#lilith in leo

We are all aware of Lilith, and how she can help us get more insight into our secret desires, our sexuality and things which might have been/are considered as taboo, but actually are not bad. I would describe Lilith as empowerment and an understanding of aspects of ourselves that were/are/could be shamed but can be channeled into something empowering and can be embraced.

We are going to be focusing on Black Moon Lilith.  Oh another thing, Lilith can help us also recognize where we were rejected and how we deal/dealt with it. Where we feel shame.

Lilith in Aries:

Someone with a Lilith in Aries does have deep desires to lead and assert themselves, but at the same time they also possess the fear to do. This fear can cause this individual to go both ways, either become forceful with their ‘leadership’ or just quit/run away from such positions and hand them over to others. Here, the individual might struggle with accessing the power that they obviously possess and also struggle with how they channel their individual power, how to exert themselves as leaders and how to lead. These individuals are also very restrained or without any restraint at all. Overcoming all of these fears and issues, and just becoming a dot in a balanced environment requires for the individual to learn that power comes from within, once they go inward and discover the power they hold, they will truly embrace it and just know what to do with it instinctively. Instead they might look for power around them and oftentimes become lost in the wrong corners. Change direction and go within.

Lilith in Taurus

There is always a talk about extremism when it comes to Lilith, but I feel like Lilith in Taurus can really go a long way with the dealings of Lilith. They have a deep desire for things, people, whatever strikes their fancy. No matter which route they take they can remain unsatisfied oftentimes and require more and more and more. Lilith in Taurus might also be very repressed when it comes to sex and sexuality, sexual desires, they are just contained and stray away and/or are not very expressive in that department. Taurus is a fixed sign, so being fixated on staying in one state which I described above can be very likely, which is why this placement is prone to extremism. It is hard for these individuals to come out of that box they’ve prepared for themselves which is quite cozy. This might sound very cliché, because Taurus is an earth sign, but re-connecting with nature and doing some soul-searching can actually be of help - in order to gain that balance and let their sensuality naturally flow. Learning how to manifest and attract things the proper way is going to help them elevate themselves and always be a step closer to what they want and need. The energetic flow and letting it flow naturally is very important for this placement, forcing it to flow is also a trait of Lilith in Taurus because of the inherent shame they feel if it doesn’t. Working through the shame is also a very important thing which can elevate them and liberate them.

Lilith in Gemini

There is probably a blockage in the communication with these folk. An obstacle, difficulty communicating or just being straight-up misunderstood (or maybe even an unclear or disrupted communication with Universe/spirit angels/spirit guides whatever you believe in). When it comes to sex, these individuals might be into dirty talking, word-play, self-expression but due to the shame and/or repression they really disconnect from their bodies and concentrate all of their energy in their heads and get stuck in their heads and thoughts which makes them an absent sexual partner. Drawn/draws in damaged people, people with issues, because they have a storage of unhealthy thoughts, repressed feelings/thoughts and what-not themselves. These individuals just really need to come in terms with their intellect, how their mind works, liberate themselves by grounding themselves and objectively looking at themselves in order to come closer to first, becoming aware, secondly addressing the issues. Liberating and elevating yourself is really important. I’d even recommend (for all Lilith placements) working on or at least taking a peek into your chakra energies, blockages and how to heal them and balance yourself.

Lilith in Cancer

There is this initial shame for having/expressing/feeling emotions, it is either self-inflicted or they were shamed since they were younger for it. That probably created a trauma effect and caused these individuals to repress their emotions so they may even avoid emotional situations or situations which cause intense feelings altogether. With Lilith in Cancer there is a possibility the individual has experiences some traumatic events in their childhood or within their family/loved ones circle. Obviously, repressing emotions in that way does not work for the long haul, so in some cases with Lilith in Cancer emotions can burst up unexpectedly or sideways. Because of this they might even be prone to be sad, depressed or simply develop escapist tendencies. In regard to all of these issues, these individuals are prone to become needy and/or clingy partners, friends, parents.  Sexually, it is also hard for them, because they yearn for that deep connection with their partner but most of the time they are unable to attain that connection due to their unresolved issues, so they become disconnected from sex. Acknowledging, letting go of this control, releasing all of this baggage and repression is so freeing and liberating and the way to go for these individuals, the healthy way of course which is most likely through a creative channel, or just a channel which produces productivity and fruitful results. They really just want to feel connected and present, feel everything without fear and shame. Dealing with the past and facing it, addressing it can also help these individuals, because they might also have a tendency to cling to it.

Lilith in Leo

For these individuals wanting to be wanted, adored can indicate feelings of shame for the very same thing. That shame causes repression and causes them to, sometimes, go to many lengths for approval and recognition. There are two cases that go both ways on the spectrum, either these individuals will be attracted to people of power/status or will try to gain power and status. Lilith in Leo should be careful and be very aware of the thin line between their ego and their drive, because they are also very determined and that can manifest in bad ways if ego is involved. They can either lack self-esteem or be total narcissists. Healing and focusing on doing their thing, attracting adoration and feeling worthy will come naturally, because the people will admire them, look up to them and love them, and that will all result from them just being themselves authentically and going after what they want after being liberated and letting the natural flow of energy get at it.

Lilith in Virgo

Issues with perfectionism are main issues. These individuals deeply feel that they are filled with flaws and only give light to those flaws which results in them feeling shameful and restrict themselves in some way. They will try to attain perfectionism or never try anything because of how ashamed they are of their flaws. Because of it they sometimes feel so anxious and quit projects/on people/tasks half-way, they feel unprepared, they feel very low, that voice is constantly repeating ‘you are not ready’, ‘you are not good enough’ etc. Sexually they will either be obsessed with being perfect at it, focus on pleasing their partner fully and exclude themselves, or they are very stoic, cold and repressed when it comes to sex. In order to heal they need to have a greater understanding of how the Universe works, some deep soul-searching, realizing that perfection is impossible and even if possible then what? If you are perfect then there will be no room for improvement, growth and etc. Perfection is only an ending of everything. But it is impossible. They should focus on working on themselves tremendously, working on bettering, growing and improving themselves. Acceptance.

Lilith in Libra

Blockages in relationships arise as well as many issues surrounding relationships. This placement is a harder one to heal. Learning how to stand on firm ground, cherish your independence even in a bond/partnership/union. It is important to break away from toxic people and toxic relationships, either heal those toxic relationships, repair them, understand where you are feeling guilty, why you are feeling that way, look within. Explore yourself, where does the shame lie, you want to please everyone else but yourself, sacrifice yourself by putting everything on the line. Constant guilt that you are not doing enough for others, that you should do more. No. Do that for yourself, instead. Put yourself first, go inward, listen to your own voice, if necessary isolate yourself for a bit. When you charge yourself then you will be able to help others, only those worth it.

Lilith in Scorpio

Magnetizing, intense, smoldering, obviously it is a Scorpio placement. Lilith in Scorpio tend to be very self-destructive even if Lilith feels a bit comfortable here. It is very easily for these individuals to fall into rabbit holes, because they only want to go to the deepest of corners of whatever it is (whatever it their cup of tea), but sometimes going that deep can mean drowning, forgetting that you actually are a great swimmer and letting the waves of the depth drown you. Negative thoughts, fears are piling up and it is hard to exit that escapist route. As a fixed sign, this placement can hold a grudge and might be even a bit vengeful. But caring for themselves, breaking these patterns of repetition, breaking these patterns which cause them to escape which is unlike them will bring them steps closer to healing. They have the tendency to get over-attached among being self-destruct, which can destroy them if they do not work on releasing themselves from attachments.  Learning how to be okay with how life goes, with the journeys life has prepared for them, just to back off, get their claws off of everything and relax and sometimes even just observe. Trust the process. Trust the Universe.

Lilith in Sagittarius

These individuals are very restless and want to just break free from any chains they feel are upon them, they just want to burst out any barrier out of any bubble, and sometimes that can stir up problems in work/job/relationships/friendships etc. They just have this burning up need for independence and experiencing the world at its fullest and on their skin completely, without anyone preaching it to them. They are also very experimental, sexually as well. They will want to be with partners who are open to new things and are liberal. They are the ones who can do sex without a strong connection to the person, they know how to have fun. Lilith in Sagittarius need to learn that they can still be independent and nurture their independence while being committed to a relationship. They must not forget to take care of themselves individually, outside of a relationship. Because if they do not, the fear of being tied down, being denied freedom will always ring in the back of their mind. It’s kind of a false fear causing you to rebel or do reckless things that are not fruitful in the long run and might even make you cringe, you need to gain emotional stability without fearing it or being ashamed.

Lilith in Capricorn

These individuals have a fear of failure a constant self-put pressure or a pressure caused by societal norms, by looking at what others which are their age do and what they don’t do. They fear not catching up or not climbing any ladder at all. They can become slaves to their tasks/duties.  Even though they do not react well to failure they are very strong and can quickly get back on their feet again. Sexually they might be very dominant and want to be in control (mommy/daddy vibes lol) or will be very detached/cold. They might carry that feeling of duty, a responsibility to please their partner fully and create such a fulfilling and unforgettable sexual experience for their partner and it can become a constant burden. Healing can happen by these individuals actually taking responsibility toward themselves, taking care of themselves first and then paying attention to others.

Lilith in Aquarius

With Lilith in Aquarius it is totally visible that they stand out in some or another, they are unique and it might have been quite an alienating experience growing up or still. They feel ashamed for how different they are and how they cannot fit it or be accepted or be understood. It can be quite a lonely experience but also frustrating, and that is because these individuals want to be a part of a group, they want to belong, they want to be accepted, they want to be powerful with their gang and change the world. Growing up or just through life they might knock on the wrong doors couple of times. They can achieve healing when they start accepting themselves and their unique nature. Once they do that I really believe they will attract like-minded individuals who are also different and possibly are misfits of society. In that way they can be different together. All they need to do is accept their own differences without conforming. But I believe, because Lilith is about restrictions and repression, fear and shame, at one point in their life or another they might have tried to conform and make themselves like everyone else just to belong. But no, liberate yourselves by accepting yourselves, it is the most empowering you can do.

Lilith in Pisces

They are unsure, they doubt, they fear, they look at many alternatives finding the good things in every which makes it hard to be decisive, so they just turn it off and escape. They definitely have escapism tendencies. Sometimes in order to cope with trauma or uncomfortable experiences they just pretend those did not happen or do not exist by turning it off, but that is anything but good. Because that trauma keeps piling up without them addressing it or even being aware of it, which can cause the trauma to be let out in every field of their life. They must not allow it to come to that degree. Break the cycle, learn, grow, accept. I know it is easier said than done, especially with this placement which is prone to sadness/depression/anxiety. It is also important to learn moderation, therapy is also good if necessary. They also need to learn to love themselves and their life no matter how shitty it can get, heck it gets shitty for all of us. Gathering the courage and strength to face it head-on instead of retreating to a fantasy can be liberating and elevating for these individuals.