I think as adults with our own living spaces it’s important to have your friends over periodically for a sleepover. And i mean a real sleepover. Staying up late to watch movies with junkfood and popcorn and then going to bed only to stay up even later talking in the dark and laughing because you’re so exhausted that everything’s funny but you still don’t want to fall asleep.
The sheer number of kids who are straight up putting their real names and ages and location in their bios like “Natasha | 14 | Minor | New York, NY!” and occasionally putting their actual school or city in their tags just terrifies me like no stop stop stop remove that right now I cannot emphasize how unsafe that is for you I am begging you for your sake remove thst shit right now
Some general internet/stranger safety rules, please add on:
Dont give people information that could lead to them finding you IRL. If you must for some reason, always use the vaguest, most broad terms possible. You need help with x state’s laws, youve been affected by floods in y state/region/general area.
Other examples, dont describe your school uniform, or if theres a uniform. Dont name or describe any places that you frequent. Dont tell people your schedule, when youre out or in your house. Dont post pictures until youve left the location (a few years ago people used one photo and google earth to figure out exactly what room someone was staying in when they mentioned the hotel, figured out the height and placement from a nearby tree. This particular example wasnt malicious.) Dont mention your teachers names or your friends names or anyones names. Dont describe the really distinctive person or place or feature of your neighbourhood. Dont tell people exactly how to trigger you. Dont have private conversations with adults, make sure other people can see whats going on. If someone makes you uncomfortable, block them and dont look back, maybe tell a trusted adult.
It is difficult to not mention any identifying details at all, but you have to be careful because people can find out a huge amount from one detail, and when they start adding up someone may be able to find you. I cannot emphasise enough how dangerous that is. If in doubt, dont share it.
If you want to meet up with someone you met online, tell an adult you know and trust, give them place and time and your phone number and when to expect an update. Ideally bring someone with you, and meet somewhere easily accessible and busy and public in broad daylight, somewhere with security cameras if you can. Dont follow them somewhere more private. Make sure you have your own way home and your own money.
I have always been super big on Internet safety so here are some examples of compromises to personal information online online:
Use an alias or a pseudonym. this could be, for example, your normal or shortened username or a nickname that you would like to call yourself, or just something that people can use to refer to you that isnt your irl name
Use the term minor instead of stating your age. If you feel the need to tell people some specifics on your age stop at saying your a minor, nobody needs to know any further than that in a normal social media space
Don’t be specific on your gender, only use your pronouns in your bio if you need people to. Your gender does not always reflect the pronouns you use and you do not always have to put your pronouns in your bio, I don’t and it hasn’t had much of an effect on me. But obviously if people using specific pronouns for you does trigger you putting your pronouns in your bio is a helpful thing for you to do without properly giving away your gender identity.
It’s best not to put your triggers in your bio or on your carrd because you are quite literally giving people that dislike you an easy way to affect your mental health in a negative way. You can block tags and specific words on your own and not everyone online needs to know what those blocked tags are. If someone says something triggering to you online, feel free to tell them that that specific thing triggers you and ask them not to send you asks or messages like that, but you don’t need to in-general put things like “I am triggered by the use of he/him and the words orange as a victim of xyz” because that will genuinely allow people an easy way to upset you and some people really suck so dont give them that oppertunity
Try to be vague when mentioning what level of schooling or education or work you are in. I use the term school often but nobody knows whether that means uni or college or work experience or an apprenticeship or home schooling or anything. Try to avoid things like high school University or college unless you are OK with people knowing that is the level of schooling you are at. You never know who might be able to find you from that.
Be super vague about who you are in dms from people that you don’t know. People may not always be who they seem so until you are almost a 100% sure that this person is well intentioned, of an OK age to be talking to you, and of trustworthyness, DO NOT share large pieces of private information like your email or your surname or your trauma with people who dm you on the Internet with a picture of a cat. Grooming is an absolutely huge issue that is getting worse and worse because generation Z are becoming incredibly bad at Internet safety. Remember to try and be as safe as you can and not instantly trust everybody you meet on the Internet because a lot of people are nowhere near what they seem.
Lastly, please make sure to keep your Internet persona and your real life persona completely separate. You have no clue if the tumblr post you made when you were 14 will have an effect on the job you apply for when they look you up 10 years later. It’s very important to try and keep your online persona and your real life person separate so that you can leave that persona at any point if you need to. If you want to step away from your social media account, you shouldn’t have to deal with the footprint of yourself oversharing on social media 10 years ago following you forever.
Be safe online everyone
All of this, so much!
I know younger people are used to all of their stuff being online all the time and not having any digital privacy, but protect what you can. A little bit of plausible deniability never hurt anyone.
If you’re not an EU citizen or can’t sign please pass the info to EVERYONE you know, so they can help spread it!
(That means reblogging this, not just liking it … )
If the EU manages to get this implemented, it could really improve quality of life for everyone not just those living in the EU.
If this get’s of the ground no western governemnt has an excuse to not at least try the UBI!
to be clear this isn’t some random change.org petition that doesn’t matter, this is the formal proper way for EU citizens to influence what the EU commission discusses. if this gets enough signatures they HAVE to seriously consider how to implement universal basic income across the european union.
okay so currently i’m living in a furniture store that belongs to my grandfather b/c we’re too poor to afford a house and the wifi here is absolutely terrible. making stimboards is VERY time consuming so I will not be able to do it often
but! here is my pride blog if you want to follow it! @enb-ab-y
i’m taking requests for icons, moodboards, headers, and other stuff.
if ‘tolkien’ isn’t just a hundred and fifty-two minutes of jrr tolkien and cs lewis ragging on disney and being sassy best friends, what’s even the point??
well lads i know it’s been a while. i don’t really have an excuse except that i’ve had a lot going on and i keep forgetting to update. i hope everyone is hanging in there today and the days that come after. go find you a soft furry animal to hug, and maybe order takeout from somewhere you like. have a hot bath with a bath bomb. but some handmade soap. idk what you guys do for self care.
anyway, let’s get into what happened in october.
so this month has been a whirlwind, for many reasons. fall came hard and fast, our first frost being on like, the 15th or something like that. and unfortunately what came with it was….a lot of dead rabbits. and also the end of our extremely loyal zucchini plant that has fed us all summer.
the last two winters i’ve spent here weren’t so dramatic. fall came in easily and the animals adjusted. this year it went from ‘hoodie and shorts’ weather to ‘the hose is frozen and i need to pull the lines’ overnight. i lost over twenty rabbits over the rest of that week from stress bloating and hypothermia. all of them were either in the nestbox still at around four weeks (they would hop out and then freeze), and six to eight weeks (just weaned, so at the lowest point in their immune systems.) a combination of inefficient windblock and overcrowding made my barn a graveyard. my friend who is boarding her rabbits on my property lost even more, due to them being either more delicate or humidity in her enclosure, we aren’t sure.
fortunately none of my keepers have succumbed. but of course there is still time. the good news is the winter rabbits adjust much better than the summer rabbits do, but i’m still keeping a hawk eye on the weather forecasts and making sure i have enough boxes (i’m even using nest boxes) to stuff full of straw for them to snuggle into if i they want/need. i’m also leaving kits with their dams much, much longer than i would otherwise just so they can share body heat.
but if course all that hay comes with a price, and the price is ‘every cage has giant poop piles in the corners and i can’t just hose them out anymore because i don’t want to freeze them to death.’ it is, also, of course, the season of ‘cecile can’t do anything anymore involving water or metal (or water AND metal) because their hands go numb within seconds and it’s painful.’ so it’s going to be a long process of getting these cages clean. but y’know, i needed something to do out there i suppose, now that i have (almost) all of the cages remade and leveled.
speaking of rabbits and winter babies, i finally got another halloween litter, this time four himi worms that i am apparently not allowed to post on tumblr because they look like certain genitalia. but i promise they are very healthy and i am very excited for these kits. hopefully i can get a buck out of it that looks nice and also won’t break his leg like the last guy did.
in mid-october i and my two AQFs made a weekend road trop down to california to transport some rabbits and also have a little campout with some of the folks from my discord channel. almost everything that could have possibly gone wrong went wrong, but we did manage to snag a really nice, large campsite and have a good time cooking rabbit, talking about rabbits (and dnd, and craisins, and guild wars,) and playing in the yuba river. i caught a small brown lizard (it was released), ate in-n-out, bought a collectible shot glass from weed, ca, and overall had a really good time.
as far as the other animals, we are starting to move away from ducks as a livestock animal and focus more on the muscovies, so it’s time to eat a lot of duck meat. mallard ducks (pekins, cayuga, etc) are very noisy, very messy, and don’t really do a good job of feeding themselves like the geese, turkeys, and muscovy ducks do. so, it’s time to cull. the yard will be a quieter place, that’s for sure.
coming into november the plans are…get low tunnels built for cold-weather crops, fixing up the snake food breeding system, and other indoor things like. i dunno, flooring. building a snake rack? who knows. somehow, for once in my life, i managed to get all the outdoor work done before it was too late.
