#queer theology
You are not worthless.
Now let me say it louder for the folks in the back:
YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS
Last month, my habit of scrolling TikTok paid off—I discovered the song “Creature” by Half Alive, which inspired me to preach a message on the nonbinary concept that we are haunted by original shame yet also holy.
I’ve posted the sermon here, and it’s also on the Sanctuary YouTube channel.
Here are the highlights:
- Your existence is “supremely good.” We have inherent value as human beings (Genesis 1:24-31, Genesis 3:21, Matthew 6:26-30)
- Your worth isn’t determined by the church. As children of God, we’re promised a seat at the table in the kingdom of heaven. (Romans 3:23-24, Galatians 3:26-28)
- Your humanity isn’t something you need to overcome. Jesus felt sadness, anxiety, and physical and emotional weakness—and if God incarnate allowed Himself to feel those things, we can, too. (Matthew 26:36-46)
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Some encouragement via @ohlawdthebirds - thank you, friend!
The God who sees me
Apostle Lee Ann posed a thoughtful question during Sanctuarytoday:What does Christ’s coming (either first or second) mean to you?
Truthfully, I’d never considered the personal significance of Jesus’ birth or future coming. But then I remembered what one of the other leaders said about Hagar—she named God El Roi, or “the God who sees me.”
Jesus is living proof that God sees me, and others like me.
Jesus not only surrounded himself with the outcasts of his society, he also called them to be part of his ministry. To show the world that God had a place at the table for people like them, and that not even the religious leaders could do anything about it.
As a queer, clearly gender non-conforming person living in the Bible Belt (the southeastern United States), I’ve dealt with rejection from friends I’ve known for many years, and I understand that I’m not actually welcome at many churches that claim “all are welcome.” Finding Sanctuary helped me find God again.
Despite the rejection that I’m experiencing, I find comfort in the fact that God sees me. Not idea of me, not the me that I could be—me, as
I am.
I don’t really celebrate Advent (and I’m not really a huge fan of Christmas). But if you celebrate, I pray that you find comfort in the fact that God is El Roi, and that God has a seat at the table for you.
[Image description: The Is He Though meme. The first line of the caption says, “CisHet Christians: Your only identity is in Christ!” The second line says, “Queer Christians,” with a reaction gif of Thor talking to Bruce Banner, saying “is it though?” End description.]
@ohlawdthebirds brought up an excellent point:
So oftentimes, when hearing church leaders talk about queerness and about how its a sin, I’ve heard the argument “Your identity should be in Christ, not your sexuality/gender identity.” I find this very ironic and somewhat hypocritical considering how many conferences, merch, books, and sermons are centered around being straight and cis (i.e. biblical manhood/womanhood, singles ministries).
And anyways, aren’t we made in God’s image? Are our identities something to be ignored, or something to be acknowledge? Why can cishet Christians openly parade (and dare I say idolize) their identities [while] queer people must divorce themselves from them?
This is also something I’ve been stewing on for a while. It didn’t occur to me until recently that I could embrace both identities without offending God.
For example: In Matthew 4, Jesus didn’t order the disciples to give up their identities in order to follow him. In fact, their personalities, backgrounds, and occupations influenced their ministry.
But back to the point.
I don’t think many cishet Christians realize that being cisgender and heterosexual isan identity, not the default setting for human beings. And that lack of awareness is why they tell us to tone down our queerness. To minimize ourselves. Because we don’t fit the mold.
But you know who Jesus called to be his disciples?
The outcasts. The oppressed. The “sinners.” Sound familiar?
TL;DR: Being a Christian doesn’t mean you have to downplay your sexuality/gender identity.
Embracing nonbinary theology
I just answered an ask about the Trinity, which boggles the minds of lots of Christians. What’s cool, though, is that doctrine like that proves that Christian theology can’t exist on a binary—the Trinity is not eitherthree beings orone, but both and.
Another nonbinary concept is the idea that we’re bothimperfect beings andsacred because we’re made in God’s image. I talked about this idea when musing on “Creature” by half•alive, and I’m planning to take a deep dive in my upcoming sermon for Sanctuary.
I’m excited to start exploring more nonbinary concepts!
I rode that hamster wheel for ten years before finally FINALLY coming to trust that yes, you can be gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer and a Christian, that being LGBTQ is a normal, natural part of the diversity of God’s creation.
But how do I know?
The Bible isn’t a rulebook (though some books in it have some rules meant for certain people in specific contexts). And the Bible doesn’t speak in a unified voice. It’s a collection of books written and compiled by countless authors, many of whom were drawing upon other oral and written traditions that came before them. In places, the Bible even contradicts itself.
Read the full article here.
But when the Bible talks about Pride the Bible is talking about people who lord their station over others. People who are oppressors and tyrants. People who think they speak for God. The Bible is talking about people who are cruel to others, who sow dissension, who don’t act in the best interest of the community.
Read the full article here.
The lesbian and gay Christian conversation (with occasional comments about bisexual and transgender folks) seems to finally be hitting its peak. Everywhere you turn these days there are new books and conferences and denominational statements. I’m observing some troubling trends within this LG(BT) Christian movement.
Read the full article here
If you’ve ever been to a Pride celebration you know that the people watching is fantastic! There are colorful outfits, elaborate costumes, cute kids, couples holding hands, and more. It’s lovely!
And there are no small number of people who are basically wearing nothing.
Just a couple of weeks after I returned home from the mission trip that changed everything, I packed up my stuff and started college at a conservative Evangelical college in the Midwest. The school rules were simple: no smoking, no drinking, no sex, and absolutely no dancing. Oh, and no gay people either. I still didn’t have language for my gender identity but I knew I felt completely out of place living in the girls’ dorm. I didn’t feel like I fit in with other people on my hall and I was worried that they would be weird with me if they found out I “struggled with homosexual tendencies” (as I was calling it).
As difficult as the summer was, I still felt called to ministry. I knew God wanted me to be working in the church. I declared a double major: Youth Ministry and Communications (with a theatre emphasis). I was going to learn how to reach people and make good art that would change things.
In college I made new friends who made space for my changing identity and beliefs. I made art that I was really proud of for the first time, art that asked questions instead of simply providing all of the answers. But I also grappled with mental health stemming directly from my struggles with my sexuality and from my shifting faith. It was a challenge and I didn’t feel like there was anyone I could talk to. I tried on campus therapy but quit as soon as the counselor brought up the way I dressed. It didn’t feel like a safe space.
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Blessings,
Fr. Shay
Two weeks after my Canadian wedding I started seminary at Union Theological Seminary in New York. It was the first place where I was able to spend every day as all of myself. Fully queer. Fully Christian. There was no apologizing for who I was.
Seminary was both trying and incredible. I was finally given the tools to understand my faith. I learned all of these things that had been kept from me in all of my evangelical schooling. I learned where certain doctrines came from and how there were a lot of different views on things I had always been taught were settled. Things like what salvation meant, what the death of Jesus meant, what sin was, and on and on. I learned about the history of various denominations which made what they believed make so much sense. I learned that nothing is formed in a vacuum; everything has a context.
Make no mistake, this was hard work. It was rigorous. It took effort and commitment. In some ways it would have been easier to not put in the work. To just walk away from Christianity. But there was something about this Jesus story that kept pulling me back in and made me want to find out if I could have a faith that was life-giving.
So I put in the work and it was was healing. But it also wasn’t over.
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Let me know what you think about this and what feelings it brings up for you!
Blessings,
Fr. Shay
Over the last couple of months I’ve gotten asked the same question multiple times: How do transgender people fit in with a belief in the “image of God” and the belief that God doesn’t make mistakes?…Your question assumes a couple of things: There is *one* image of God. There is a *right* image of God. We know what the image of God is. I find all of those things hard to believe.
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So let’s cut through all the noise, right? Let’s go straight to the source… let’s take a look at what the Bible says! That will tell us what to think and how to act, right? (Spoiler alert: it won’t)
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I hear this question a lot. The sense I get is that the asker is saying: “Can I still be a good and loving person and believe this way?” At least that’s the generous understanding. It could be coming from a place of “In this age of political correctness is it possible to hold a viewpoint that feels offensive to some people?”
The short answer is no.