i wrote a paper as a senior in high school about this and when tracking the unhealthy relationship symptoms i found this out too. fucking a.
THIS is a legitimate reason to think Twilight is problematic. Not “oooh, but it’s girly literature cause the vampires sparkle and all the teen girls are into Edward”. As funny as some of the sparkly vampires jokes are - and they really sometimes are - Twilight’s very unique take on vampires is the least of the series’ problems, yet this criticism gets heard a lot more than the criticism of people who have noticed that something isn’t quite right in the relationship between Edward and Bella.
I brought this up every chance I had when I was working with the youth theatre girls this summer. There was one in particular who was way gaga over Edward and how she wanted a boyfriend just like him, so I told her “Oh, you’d be ok with a guy who followed you everywhere, invaded your privacy, ignored your feelings, sabotaged your friendships, and isolated you from everyone you’ve ever loved? And nearly killed you on several occasions?”
And I literally watched the switch flip in her head.
This is why I hate the books, Edward scared the crap out me. He stalked her, broke her car many times, put her in danger, and so much more.
Which is why 50 Shades of Repetitive Abuse is even worse. Christian and Ana’s relationship (Which is of course based on Edward and Bella) has ALL OF THESE ISSUES, plus the added dangers of BDSM when placed in the wrong hands.
So yeah, my finale step in accepting myself is taking my own advice and feeling proud of the way I look by flaunting it. I am way happier looking at these photos and feeling genuinely beautiful than looking at a scale and getting excited when I loose weight. Weight is not a measurement of health, your self worth and definitely not your beauty. Let aloe your right to wear a bathing suit when it’s hot as hell! You earned that body, it’s beautiful because it belongs to you!
The perfect bikini body joke has been going around for while, just thought I’d contribute, not steal someone else’s joke :P
I interrupt your regular blogging schedule to introduce ^ this woman. That is all!
This is my son, Chester, who is nearly 4. He was invited to his friend Chloe’s birthday party today, the theme was prince and princesses. He asked if he could go as Sleeping Beauty, so I bought him a dress and put a cute little clip in his hair.
We arrived at the party to the following comments from the adults present: “Oh that is just cruel.”
“Why did you make him wear a dress?”
“Poor little man, what’s your mummy playing at?”
“He’s going to hate you when he grows up.”
“No way I’d let my son dress like a girl.”
The fact is, Chester is almost completely gender neutral. I let him wear what he wants, be it boys or girls clothes, and he plays with whatever toys he likes. This usually involves him holding tea parties while wearing his pink Minnie Mouse top, jeans and a tiara. The guests are more often than not a mixture of Winnie The Pooh characters, dinosaurs, Barbie, Dora and solders, and they’re usually transported in his favorite fire engine.
When my husband arrived at the party later on, he was subjected to endless ridicule from the other dad’s present about how I must keep his balls in my back pocket because otherwise he would have put his foot down and not allowed Chester out like that. Oh, and by the way, our other son dressed as Ariel. When my husband pointed out that the boys were happy, and the mother of the birthday child made a point of saying how wonderful she thought it was that we allowed them freedom of choice and expression, they then stopped talking about it to our faces and started muttering about us behind our backs.
Interestingly enough, not a single child said a word about their choice of costumes, other than to compliment Chester on his new dress.
it’s okay for you to like skinny girls with big boobs and a butt
it’s okay for you to like curvy girls
it’s okay for you to like heavier girls
it’s totally okay to like thighs or thigh gaps and big boobs or small boobs and big butts or little butts
what’snot okay is telling a woman that she isn’t beautiful or sexy because she doesn’t meet your personal body type preferences
FUCKING THANK YOU. LORD.
There will always be assholes that scold people for not fitting in their personal mould for attractiveness.
The big problem is otherwise well-meaning people who decide the only way to be happy with their/their partner’s body type is to disparage others or those who prefer others.
“Real women have curves.” No, real women have all sorts of bodies and who are you to say otherwise? Feel free to love your curves but don’t tell other women that don’t have them that they’re somehow “lesser.”
“Real men like meat, only dogs want bones.” Oh? So it’s not his right to decide for himself who he’s attracted to? He is somehow a worse person for preferring petite women?
The world will never be rid of the assholes who tell someone (man or woman) to lose some weight, eat a cheeseburger or undergo some sort of surgery as some overt critique of their body. Our only hope is to stop the good and kind people from doing it without thinking.
I’ve seen my share of “fake geek girl” shaming, and just thought having a Fairy Gamer Momma to come to the rescue would be nice. I know they exist, I’ve met plenty who are amazing and could beat my ass at any version of Mario Kart. Give the Gamer Momma in your life a big hug! :D
“Have you seen most of the plus-size sections out there? It’s horrifying. Whoever’s designing for plus-size doesn’t get it. The entire garment needs to be reconceived. You can’t just take a size 8 and make it larger. In my travels, I’ve been an advocate for larger women. I’ve been talking to designers, but only a half-dozen make an effort. Most say, ‘I don’t want a woman who’s a size 10 or 11 wearing my clothes.’ Well, shame on you! It’s not realistic
Love him.
“You can’t just take a size 8 and make it larger.”
Praise Jesus and all the saints for him saying this because damn, most “PLUS SIZED” clothing is fugly.
Amen. The plus sized clothing out there is crazy and makes me just…
I’m not surprised he said this. Ever since the first season, when they’ve had to do garments for everyday people who aren’t models, there’s always one designer (at the very least) who flips out as though they’ve never in their life considered that people who aren’t a size 0 might wear their clothes. Tim always looks at them like he wants to drown them in a lake.
You will never see us post a copy right Or anything close to one. We do not own anything we post. We may be in the pictures, and we may have posted the pictures, but we do not own them. A person can not own a picture.
Intellectual property rights do not exist. Don’t be a child
Sorry, I love the photos you two post but as a creative professional I find this sentiment not only off-base but actually somewhat offensive.
Having spent nearly $90,000 in education, equipment, and training for photography I can say with absolute certainty and without a shred of guilt that my images are MINE.
It’s sentiments like these that result in corporations outright stealing work from creative professionals for marketing purposes, leaving the artist, model and all others involved unpaid for their hard work and creativity.
If “intellectual property rights don’t exist” then art would be the first casualty. The often meagre finances scraped together by those that create enriching images for the pure love of art would disappear and the only ones to benefit from what art is created would be those who happened to first discover a profitable use for work they had no personal or financial investment in creating.
If you don’t care about the usage of your images, that’s fine, but don’t insist that I’m “a child” for believing the art I create is mine.
- Sex is fun, but not as important as movies/tv make it seem.
- Sex is fun, diseases are not. Use protection.
- Your virginity is not an on/off switch, you lose small bits and pieces of it as you try new things, there’s no need to rush into doing everything just to get rid of your virginity.
- Your virginity can be a cherished thing, or you can chose to ignore it, it’s really your call and no answer is “right.”
- Sex doesn’t need to be a solemn occasion. It’s a fun thing to do with someone you find awesome, feel free to treat it as such.
- It’s okay to not like a sexual act, even if it’s one “everyone does.” If you don’t like it, no one has the right to make you do it.
- Farting during sex is not as horrendous as you initially think, pretend you didn’t notice and your partner will likely do the same.
- You are GUARANTEED to make at least one stupid sound/face during your sex life, but the reality is no one cares if you got a little derpy while having fun.
- PORN IS NOT EDUCATIONAL! Porn is sex that looks good on film, not that goes well in the bedroom. Be exploratory, gentle and request feedback from your partner until you know how rough they personally like it. Do not start out on “jackhammer” mode.
This is an antique gown (1890s) on Etsy. The seller also has an original photograph of the woman wearing the dress.
Victorians actually wore bright colors. The sepia photographs are misleading!
Source: romanticcountry on Etsy
So when I say that a pattern or chair or curtains or whatever is horrible just remember that these are the kinds of colors it’s probably in. It probably looked 500x worse in real life than you think it does.
My grandfather’s viewing/Rosary/funeral was this week.
All of these things happened.
Mod announcement that this happened so life continues to be weird but irregularly scheduled posts will continue per usual in that they are irregular but existent.
I am back after a long break. I really needed that. My uni was taking a toll on my mental health. I hope everyone is staying safe. I’m still not feeling like my usual self, so please, bear with me.
