It snowed again today; big, fluffy snowflakes. They fell for hours and are still falling now. But earlier, when the grass was still peeking through the white blanket accumulating on the ground, my mom and I went for a walk to get some fresh air.

As we were walking, we began chatting pleasantly about how easy it is to take each season for granted. Personally, I used to be very uneasy and displeased whenever summer approached, and for my mother that season was always winter. And honestly? I this past year has made me realize just how much I missed in life while thinking like that.

Because of the way I was thinking and the mindset I had chosen for myself, I was only seeing things how I wanted them to be and instead of for what they were. And when you look at anything through a lens of, “I wish things were this way,” you get stuck in an infinite loop of disappointment because obviously said thing isn’t going to fit in the perfect little box you’ve created in your mind.

This realization was why I’ve spent the last year being patient and observing things for what they are instead of what I want them to be. And what I found is that I became a lot more positive in response.

I wasn’t disappointed because I held no expectations to begin with. I wasn’t shocked and in distress when things suddenly changed because I wasn’t expecting anything to go as plan in the first place. I found myself more open, loving, and flexible than ever, and the only thing I actually changed about my life was that I changed one tiny aspect of my mindset.

It was a really cool experience to go through and was super beneficial in helping with a lot of the anxiety, depression, and other mental issues I’ve been dealing with for years.

If anyone would like me to make another post on exactly what steps I used to go about changing my mindset (because it’s not usually an easy-to-figure-out or immediate process), let me know!

For now, I love you all and wish you the best in each of your individual journeys and want to remind you that it is possible to heal from any wound. It just takes time, patience, and a little understanding. So be kind to yourselves, okay?

Blessed be, everyone!

Study in a brain-friendly way: Tips to enhance growth mindsets

1. Read about growth mindsets or watch an interview or film about what happens in your brain when you learn.
2. Remember that the aim of learning is to learn. It doesn’t always have to be fun. Being happy or enjoying what you are learning is certainly an advantage, but it’s not a dealbreaker. There is nothing wrong with a little discomfort while you learn. Don’t be put off if you don’t always enjoy learning; it’s really not important.
3. Note: making a mistake is a valuable lesson in itself. Most people don’t like making mistakes, but seen as a valuable lesson, mistakes take on a different meaning. You are, after all, learning. And if learning is important to you, mistakes become valuable.
4. Try to think of something that you are now better at than you were in the past. What was it that you found difficult, but which has now become easier? How did you achieve this? Thinking about this will put you into a growth mindset.
5. When you hear yourself saying ‘I can’t do this!’…….add ‘yet’

even if all you did today was put on a brave face, just know that i’m proud of you & many others are too

self-affirmation of the week

“I am worthy of love and joy.”

There will always be people who have something negative to say about the way you live your life, the way you dress, how you cut your hair, why you do what you do. Happy people don’t spread negativity - just remember that and keep doing you and making yourself happy.

Mia Munini

I think about death everyday. And now you’re probably like wow, that’s sad! But I think it’s the opposite. I remember everyday that this all can be over soon and that’s why I enjoy every moment to the fullest. Thinking about death doesn’t mean I want to die, it means I want to live the best life before that day comes.

-mia munini

Hey y’all.

It’s been a minute.

I’ve been struggling with my mental health and with things in my personal life. But I am back.

jaybnow.hr: Have you watched Ep 5: “The Weight of Leading GOT7” and Ep 6: “Def. Another Me, and…” of my Mindset Collection yet? Learn more about me through my life experiences and stories.

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Tips To Be Consistent

1. If it goes wrong, don’t give up, start again tomorrow
2. Check-in frequently with how you’re feeling
3. Find the best time of day
4. Regularly assess your priorities
5. Learn from when things go wrong
6. Make it part of your regular routine
7. Do a little bit each day, even if it’s tiny
8. Stay flexible to change
9. Tackle your task when you’re in the right mindset
10. Do be hard on yourself

What Do I Want To Learn Over The Next 6 Months?

How do I want to improve?

1. Understanding of who I am and how I work
2. Accept and understand others for how they are
3. Accept reality, circumstances, and other people
4. Increase in my self-love and worth
5. Better communication
6. Have better relationships with the people in my life
7. Manage self control: behavior, emotions, thoughts, perceptions
8. Adopt a growth in mindset
9. Improve my self-esteem
10. Increase in my courage and confidence 
11. Learn how to set boundaries for myself 
12. Respect the boundaries of others