#masculinity
Have class, not Swag.
Rather be a knight, not a player.
People say to follow your passion, until you quit your job and make them envious.
Once you’re too successful, you become a reflection on other’s lives.
I remember reading such a good heartfelt and intellectual essay about how Frodo Baggins is basically a perfect protagonist and it was absolutely correct but the one part I vividly remember is that there was a section about how he was put down a lot when the movies came out because he showed weakness and by 2001 toxic masculinity terms that’s inherently homosexual and the essay went on to be like “if going forward despite your pain and struggle because you’re kind at heart is gay, gay people should be proud to have him” and like I know what the real point here was but when I read that I was like cheers I’ll drink to that bro we gay people ARE proud to have Frodo Baggins
¿Te comes ese plátano?
¿Con cuál de estos tres chacales cogerías todo este mes?
Tu tío con bulto grande te ordena ir a dormir o te coge en la madrugada
Elige a dos de estos chacalitos para coger toda la semana ¿A cuál de ellos eliges?
Tu primo el dominante te espera este fin de semana para tener sexo
I have noticed that my friends who are butch lesbians tend to be described as “more obviously autistic” or “typically autistic” and may be assumed to struggle more than my more feminine friends. (This doesn’t mean that they are veryfeminine. In men, it might just mean that they are not very masculine).
This is true no matter the gender of the friend, but it is especially true of feminine women.
I think this is because autistic traits are associated with masculine traits.
For example, my autistic friends who have an interest in things like coding, taking objects apart to see how they work, and “hard” sciences like physics are seen as “more autistic” than autistic friends who have an interest in crafting (which can be highly technical and mathematical), reading, and “soft” sciences like psychology.
Similarly, those who dress in a more masculine way apparently “appear” more autistic than those who dress in a more feminine way.
These stereotypes about autism and gender lead to negative assumptions about both groups of people: those who are judged as “more autistic” just because they are masculine might be judged to be less competent than they actually are, and those who are judged as “less autistic” just because they are feminine or not very masculine may struggle far more than people realise. Their struggles tend to be brushed off as a feminine sensitivity or fussiness. Anxiety and worry are associated with femininity, as is - unfortunately - attention seeking and manipulation.
Note: When I use the words “more autistic” I use them because this is how a lot of non-autistic people think of autism. I use it here to emphasise how simplistic and misguided these assumptions are about gender presentation and autism, not to condone the term.