#male rope bondage
@turborider2: thank you! And sure thing, these are some of the sites I’ve found very helpful:
- Remedial Ropes (safety and starting out properly)
- A Passion Play (advanced traditional kinbaku picture tutorials)
- And this detailed FetLife post, with videos and infographics
@anon1: tying male bodied folks is pretty much the same as female bodied folks- for suspension it all depends on the individual’s strengths and weaknesses. The only times body type comes into play are harnesses that depend on a large chest to stay in place, and of course if there is specifically penis-tying. Unfortunately neither me nor my partner tie men– but I was given this excellent resource especially for bondage on male bodies(note the link is very NSFW!)
@anon 2: I love straight jackets! Just don’t have the funds right now.. one day though <3
@ectamorph: that was the tortoise shell bodysuit :) there are loads of versions of it, but here are two:
edit: oh, I think you might have been talking about this set and not the balloon one (which was the tortoise shell) – I actually won’t be doing a tutorial on the rope bunny tie because it didn’t turn out exactly as I’d intended. It’s sort of a part of a hishi, but was much harder to self-tie than I expected. Once I get better at it I’ll make a how to!
@anon3: I bought them locally at a kink event, but they’re available all over now– eBay, amazon, and etsy. Just search “pink bondage set”
@anon4: It’s definitely a tough call if you have very low body fat, or are extremely toned– there’s just less areas for the rope to “hook” onto.
One other way around it is to break the harnesses into two pieces: a chest piece and a lower piece. That way you have more movement without distorting the ropes quite so much.
Another way is to add more hitches right before the segments of the harness that come loose, to anchor them a bit more.
Idon’trecommend tying more tightly- you risk nerve damage in the extremities, and breathing issues if it’s too snug around the torso.
Some loosening, especially with decorative harnesses like we teach, is natural when you change positions, though.
@fallenangelwings13: thank you! ❤
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Round 2! Answers about shibari in seifuku, the illusive male bodied bondage guide, and easing into kink~
Anonymous: Do you know of any ties that look good while the tied person is wearing a seifuku?
Hazel: Yeah I’ve found that skirts get all scrunched up in bodysuit type rigs. I think two separate ties would be the cutest option…
Top:
Bottom (under the skirt):
Anonymous: Hey, I saw a earlier anon asking about male-specific bondage. This is a very NSFW PDF that covers cock and ball ties. Not super harsh, just kind of crotch ropes for them’s that got dicks. Google “bondage for cbt - tonyBuff” and it should be at the top of the page.
Hazel: Thank you! Here’s the direct link (nsfw!)
Anonymous: Hi there~! I love your blog and most of your tutorials are super easy to follow along with! I’m having problems with one of them though, the Weave Harness, I’m stuck on step 8. Would you ever consider doing a video to better explain how to do that harness?
Hazel: Thank you! Unfortunately we don’t have the time and equipment to do video right now, but I can explain step 8 a bit more:
The rope in your hands, if you’re at step 7, cross it over at your back, like you were tying it off in a knot at your spine.
Then when it comes back to the front, it’s up through the 4 bottom ropes, over, and down through the 4 bottom ropes again.
If I lose track of where a tie is going, I find it helps to trace 1 rope in MS Paint (or whichever program) with a bright colour so it becomes clearer.
I hope that helps!
Anonymous: Hey Hazel, I was wondering if you could help me out. My partner loves bondage, she adores the thought of being tied and being controlled.. However, she is pretty shy in terms of saying what she wants during sex. I have to figure it out, what feels good and what excites her. I have asked her before to tell me what she enjoys the most but she can’t get herself to tell me. I have ropes and a blind fold but I can never find a good way to incorporate them during sex.. ideas?
Hazel: If she’s not too shy, you could discuss it ahead of time. Some of the nervousness from talking about sex might be taken away if it’s in a more “here’s a list of things I like”, ‘clinical’ setting.
If that’s still too much, maybe role play? Get in a chat room, separated in real life, and cyber it up. The degree of separation between her and the screen might be enough for her to open up.
For starting out: blindfold first. The minute that goes on, you’ll feel a lot more free to try out some rope. The pressure to be sensual every minute is gone- but make sure to throw in a few caresses here an there so she knows you’re still present, even if you’re figuring out a knot or untangling :)
Anonymous: Hello I love your blog! Big question…I really want to bleach my rope white! Is there a tutorial you can share that teaches you??
Hazel: That all depends on what your rope is made of. Once you know that, give it a search. There are loads of professional fabric wranglers out there who know way more than me!
Anonymous: Hi Hazel~ Any advice for introducing a lover to shibari in the bedroom? (We’re both female, if it changes anything.)
Hazel: There’s two camps on this- the 'do it in the moment, when it feels right’ folks, and the 'talk about it before’ folks.
I’m solidly in the second one. I think that introducing something entirely new while having sex can result in some seriously uncomfortable weirdness. Even if the person is open to the idea of kink, its sudden appearance can be a bit shocking.
But discussion doesn’t have to be super scary 'time for a sit-down talk’.
My preferred method is pictures (no surprises there). I’ll show my partner a photo of something I like and just ask “what do you think?”
This leaves a lot more room for anything from a curious “looks interesting” to a graceful rejection “looks overly complicated”.
Hopefully some helpful tips in there, and another thank you to the anon who provided the male body bondage link!
♥ Hazel
