and decided the best way is for her to learn to just remove the question mark.

Instead ofaskinglike:

• “Honey, could you please make me a coffee?”
  
• (hoping he gets the hint) “I’d really like a coffee right now”
  
• “Could you do me a favour and make me a coffee please?”

Learn to telllike:

• “Honey… please go make me a coffee.”
  
• “Go make me a coffee.”
  
• “Be a good boy and go make your wife a coffee.”
  

Demanding can still be said lovingly. The difference is the aura of confidence and assertiveness. The demand will create an instant response in the submissive to act. Whereas a question will instead leave him thinking.

With a demand, the following responses from him are not possible:

• “Not right now babe, I’m busy playing video games.”
  
• “Sorry can’t at the moment, this film is getting really good.”
  
• “I was just about to leave to go see a friend.”
  

Any failure on him to obey her command should be met with discipline at a later time. She must assert her authority. Otherwise he will learn to not follow her orders.

There are a few reasons why telling is better than asking:

1. It puts her needs above his, which makes him feel submissive
   
2. It displays her authority, which makes him feel submissive
3. He gets a “thank you”, “good boy”, or “good job” for successfully serving her — making him feel submissive
4. There is no ambiguity about whether the request is needed or not
5. It prioritises the demand over whatever he is doing right now
6. She gains a bit more confidence with every successful demand
7. Most importantly everyone is happier. She gets what she wants, and he gets what he wants

The difference is so subtle for her, but it’s a huge change for the submissive man. With asking him in a form of a question, you’re opening up to the fact that it’s okay if he says no. By telling him he must do something, he does not get to decide if and when. He doesn’t get to say yes or no. She wants a coffee. And she has decided that he is to make it for her.

Every girl knows when she asks her man to do something in a form of a question, she is secretly demanding. If he says no to her question, she will actually get pissed off inside and mask it.

It’s her soft way of telling, but the problem is he is not a mind reader. She should just instead tell him what she wants knowing that she is in charge. Be assertive. Have confidence in your decisions and actions.

It’s best just to be assertive and tell in the first place. It puts the man into a position of service, there’s no beating around the bush, and there is no room for the word no.

I believe every woman has it in her to learn to be assertive. It just needs to be allowed to grow and flourish.

He will be happier to please you by following your orders.

– R

Why do I find myself again and again wishing for my partner to be in charge and lead the way? For years like a cycle, I have gone between needing this in my life, to the feeling waning and me disengaging my attention away from my partner.

I’ve found the reason for these cycles revolves around pornography and masturbation, but in the opposite way you may think. Pornography is the thing that disengages me from my partner sexually and domestically.

We don’t yet live together and only see each other a few days a week. So you can imagine me being a late-twenties year old. I masturbate to porn often.

I find that the rare occasion I take a couple days break from masturbating, the desire to be led comes on strong again. In this state I’d do anything to please her. And I want not to be asked politely to do things for her. I want to be told. Assertively. Knowing that she wants something and I must follow. It’s not a polite request. And if I please her, I’ll get recognition and she may even let me please her sexually as a reward if I’m lucky. Yes, all of these feelings dominate my mind after just two days without coming. And I don’t know why. But it is what it is. A yearning to be taken. kept. used. to pleasure her.

Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not a super strong yearning, the type where you get depressed without it being fulfilled. It feels about as strong as that craving for a sweet creamy bar of chocolate that we all have felt at least once. It’s enough to make me pursue.

The problem with this space is that when looking up femdom, female led relationship, dominant women, etc. You’ll quickly find that the majority of it at the very extreme end. With the woman dressed in all black leather, holding a bullwhip, with the man on his knees naked with his balls being beaten. But that couldn’t be further from what my feelings present to me. I’m not saying these things don’t exist. And I’m not even hating. I’m just saying this isn’t my version of female domination and male submission. If you are a woman looking into leading your man, do not let what you come across discourage you.

About two years ago I brought up with my girlfriend of seven years the concept of female led relationship. I created a long document where I outlined different things that I learned about this concept and how we could apply it our relationship.

She was, as many woman I’m sure, intrigued and worried at the same time.

I imagine within five minutes some of the following must have gone through her mind:

• “What is wrong with how our relationship works already?”
• “I don’t want a wimp of a man”
  
• “I don’t want to boss you around. I’m not a bitchy person. I don’t want to be seen as a bitch”
• “Hmm, Iwould love more attention though”
  
• “And I would love for you to stop looking at porn finally!”
  
• “Sure, more orgasms for me sounds good”
  
• “I like the thought of being the only one that can give you pleasure. Not you by yourself thinking of some other woman”
  
• “I like the sound of chastity. Because when you go out, I know you can’t do anything haha”
  
• “Will it hurt your balls though? Please be careful. I want kids eventually.”
  

The important thing at the time was that she said she’s willing to give it a try. She took the keys. She was into it. But sadly it failed after a couple days. At that time it didn’t work for us. She lived on the other side of the city for university. And I was a commuter living alone in a condo. We only saw each other a few times a week. For this to work properly you need to be together daily more often than not.

I’ve been alone for the vast majority of lockdown. Imagine the amount of porn I looked at to suppress that submissive feeling. Well just last week I stopped masturbating for a few days, and lo and behold that chocolate craving came back stronggg.

We are getting married in a few months. And she will be moving in. Good timing, huh?

I told my loving fiancé on the phone that this feeling is back, and I’d like for her to lead our marriage.

She said “Yes.” … “But let’s take it one step at a time.”

– R